Today marks exactly 2 weeks since I started the dreading process. It has been fun so far but I DO have my mix of good days and bad. Today is a bad one. My head looks like a wrestling match between straight long hair against knotted hair. It's a cross between cave-man and burned-out rock star. UUUGGGHH. Anyone who has been through this will tell ya, "relax man, its all part of the process. Takes time dude".The hardest part is trying to separate the dreads to prevent "crossovers" of hair and developing a congo entwinement. Dreadlocks, as they mature will be much less hassle and maintenance free for the most part, but I still have about 9 months (with luck) to go. On a positive note, my dreads have tamed down quite a bit and I don't have as much of an afro of dreads so much as I did a week ago. I wear a tam most of the time when I'm out and about and take it off when I am at home. I can only hope my new place of employment will allow me to wear it as I teach during the day. If not, I am sure they will change their mind upon seeing the WWF match going on, on my head. Let's hope that the dreads win over the loose straight hair!Here's to a dreadful, natural beginning!(pictures will be posted soon and all smart-ass remarks are expected).
Yeay! Ok, yes, I probably should not have spent the money, but I figure the oils, butter, and stuff I just bought will last me quite a while so... should be worth it. I also bought a big box of baking soda and some apple cider vineger (how do you spell that???). My new tams came in today - I bought this gorgeous one with purple and a kind of grey marbley color, and I got one that is white, a goldish-yello and blu. And to my surprise, the person who made them added a free one to boot! A really nice tan, burgandy, and olive colored one. All wool - but they are sooo soft, they don't feel like wool! Anyway, all I need are the dreads! lol! I contacted my friend who does my hair and she sounthoded excited about the prospect - we just got to find time to get together. I've been not-combing and using Dr. B's peppermint liquid soap but no tangles yet. 'm looking a little shaggy tho - lol!So I'm still very nervous about how prospective employers are going to take my dreads. I should be into my internship about a year from now and I am hoping that they will have grown to be presentable by then. Please pl ease please tell me they will be presentable by then!!!! My hair is all different lengths right now and when I put my baby dreads in (don't worry - not using any products - just twist and rip and some beads) Oh! My gohuodness! I forgot I bought some really beautiful beads too! Anyway, once I get the dreads in - I know I will look a bit like a porcupine for a bit because my hair length - already a bit short for my taste - will shorten even more. >sigh< So I'm expecting that - which is why I'm glad my tams already came in.Told my hubby I was gonna do this and he rolled his eyes. Don't get me wrong, folks, the man is great. In fact when we met his head was shaved all around except for a hairlock on top- which had a couple of dreads in it. We've been married 10 years, and the poor boy has mellowed a bit - heehee! Oh well. In some ways I've gotten more adventurous and in some ways I've mellowed too. That is life, is it not?
So I hope it will all work out, my only concern is - again my employability. Hopefully I won't have to shave my head again in a year.A
By Mudas Dreadnought, 2010-08-13
By Jeffree Vega., 2010-08-11
Okay, so for the past 19 months I've been suffering from peurperal psychosis (a rare and extreme form of post natal depression). 8 days after she was born, I was sectioned and then a couple of days later I got moved to a mother and baby mental health unit so that my daughter could be with me. We were there for three months. On the day we left, we were promised so much help, which lasted all of 3 weeks. Over this time I've tried numerous medications, relaxations and even going natural, but nothing seemed to help. I've basically been trapped in my hown, and my own thoughts, for nearly two years now.3 months ago I was put on a new medication and from the first day I took it, I could feel the difference. I was more upbeat, more positive. I even wanted to start going out again. That was a huge step forward for me as the outside world seems so daunting and fearfull.Today, that isn't the case.I've felt it building up over this past week, but today it has all came crashing down on me again. I just want to cry. Bury myself in my sadness. Crawl under a rock. Anything to get away from it all. I'm finding it hard to cope with Georgia too. It's like she's finding every little thing she can do to make me feel worse. Of course, I don't take it out on her. I never would. But it can be very grating to keep myself together when all I want to do is scream and wollow in self pity.The loneliness is a great deal of my problem too. I feel like I'm on my own. No one to talk to. No one to help me try and focus on something other than my thoughts.It's hard when your family doesn't understand either. They all think I should be fine by now. That I should just put a smile on my face and get on with it. Like that's going to make all the sadness, anxiety and anger melt away. I'm sorry, but it doesn't work like that. I couldn't even remeber the last time anyone came to give me a little help. As selfish as it sounds, neither of my sisters work so where is the harm in helping out a little? I've always helped them in times of need. Especially when it comes to their children.I'll go for now. Try and get through the day without breaking, but it was good to get some things off my chest.
