By Gary Charlesworth, 2011-01-09
By Gary Charlesworth, 2010-12-20
I am now half way through my 4th month of dreading. I've seen more progress in my dreads over the past 3 weeks than the whole of the 4 months.
I've started noticing some matting as well as knots and it's got me really excited.
I'll post some pics when I can get some, or just upload to YouTube.
I've got some weird ass congos going, mainly because I can't be bothered to separate. One of the main reasons I started was so I didn't have to do ANYTHING to my hair. Some of these congos are gunna be phat with a capitol PH! There are now loads of loops, kinks and so on.
When I had them backcombed in the tips were too fine to backcomb, so they were left. The tips are now dreadding quicker than the main body. Although I'm not without problems. The roots just don't like it! The sections are now flat straight lines instead of the nice square sections from when it was backcombed. But I don't think it's really noticable, so it doesn't really matter!
I did have a friend of mine telling me that dreads don't work without wax, I soon put him in his place by telling him that there are many methods to dreadding and wax just sux! "But it'll get rid of the loose hairs." why do people without dreads think they know more about dreads than people with them? Thats like me telling a fish monger that he should fillet with a spoon and not a knife, that way it's round!
Thats about all for now.
By Gary Charlesworth, 2010-11-21
It's been a strange week.My best friend from school has stopped talking to me over a throw away comment referencing an earlier facebook status from his ex-wife. Sounds confusing...? It is!Let me take you back to the turn of the century... (that sounds ages ago... but was only 10 years!)Some of you may know this already, but I went to school in Germany for 4 years, due to my dad being in the air force. As I was starting my fourth year there, I realised I was pretty much on my own. The friends I made in the 3 years previous had all moved back to the UK or left school. So essentially, I had to start networking again!I made friends with a group of guys I sort of knew-ish, and it was about this time I fell in love.I would have gladly given the world to this girl, and I still would. Although we've drifted apart and not seen or spoken in years, she is the only person I will ever truly love.Anyway, I digress...One of this group of friends (Matt) went on to become my best friend. We started a band together, and were pretty much inseperable.Matt was going out with a girl called Ana. throughout my last year at school Matt and Ana were on/off all the time, thanks to a guy called Lee.Lee was a twat! A highly strung ball of pur emotion. He stole Ana away from Matt, and Matt took it badly. And he and Lee didn't ever get on.Anyway, the girl I fell in love with was Zoe. She never loved me back of course, but I did everything I could to make her happy. I would have done anything to see her smile. It reminded me of a pinball machine when you win a bonus game, lighting up her face in a crecendo of beauty.Me and Zoe never got together, no matter how much i wanted it!So, I left Germany and we all kept in touch for a while. Matt and Ana split up properly, and Lee moved away as well.Anyway a few months later I get a call from Matt, and he tells me that he and Zoe have got together. Obviously this completely crushed me, but as long as Zoe was happy, I didn't let on. Weeks, Months and Years past and we all lost contact. That was until the dawn of Facebook.When I first used facebook, I found Matt and Zoe, and found out that they got married and were still in Germany doing this and that. I messaged them but recieved no reply. So I let it go.Anyway a few weeks ago Zoe reverted to using her maiden name, and I found out that they split. The next thing I know Zoe is on Facebook calling Matt a coward and liar and any name under the sun!The a few hours later I read this:"Apparently the best way to tell your wife you're in a new relationship is to put it on Facebook to humiliate them in front of their family and friends."Obviously, me being concerned, I commented on this by saying: "So not only a liar and coward, but also a rotter a scoudrel and a cad! If you need a chat you know where I am."Because of this comment, Matt has now blocked me. That to me is an admision of him being a bounder and a cad. At this very point in time, I couldn't care less that he blocked me. What I do care about is how he betrayed Zoe. I now no longer consider him a friend and have no time for him at all.The message I want to send to Zoe is this:"Although you may not be having a great time right now, I want you to know that my love for you is as strong as the love of Odesyus for Penelope. I know we can never be together as you don't feel the same about me. I want you to know that although life seems bad now, you WILL find happiness. And I will make it my ongoing quest to make sure of that. I just wanted to let you know that there is someone who will always love and care for you. You own my heart, and whenever you need someone, your call is all i need to be at your side. I will fight, kill and die for you if you give the word, and anyone who crosses you will be damned at my hands. You are the one shining light in my life, and I give my word that your light will not be extinguished."I chickened out and didn't send it!I know it sounds weird that I never got over a girl i never went out with at school, but I think this could have something to do with why I have no luck with the ladies now. Everyone I meet I compare to Zoe. And they never meassure up.Maybe I need to let go.But how...?There's only one way to find out...
