By Jordan Skwarek, 2010-08-10
I am on the brink of true adulthood. Every decesion I make now will heavily influence the rest of my life.
"What do you want to be when you grow up?" I never had an answer. I've always felt that the American dream wasn't for me. Adulthood has always been a daunting face, staring me down at the end of the road they call childhood. I could never be happy working a 9 to 5 o'clock job just so I could afford a better T.V. and Bigger roof to hide the stars.
I've been recently digging deep and becoming truly who I am. Growing Dreadlocks and facial hair, eating organically, meditating, and being in Nature. This has really scared my father who thankfuly lives seperately from my mother.He is the epitome of a rich sucessful man, yet is one of the most unhappy, lost people I know in life. I truly feel sympathy for him, for I know he is learning the hard lessons in life. The one thing he always seemed to preach was "Nothing in Life is free" Ever since I was a small child I knew that must be a lie, yet could never prove him wrong.
This week, the most amazing knowingness dawned on me. The best things in Life are Free. The Earth can provide everything I need. I decided I am moving to Southern India to Live off the land and Fish from the Ocean. There I can Grow all my own organic food and fish from the sea. At night I can meditate under the stars and moon. At sunrise I will meet the Sunrise with Yoga. For recreation I can Surf the Indian Ocean and be one with Nature. This lifestyle could harbor many exotic animal friends and wise Sadhu Gurus. My Lifestyle will not only be accepted it shall be embraced. I will be living what my dad works 350 days a year just to taste, without working a day in my life. The Best things in life are free.
By Gary Charlesworth, 2010-08-10
Ok so I'm now on day 10, and I adore my dreads. Although I've only had them a short time, I couldn't imagine my life without them.I was a bit freaked out when I saw how fuzzy they were after the backcombing process, but since then I've grown to love the imperfections (thank fuck I don't look like johnny clean!)It's a really wierd thing though, before I had them done, i NEVER had ANY female attention (except my last girlfriend). Now, I'm getting checked out constantly. I was walking through London on day 2 and every girl I passed checked me out and we exchanged smiles! If only I had enough confidence to actually ask one of them out!Thats one of the reasons I started my journey, I have no self confidence at all. Dreads are certainly helping, but there is so much more i could do to build on that. For example, I'm looking at the Rainbow Hostel in Costa Rica. It looks wicked awesome, just need to save some money and I'm away! Although I've said that about so many things (traveling America and Europe; going to pro-wrestling school etc) and never done anything about it. And it all links back to... you guessed it, my self belief and confidence. I have started on one of my goals though. I started to learn piano at the start of February, and thats going REALLY well. My teacher says I'm progressing faster than expected.Work have been a bit funny with me though. On the whole people are supportive of my dreads, but I've been getting funny looks from my manager, and she looks totally pissed off all the time since I had them done. Although she cant say anything, cos I did discuss dreads with my Team Leader months beforehand.Anyway, onto the update of how my dreads are going...Really well.To say I had them backcombed, they're gunna look really natural. Some are really thick, some are really dinky. Most are bumpy, and they feel sooooo good! The ones at the back, and a couple at the front are starting to get pretty tight now, and I'm astonished at how quickly they're taking shape.I do have one on the left side of my head, which is gunna look freaky when it matures. It's REALLY fat at the roots, and then about half way toward the tip it just suddenly goes REALLY thin!I was impressed that I got a comliment from a rasta on the bus on day 3 though, that was highlight of the week!Anyway, thats about it. I'll update with photos at the weekend, and you can check out my vLog on YouTube @ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2jEvN72krP4
Enjoy!Peace & Love
I really hope to use this site as a way to track my dreadlock journey, in pictures, in blog posts, and in the friendships I make with other users.A friend and I braided my hair about 5 weeks before I started TnR'ing. I remember being nervous about other people's reactions. I had never braided my hair before, and I worried about negative comments, especially those with a tinge of racism. I worried that I would be harrassed for being a "white girl" sporting a "black hairstyle." Those fears came from growing up in rural Arkansas where residential segregation still exists and where I'm sure I heard those comments from people in my community.But you know what happened? I received more compliments on my hair the last 5 weeks than I think I had received in the previous 20 years of my life. And they came from many races, ages, and genders. How beautiful that made me feel! How confident!When I started locking my hair, I was not longer worried about what other people might think of my hair. Yeah, there will be messy days, funky days, crazy days, but I'm looking forward to all of them. I know this will be a journey, and I am so excited for the experience.I finally finished with the TnR last night. Today as I walk into my office building, one of the building administrators asked if I was dreading my hair. I told her yes, and she said, "Well, it looks really good!" I just smiled and said thank you. What a wonderful way to begin the day.