By Jordan Skwarek, 2010-08-10
I am on the brink of true adulthood. Every decesion I make now will heavily influence the rest of my life.
"What do you want to be when you grow up?" I never had an answer. I've always felt that the American dream wasn't for me. Adulthood has always been a daunting face, staring me down at the end of the road they call childhood. I could never be happy working a 9 to 5 o'clock job just so I could afford a better T.V. and Bigger roof to hide the stars.
I've been recently digging deep and becoming truly who I am. Growing Dreadlocks and facial hair, eating organically, meditating, and being in Nature. This has really scared my father who thankfuly lives seperately from my mother.He is the epitome of a rich sucessful man, yet is one of the most unhappy, lost people I know in life. I truly feel sympathy for him, for I know he is learning the hard lessons in life. The one thing he always seemed to preach was "Nothing in Life is free" Ever since I was a small child I knew that must be a lie, yet could never prove him wrong.
This week, the most amazing knowingness dawned on me. The best things in Life are Free. The Earth can provide everything I need. I decided I am moving to Southern India to Live off the land and Fish from the Ocean. There I can Grow all my own organic food and fish from the sea. At night I can meditate under the stars and moon. At sunrise I will meet the Sunrise with Yoga. For recreation I can Surf the Indian Ocean and be one with Nature. This lifestyle could harbor many exotic animal friends and wise Sadhu Gurus. My Lifestyle will not only be accepted it shall be embraced. I will be living what my dad works 350 days a year just to taste, without working a day in my life. The Best things in life are free.
By Gary Charlesworth, 2010-08-10
Ok so I'm now on day 10, and I adore my dreads. Although I've only had them a short time, I couldn't imagine my life without them.I was a bit freaked out when I saw how fuzzy they were after the backcombing process, but since then I've grown to love the imperfections (thank fuck I don't look like johnny clean!)It's a really wierd thing though, before I had them done, i NEVER had ANY female attention (except my last girlfriend). Now, I'm getting checked out constantly. I was walking through London on day 2 and every girl I passed checked me out and we exchanged smiles! If only I had enough confidence to actually ask one of them out!Thats one of the reasons I started my journey, I have no self confidence at all. Dreads are certainly helping, but there is so much more i could do to build on that. For example, I'm looking at the Rainbow Hostel in Costa Rica. It looks wicked awesome, just need to save some money and I'm away! Although I've said that about so many things (traveling America and Europe; going to pro-wrestling school etc) and never done anything about it. And it all links back to... you guessed it, my self belief and confidence. I have started on one of my goals though. I started to learn piano at the start of February, and thats going REALLY well. My teacher says I'm progressing faster than expected.Work have been a bit funny with me though. On the whole people are supportive of my dreads, but I've been getting funny looks from my manager, and she looks totally pissed off all the time since I had them done. Although she cant say anything, cos I did discuss dreads with my Team Leader months beforehand.Anyway, onto the update of how my dreads are going...Really well.To say I had them backcombed, they're gunna look really natural. Some are really thick, some are really dinky. Most are bumpy, and they feel sooooo good! The ones at the back, and a couple at the front are starting to get pretty tight now, and I'm astonished at how quickly they're taking shape.I do have one on the left side of my head, which is gunna look freaky when it matures. It's REALLY fat at the roots, and then about half way toward the tip it just suddenly goes REALLY thin!I was impressed that I got a comliment from a rasta on the bus on day 3 though, that was highlight of the week!Anyway, thats about it. I'll update with photos at the weekend, and you can check out my vLog on YouTube @ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2jEvN72krP4
Enjoy!Peace & Love
I really hope to use this site as a way to track my dreadlock journey, in pictures, in blog posts, and in the friendships I make with other users.A friend and I braided my hair about 5 weeks before I started TnR'ing. I remember being nervous about other people's reactions. I had never braided my hair before, and I worried about negative comments, especially those with a tinge of racism. I worried that I would be harrassed for being a "white girl" sporting a "black hairstyle." Those fears came from growing up in rural Arkansas where residential segregation still exists and where I'm sure I heard those comments from people in my community.But you know what happened? I received more compliments on my hair the last 5 weeks than I think I had received in the previous 20 years of my life. And they came from many races, ages, and genders. How beautiful that made me feel! How confident!When I started locking my hair, I was not longer worried about what other people might think of my hair. Yeah, there will be messy days, funky days, crazy days, but I'm looking forward to all of them. I know this will be a journey, and I am so excited for the experience.I finally finished with the TnR last night. Today as I walk into my office building, one of the building administrators asked if I was dreading my hair. I told her yes, and she said, "Well, it looks really good!" I just smiled and said thank you. What a wonderful way to begin the day.