By Gary Charlesworth, 2010-10-19
I finally got round to having some guys over for a jam session. It didn't go that well. The guy I got to play bass basically just tuned up, stayed for an hour then made some excuse about going to help a friend assemble some furniture! Obviously the music doesn't flow with him!The guy I had for accoustic guitar is a great musician. Unfortunatly his style of playing is so soft, you can't hear him over anything else! It would have been easier if his guitar stand hadn't decided to eat his electro-accoustic.We got half a track recorded, and it wasn't really that good.But I could still feel the music flowing, so yeaterday and today, I secluded myself from the world and recorded a cool song in 3/4 timing.I've never written or recorded in 3/4 so had no idea what to expect. But it turned out pretty good.I put a dreamy sort of guitar effect on the main guitar and put a distorted guitar over that to give a bit of ooomph. It gave it a bit of depth. And the bass over it makes it a bit more complete.The drums were done on my keyboard. I don't play drums, and it's quite difficult to write drum parts in 3/4, when everything you own is designed to play in 4/4. So I did them on the keyboard. They don't sound too bad, some parts could be better (the third chorus I somehow forgot I had a snare to work with!)The interesting part though, is the vocals. I did the first take and screwed up the third verse. Instead of recording over what I already had (which I always do) I did a separate take on another track with no screw ups, but had left the other vacal track on as well. The result, quite by accident, is really cool! So I did a re-take of the first vocal take, put one slightly to the left, and the other slightly to the right.The lyrics remind me a bit of Working Class Hero by John Lennon with a bit of Norwegian Wood by The Beatles thrown in for good measure. Well I say remind me of, I was just thinking about those two songs when I was writting. I'll post the lyrics another time if people want me to.Go check it out... I call it A Room With A View. It's at www.myspace.com/garyindianauk
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did writing it. And I'm not saying that as a cliche, I actually mean it! I can still feel the mojo working as well, so expect more tunes to be uploaded soon!On the dread front, I found a mental loop forming on one of my tips, I'll post a photo when I can!
By Gary Charlesworth, 2010-09-27
Ok so today's been a bad day.My dreads are fine, and tightning nicely. But thats not why it's a bad day.For the past 4 years, i've been single. To start with I was fine with that. I had no one to answer to and I could do my own thing. Recently though, things aren't that good.About a year ago I decided that I needed a companion/lover/girlfriend. This sounds easier than it actually is.I've tried speed dating, internet dating, singles nights, going out more, going out less. In fact I've tried everything. And how many girls have shown an interest? None!I 4 years of being single I have had no physical or mental intamacy with anyone. And this is starting to get me down. I would have thought there would be SOMEONE who would be interested in me. But no.If ever I try and talk to a girl in a bar or at a party, I just get blanked, they walk away, and I'm left bursing a beer and spending the rest of the night alone. This then gets me thinking if there's something wrong with me.All of my friends (except maybe one or two, who are single because they just get stoned all day) are in relationships or married, so it's not as though I have a wing man to help out!Am I doomed to spend the rest of eternity on my own, or will I finally find someone who just wants to hang out and have a good time? Only time will tell, and I guess tomorrow never knows. Until then I'll just muddle through and hope my life gains some sort of direction soon!
By Gary Charlesworth, 2010-09-13
Ok so my last post was about 2 weeks ago, and since then my head has become this whole crazy jungle of loose hairs and knots trying their damndest to become dreads.One of my roots has split in two, so I have two roots coming together into one tip. The gap is so big that i can fit my thumb through it. I've repositioned beads to help it along so it should all work out!On the whole though they're going good, and for the first time in my life I'm happy with who I am. Now thats a strange feeling I've never had before, and I intend to use it.I have 2 years to plan something to do with my life. Travelling is the favourite. So I think I'll do that.This time in 2 years I want to have passed my driving test, quit smoking (tobacco, not weed,) and got fitter. I havent really done any proper exercise in about 8 years, so that one could be a struggle. But thats where I wanna be. I have a lot of work to do but i'll get there eventually.Photos will follow, I know I said that last time but they will be coming in a few minuets... I promise!