I sat and pondered the very existence of me, of the world,and the universe since I can remember. Still the answers are unclear all the riddles a bit fuzzy. Not because of a lack of since or a lack of self awareness. I feel strong in who I am and the science makes perfect since to me. The problem lie with the placement of me in life. I feel aware but alone in my awareness. I'm told that I am out of the box and my mind is far gone but my grasp on reality though different it feels firm. It feels right so why am I wrong for thinking different wasn't it different thinking that sparked all of mans innovations. Perhaps I should except that lifes riddles may never be solved.... but no that idea just seems to wrong I'm not so weak. Curiosity is simply my nature. I have a need to know why and what we are. Its the same need that has pushed so much of humans knowledge, but why isn't it more common around me. Why does everyone seem blind. Am I supposed to awaken them? Some times it seems like we are all apart of an elaborate system. Designed to hide the truth of what life is to keep its mysterious just out of reach. A constant stream of distractions are pumped into our homes by the second. Man no longer has morality for it seems morals where simply a limiting aspect. Instead now we have laws. A cage if we do not follow them. We as a people have lost touch in what we are so badly that this is what its come to. The system is now its own entity. A god if you will, and like a god the system has power over man. Complete control. It exist beyond any one man, and only a select few have the ability to affect it. Basically what I'm getting at with this statement is that the system has gotten to far out of reach. It no longer is for the people, but instead rules the people. As time depicts the creation will always destroy its creator. We have designed our own prison our own demise shall we sit and and allow it to take hold. The time grows nearer daily. It wont be long I fear before its to late. Man shalt take heed for the system will control. Freedom, our inner animals for thats all we are.... gone taken by the idea that grew to large. ~Vates~
By hippie mama, 2010-08-09
today my husband and i took our son Gauge to the doctor. we noticed that recently this cough he had was getting worse and worse and last night he scared us because he sounded like he was choking on the wetness his cough was producing. we also noticed that his cough was eerily simular to the commorcial for pertusis aka whooping cough. the couching so badly that they sound as if they are gasping for air in between each cough. not a pretty sound that you want to hear your two year old son having thats for damn sure. so as scared as we both were john and i decided to take gauge to the doctor today. after hearing the cough for herself Gauges pediatrician started him on the meds for whooping cough as a better safe then sorry scenario and we had to take him to the hospital to test him for the sickness. in this case they stuck a swab far into his nose and are sending it to be tested right away. we will know in 5 days or so if it was actually whooping cough. thankfully my sons pediatrician assured us that shes hopeful that it wont be she said the likeliness is about 25% chance but just the severity of the cough and already canceling out pnemonia she just wants be be sure since as of now there are no cases of it in our area although i have heard that its making a comeback unfortunatly. so lets hope he just has an upper respiratory thing instead of a severe sickness such as the previously mentioned. but even though gauge took his first dose of his medication today we have already seen a significant change in length between coughing and even just the sound of his voice. he slept for about 4 1/2 hrs today wich is about double the usual amount and he seems like hes on the fast track to a successful recovery no matter what he actually has. ill make sure to keep those of you who read this updated because i know that alot of you on here love my little dready toddler and even though most of you dont personally know him he touches everyone heart with his beautiful smile. i wish you all could meet him in person. hes one of those kids that just light up a room and create smiles on everyone he meets. hes so warm and generous and say such smart and entertaining things. hes definatley ahead of his time in so many ways. hes good at reading ppl and their moods as well as very intelectually advanced when it comes to speech, numbers, animals colors all of the above. i hear from so many diffrent ppl young and old how awesome and cute he is. he really is my sunshine as well as the light that shines on others aswell. i just cant think of one negative thing about him besides the fact that theres only one of him. but i wouldnt have it any other way. im definatly very proud to be his momma.
