By Autumn2, 2012-10-27
Feeling kinda discouraged today. Going to try and just push through it, so close to the one-month mark!
By Star Gryphon, 2012-10-27
I know a lot of you are going..."WHAT?!"
But...it was strangely therapeutic.
The first dread I combed out was one that used to be a part of another. Since it has been it's own individual lock...it just hasn't felt "right" having a place amongst the rest of them.
The second dread I combed out is the ONLY place on my scalp that I have any issues with. It's been bothering me about not being able to get these hairs that still have the end follicle still attached from inside the scalp and just looked pure grossness to me. It's been a point of dread stress for me for a while. This one I cut off the little "ball" on the end that is the most difficult to comb out and combed the rest of it. It had a decent amount of gross.
The third I combed out is sorta a special dread. You see...it was the "first" one I ever had. I tried my hand at back combing it. When it didn't take to the backcombing...I did it again...I palm rolled it...I put wax in it...I was looking around to maybe use some of the hair that came out. With out even realizing which one it was..I saw that was basically the closest that I wanted the dry and donated hair to go to the kid!
Well...I saw which one it was. I take a look at it...see all the lint and stuff like was in the 2nd I combed out...but a whole lot more!
I cut this one off at right about where it was when I had put the wax in it...all the "unnatural" stuff I did.
Nastiest dread on my head!
Not anymore! It's now straight and brushed out hair.
]I feel like a big load has lifted off my chest.
By that boy chop, 2012-10-26
how can i speed up my new growth knoting up
By Mama Kat, 2012-10-25
Our friend passed away in amotorcycleaccident this month, he was only 30 years old & left behind 3 children who are close in age to our three children. He was like a brother to my hubs & was in our wedding. It hit us hard, to say the least. </3 RIP Mark <3
I was a bit nervous to go to his funeral, especially with my crazy baby dreads...but I should have known better, all of our friends love dreads...so it was at my friends funeral the first time people really noticed/commented on/complimented my dreadies...one of our mutual friends also has some gorgeous natural dreads & this was the first time I had seen him since I started my dready journey. Strange, strange day...made me realize I need to see my friends more, since it had been anywhere from 2 1/2 months (when I started growing dreads) to two years since I had seen some of them. Also made me realize that the people who love me for who I am are going to love me with dreads too <3
On a much lighter note, I felt the need to wash sooner this week than normal & I counted 75, down from around 80 last time I counted.
By Autumn2, 2012-10-25
Post work, post yoga, and post bath! My baby dreadies are all tuckered out from a full day. Can't believe that I haven't combed or brushed my hair for almost a full month now... it feels like some progress!
By Michelle4, 2012-10-25
So lately I have been feeling completely isolated in my corner of the universe. I am starting to see that I have drifted from most of my friends in the past years that I have been in a relationship. I work the third shift for a very large chain (boo) of bakery cafes. I spend about 90% of my time alone, between baking solo every night and coming home alone to my tiny farmhouse (that I love). I have very little ties here in this town, and my heart tells me that it is time to move on. The benefit to working for the crap company that I do, is that they are everywhere and relocating is incredibly possible. So I guess what I am getting at here is has anyone ever just up and left, started over in a town where you do not know a soul? Is it worth it? Part of me feels like things never really change, if I am feeling alone here then I will really feel alone somewhere else, so why bother? Also, mostly where I live people are kind of clueless to the important things in life, to each his own but maybe if I moved with more like minded folks I could be happier. I know that this is something that many people consider doing, and only a few are bold enough...
Also, how do you decide where to go? Just blindly point to a spot on a map?
Thanks for reading
By Star Gryphon, 2012-10-25
So...I'm actually sort of excited that I thought of this. Especially because wraps are completely as temporary as you want them I'm assuming?
I haven't seen my kid's dad in over 6 months. That was when both the kid and I were still in the hospital from her emergency birth and my c-section. She was really tiny and in the NICU. I felt self conscious that I looked like crap...but...there's not much you can do about it when you are in the hospital and stuck in gowns.