By Gary Charlesworth, 2010-09-01
Ok so it's been an eventful month. I started the month with frizzy sideshow bob hair, and ended it with fully mature dreads...... ... ......Ok so I lied there, but I'm just THAT excited. I can see changes in my hair everyday though. In my last vLog (somewhere in Member Timelines) I mentioned a knot in on of my tips. Since then I've found 2 more, on front dreads. These 2 little knots are wonderful guys. They knotted near the end of the tip, sandwiched between loose tip hairs. Since these knots formed the end of the tip hasn't changed, but the rest of the tip is dreadding nicely. Almost better than the origional backcombed part.I do still need to find a new sleep position. The dreads on the side I sleep on are folding back on themselves at the roots. They also seem to be tightning up more than the other side.And so to the rest of the eventful month...If there are any WWE fans on here, we were reminded of the infamous Katie Vick storyline (thanks CM Punk, I really needed to remember that one!). For those unaware goto
-- Looking back on it, it wasn't that bad, but at the time... Damn! Oh and BTW Viewer Discretion is advised, this segment is not suitable for younger viewers. It's a bit sick!I saw Piranha 3D... Seriously, I know it looks like a pile of crap, but it's REALLY funny. And boobs in 3D... More Please!I also went to a party. Not normally my thing, I don't drink alot. But I got wasted, and took a 3hr journey home with the worst hangover ever! And on the same day as the party, I got accosted by Christians and had to talk to him for nearly an hour before he realised that I have my own mind and strong enough personality to withstand the lures of organised religion. Some people don't get the message.I appreciate he's a Christian, and is probably really happy, but I don't want it thrust down my throat as I walk down the street trying to buy booze for a "sinful" evening! He was really nice and invited us to a free Hip-Hop evening at their christian club "The Sin Bin," and I can only imagine what Christian Hip-Hop sounds like! Lets face it religious groups and some musical genres do NOT mix! Although, I would like to hear some Hindu Trance.Anywho, it's pretty late, I gunna get me some sleepy timePeace & LoveBTW: Photos will be up probably this weekend if I get time. Another vLog on the way also.
By Gary Charlesworth, 2010-08-17
Ok, so i've made my mind up about wax. It felt so bad just on my fingers so I decided not to wax my new babies!I have a bit of a problem with the whole debate though... The fact is, when I decided i wanted to dread it was my decision. Other than people on this site, I only know one or two people with dreads, and I don't know them well enough to call them up for advice. They're more casual aquaintances.Because of this, the only place I could turn to do any research on the subject of dreads was the internet. It was here I promptly found DreadheadHQ (first link on a google search). After reading the info on DHHQs site, and other sites (wikiHow etc) I decided to take the plunge and buy the Supa Dupa Ultra Mega Monkey Dreading Starter Kit. (FYI... try to avoid www.dreadworx.co.uk
, the guys a dick!) After about 2 months due to shipping errors and volcanos (I shit you not!), the kit finally arrived and my parents asked me to wait until after we'd been on holiday to start the journey. During the few weeks waiting to go on holiday, I added DHHQ on twitter, facebook etc... After adding them on Twitter, I started to be followed by a seemingly random dude (who we all know and love!) I in return started to follow this "SoaringEagle" and was shocked by the in your face anti-wax philosophy in his tweets.By this time I'm starting to think, who the hell is this guy?! And came to the conclusion that he's part of the anti-wax brigade that DHHQ "warns" people about!So even before i start to dread, I'm being pulled this way and that way being told "WAX IS BAD" ... "WAX IS GOOD" ... "WAX IS BAD" ... "WAX IS GOOD"For someone whos only knowlege of dreads is that they're cool and look good, this made the whole process rather daunting. In fact it almost put me off dreads all together.This is what my problem is:As a complete noob to dreads... Who do I trust? Do I go with the sleek vaneer of DHHQ, or do I trust a random dude who just happens to follow me on Twitter?!Obviously I chose the latter eventually.After the grulling 25hrs of backcombing, I didn't want to sit through another 12hrs of waxing, so put it off. Once i'd actually felt the wax on my hands I knew it wasn't going in my hair... thats when i discovered this site.Now, don't get me wrong, I fully understand, appreciate and support what dreadlockssite is doing (ie promoting strong healthy locks), but there seems to be a certain use of opposing scare tactics to put people off using wax. TBH using photos of waxy build up within dreads to post on facebook etc... makes it seem that the same tactics being used by DHHQ are being flipped and used to portray the flip side of the same coin (and I probably couldve worded that better!)Sorry to rant, but I had to get that out.Not all people who use wax are idiots or phonies wanting a "trendy" hairstyle. Probably most of them are just like me... Wanting to change lifestyle and just don't know how, and getting bamboozled by people who they've never met or heard of before!Anywho, on a liter note, I'm on Day 17 and loving it!