...WAX IS BAD (in my opinion)...wax is a sticky icky nasty substance i sadly used in my locks. i waxed twice. i didn't used not too much but it was enough to make my dreads stiff and kinda nasty. i shaved my head a few days ago sadly, but i have my reasons. but as an experiment i cut open a dread to see what it looked like inside...what i found was what other than some fucking gross black waxy shit. yeah i waxed twice washed my hair a hundred times at least and I HAD BUILT UP WAX ON THE INSIDE OF MY DREADS FOR OVER A YEAR. wax has no purpose in dreadlocks and never will. i'm actually upset with my self for using it. if there is anyone on this site who is considering wax and reading this i just wanna say this....i'm not going to tell you what to do. its your life do what you please. but i highly highly highly suggestion you don't wax your dreadlocks. i didn't think it would stay in my hair this long. thats pretty much it.
Ok, well I've decided to kind of give the natural dreads a go and see what happens. I'm still nervous about my internship in a year so I may not keep em. But I figure, I will go ahead and see if my hair will even dread. So right now, I just got out of the shower, I used Dr. B's peppermint (love it!) liquid soap. When I first got out of the shower, I was wondering about the way my hair felt. Almost a sticky, greasey feeling - but not really... I thought perhaps that it was because I've never washed my hair with a soap that leaves no residue and because for the first time since I can remember - I didn't use conditioner. Needless to say - I thought that I would be in trouble if I tried running a comb through it. My hair is silky straight, fine but thick so this is a true experiment.Anyway, as my hair is drying now, it is feeling less strange and more normal but I still wouldn't want to try running a comb through it! I hopped on DF to see about asking around and I should have realized I wouldn't need to. Of course there it was, someone had asked basically the same question and there were two pages worth of replies! HA! I completely forgot about rinsing with cold water!!! Oh well, next time, I suppose.If things move along as they are supposed to, I guess I will have to invest in some baking soda and av. I am a little overwhelmed at the moment with all the information on this site - I like to keep things simple. But I'm just beginning so I suspect that it will all become very clear to me as I progress.Done for now, I really need to finish my research paper and hand the bugga in. While I do that, my hair will be drying naturally (as I like to do) and we shall see how the knots begin to form. I wonder what my hubby will think of this.... lol!!!A
By owen thompson, 2010-08-07
whats happening fellow dreadies, so its been almost a month since i stopped combing my hair n almost 2 months since i got out the Marines letting my hair grow from bald (well close to it lol)..anyway so ive got my tea tree shampoo n jus been checking out how things been goin, ive noticed very slight knotting but mainly since my hair is still short its just been curling in some spots, and just fuzzin in others....my main thing ive wondered is the fact that i wear a baseball type hat most of the day at work, i can tell my hair has grown a bit but doesnt really look like it cuz the hat keeps it in this kinda smashed down kinda look lol, will this slow dreading down?
Okay, so I'm so psyched to be writing this, two weeks, woot! My family has pretty much stopped bugging me about it, except my one uncle said that they would find me in teh kitchen one day, chowin down on some bacon or something, when really, I don't like bacon..Soo, yeah. Anywho, There really isn't much to write, wait, I turned Nineteen yesterday, so that is pretty amazing really. I had a bunch of friends over, one of whom was my friend who really inspired me to get dreads in the first place, well, go through with getting them, I had always wanted dreads my whole life, but before I met her, I didn't really know if I would do them. I will add a picture of her and I down at the bottom, even though I kind of look bad. I re-connected with a really good friend of mine at my party, which was good because all we did was talk about religion and what not. Anywho, I have had problems with myself and the vegetarian diet. Someone preached scripture to me yesterday about how those who don't eat meat or un-wise or weak or something, and I didn't really know what to think about it, so I searched, and this is what I came up with, some of them contradicted each other, I will post two. As for the one who is weak in faith, welcome him, but not to quarrel over opinions. One person believes he may eat anything, while the weak person eats only vegetables. Let not the one who eats despise the one who abstains, and let not the one who abstains pass judgment on the one who eats, for God has welcomed him. Who are you to pass judgment on the servant of another? It is before his own master that he stands or falls. And he will be upheld, for the Lord is able to make him stand. One person esteems one day as better than another, while another esteems all days alike. Each one should be fully convinced in his own mind. ... - Romans 14:1-23 That one was a little blah, and then here is this one that kind of contradicts that one...And God said, Behold, I have given you every plant yielding seed that is on the face of all the earth, and every tree with seed in its fruit. You shall have them for food. - Genesis 1:29 So you see what I'm talking about? But honestly, this first one doesn't really bother me, because I feel that becoming a vegetarian is something that I need to do, something that I am supposed to do, you know? I just feel it within me that this is what I am meant to do, to be...If that makes any sense at all...It is really the same way with dreads actually, and about the person that I strive, and am becoming to be, it is all a part of my journey, i guess? Well, I am done for now, I will be recording a video shortly about my dreads, maybe tonight! See y'all later!