I sat and pondered the very existence of me, of the world,and the universe since I can remember. Still the answers are unclear all the riddles a bit fuzzy. Not because of a lack of since or a lack of self awareness. I feel strong in who I am and the science makes perfect since to me. The problem lie with the placement of me in life. I feel aware but alone in my awareness. I'm told that I am out of the box and my mind is far gone but my grasp on reality though different it feels firm. It feels right so why am I wrong for thinking different wasn't it different thinking that sparked all of mans innovations. Perhaps I should except that lifes riddles may never be solved.... but no that idea just seems to wrong I'm not so weak. Curiosity is simply my nature. I have a need to know why and what we are. Its the same need that has pushed so much of humans knowledge, but why isn't it more common around me. Why does everyone seem blind. Am I supposed to awaken them? Some times it seems like we are all apart of an elaborate system. Designed to hide the truth of what life is to keep its mysterious just out of reach. A constant stream of distractions are pumped into our homes by the second. Man no longer has morality for it seems morals where simply a limiting aspect. Instead now we have laws. A cage if we do not follow them. We as a people have lost touch in what we are so badly that this is what its come to. The system is now its own entity. A god if you will, and like a god the system has power over man. Complete control. It exist beyond any one man, and only a select few have the ability to affect it. Basically what I'm getting at with this statement is that the system has gotten to far out of reach. It no longer is for the people, but instead rules the people. As time depicts the creation will always destroy its creator. We have designed our own prison our own demise shall we sit and and allow it to take hold. The time grows nearer daily. It wont be long I fear before its to late. Man shalt take heed for the system will control. Freedom, our inner animals for thats all we are.... gone taken by the idea that grew to large. ~Vates~
By hippie mama, 2010-08-09
today my husband and i took our son Gauge to the doctor. we noticed that recently this cough he had was getting worse and worse and last night he scared us because he sounded like he was choking on the wetness his cough was producing. we also noticed that his cough was eerily simular to the commorcial for pertusis aka whooping cough. the couching so badly that they sound as if they are gasping for air in between each cough. not a pretty sound that you want to hear your two year old son having thats for damn sure. so as scared as we both were john and i decided to take gauge to the doctor today. after hearing the cough for herself Gauges pediatrician started him on the meds for whooping cough as a better safe then sorry scenario and we had to take him to the hospital to test him for the sickness. in this case they stuck a swab far into his nose and are sending it to be tested right away. we will know in 5 days or so if it was actually whooping cough. thankfully my sons pediatrician assured us that shes hopeful that it wont be she said the likeliness is about 25% chance but just the severity of the cough and already canceling out pnemonia she just wants be be sure since as of now there are no cases of it in our area although i have heard that its making a comeback unfortunatly. so lets hope he just has an upper respiratory thing instead of a severe sickness such as the previously mentioned. but even though gauge took his first dose of his medication today we have already seen a significant change in length between coughing and even just the sound of his voice. he slept for about 4 1/2 hrs today wich is about double the usual amount and he seems like hes on the fast track to a successful recovery no matter what he actually has. ill make sure to keep those of you who read this updated because i know that alot of you on here love my little dready toddler and even though most of you dont personally know him he touches everyone heart with his beautiful smile. i wish you all could meet him in person. hes one of those kids that just light up a room and create smiles on everyone he meets. hes so warm and generous and say such smart and entertaining things. hes definatley ahead of his time in so many ways. hes good at reading ppl and their moods as well as very intelectually advanced when it comes to speech, numbers, animals colors all of the above. i hear from so many diffrent ppl young and old how awesome and cute he is. he really is my sunshine as well as the light that shines on others aswell. i just cant think of one negative thing about him besides the fact that theres only one of him. but i wouldnt have it any other way. im definatly very proud to be his momma.
...WAX IS BAD (in my opinion)...wax is a sticky icky nasty substance i sadly used in my locks. i waxed twice. i didn't used not too much but it was enough to make my dreads stiff and kinda nasty. i shaved my head a few days ago sadly, but i have my reasons. but as an experiment i cut open a dread to see what it looked like inside...what i found was what other than some fucking gross black waxy shit. yeah i waxed twice washed my hair a hundred times at least and I HAD BUILT UP WAX ON THE INSIDE OF MY DREADS FOR OVER A YEAR. wax has no purpose in dreadlocks and never will. i'm actually upset with my self for using it. if there is anyone on this site who is considering wax and reading this i just wanna say this....i'm not going to tell you what to do. its your life do what you please. but i highly highly highly suggestion you don't wax your dreadlocks. i didn't think it would stay in my hair this long. thats pretty much it.