By Lexiloubox, 2010-08-06
I decided yesterday, driving home in traffic while talking to a girlfriend of mine. She was considering shaving her head and starting again. Her and I are both biracial and have been putting product (relaxers) in our hair for years now and are completely tried of all the chemicals and work that having relatively tame hair on a day-to-day basis.I said something about dreads and how I'd dread my hair before I'd shave it all completely off. That I don't have the head for it to be completely shaved and how I'm just not that brave. She was saying how dreads aren't for her. How they don't fit her personality and may not look as nice with her face.We agreed that we may have found the best options for each of us and she told me how her and her girlfriend's had decided or considered to do this together. I thought it was great that she had that kind of support and someone/s to share in the experience.Before I do anything in life I always research it. Find all the information I can in books, articles, online, and by word of mouth to make sure I'm making the right decision.Everything doesn't require this type of decision making, but if I'm making a lifestyle choice for my hair, then it definitely does.In my search I found Jonny Clean (if that's what he's called, I'm not 100% sure) which lead me here. The kind man that runs this site lead me away from the messages he was putting out about dreads, products, maintenance,and beginning. I'm glad I watched some of Jonny's videos and saw his site. Although I wouldn't be following what he practices, I did learn a great deal from reading his site and watching his vlog. It's always good to see many sides of a story/experience/decision.I will continue to research and try to gather as much information I can about dreads before I dedicate my hair. I am extremely excited. I would start tomorrow if I had the time, energy, and know-how.I will wait AT LEAST 2 to 3 months before I begin. I want to have new natural growth in my hair. Right now I have literally been putting relaxer in my hair since I was about 16 years, 8 years of non stop product. My body and my hair deserve a break. At the very end of May I did keratin straightening in my hair and so on top of it being relaxed there is more product in it. Although the keratin is more natural than the relaxer, it's still product in my hair.I don't even fully remember what my hair is life naturally. It's like women who color their hair constantly and don't remember or know what their natural hair color is. Same thing. Straightening, blow drying, relaxing, and just generally hair wear and tear have taken their toll on what was once beautiful and natural.I don't think I'll have too much difficulty with my hair being thick enough to catch, although I am very nervous about the method that I will use to start my dreads. I've read many things and neglect isn't something I'm comfortable with. I know when it grows out it will get a little nappy and difficult, but I cannot see myself neglecting my head.Twist and Rip is probably. What everyone declares as "natural" is the best way, but I want uniform, straight, well kept dreads. That is the style that suits me. I'm pretty sure they'd be considered boring to a community of people who love their dreads, but part of who I am, uniform and deep down maybe even a little boring. I'm super happy with who I am at this point in my life. I read somewhere that if you make your dreads all the same size and shape etc that the one that isn't similar to the others will be your favorite. That sounds great to me, one different one, no problem. I need to look clean, professional, and well kept. That's me. I'm not manic, crazy, or even unique.My personality says it all. I need my outward appearance to be crisp and nice. I don't want to be prejudged or sending out the wrong message considering I will have kids, parents, a husband, and a career to consider. I do not want to stack any deck against myself for a hair choice. I'm a plain jane. I have never wanted to stand out or be different generally. I know I am not the same as everyone else and love my individuality, but at the same time, I do not want to stop traffic, case double takes or unnecessary amounts of questions about 'look'.I love my hair and am truthfully worried I'm going to miss running my hands through it, straightening it, etc, but how often do I actually do that? The option to do it is there, but I never take it. I don't really straighten my hair anymore and I don't do very much with it to start out with. Dreads wouldn't be limiting my options, but just changing them.That's all for now. Forum time!