So...we were never actually a couple. I'm not sure when he made the comment to me...but it was at some point. He told me that my dreads weren't as "beautiful" as this other person who had salon dreads..or maintained them heavily.
This didn't hurt my feelings. It mostly just ticked me off. I know that my dreads are nice.
Right before I found this site I was doing some separation and ended up combing out large sections of hair.
I think I'm going to take those sections of hair...and then also find some other places to put some wraps in....sorta to "hold in" and hide all the loose hair.
I heard that the hair in the wraps gets the idea you want them to dread...and they section off during the time it's wrapped?
Not that that is really my concern.
I just wanna help myself look my best.
By ☮ soaring eagle ॐ, 2012-10-25
I have been helping someone a lil bit on his site which is a social network for ex mormons
those who escaped the cult
those who suffered sexual abuses and forced marriages
this is reprinted from 1 of his older sites
he has 1st hand experience dealing with the mormon cult and with romneys involvement in the cult
Mitt Romney's Mormon Secrets
MITT ROMNEY'S MORMON SECRETS
By Richard Packham February 2012
In all the extensive media coverage of Mitt Romney, much of it discussing his religion, not a word have I seen about the secrets of Mormonism, the secrets of Romney's life-long beliefs and practices. The reason, of course, is obvious: nobody can talk about a secret unless they are in on the secret. And few journalists or Christian ministers or anti-Mitt politicians are in on the secret. Only Mormons know the secrets, and they're not going to tell. And former Mormons, like myself, who were initiated into those same secrets, and afterwards left Mormonism - we know the secrets. Should we tell?
Journalist Frank Rich, in his January 29 article "Who in God's Name Is Mitt Romney?" in New York Magazine, subtitled it: "His greatest passion is something he's determined to keep secret." And that secret is the details of his beliefs and practices as a faithful, life-long Mormon, the same secrets that all good Mormons have vowed to keep secret, even though their life depended on it.
And why does Romney (and his church) want to keep people from knowing those secrets? Most Mormons will claim that they are not "secret," but merely so "sacred" that they cannot be discussed. That is a quibble, since Mormons hold any number of other aspects of their religion to be "sacred," and yet they don't hesitate to discuss them (for example: baptism, conferring the gift of the Holy Ghost, ordination to the priesthood, etc.). In my day, when Mitt and I were initiated into the secrets, we were specifically instructed that we were under "the greatest obligations of secrecy." Nowadays, the Mormons simply take a solemn oath that they will "never reveal" anything about the rituals. That sounds like a secret to any ordinary person, doesn't it?
All right. I am going reveal those secrets, since nobody else seems willing and able to do so.
The biggest secrets involve the special lengthy rituals (the Mormons call them "ordinances") that take place outside of public view in the Mormon temples. The most important of these rituals is called the "endowment" - lasting several hours and taking the Mormon through symbolic washings and anointings (in my day they were actual washings and anointings on the entire naked body), then clothing the Mormon in special clothing and robes (including the notorious "magic underwear," which Mormons call "the garment"). The Mormon then watches and participates in long dramatizations of key events in the coming of the gospel, beginning with the creation of the world, showing Adam's fall, the coming of the Christian gospel (but not the crucifixion and resurrection), and ultimately the Mormon's being admitted into heaven, represented by "passing through the veil (of the temple)." When Romney and I first went through this ceremony, it was a ritualized dramatization with live temple personnel. Nowadays it's a movie. Yes, the most sacred worship service in Mormonism involves watching a movie.
Why is that so secret? you may ask. What aren't the Mormons supposed to reveal? What do they hold so sacred that it's secret? Quite a lot.
Part of the endowment ritual instructs the Mormons in the four "signs" and "tokens" of the Mormon priesthood. Each also has a "name" (or password). The Mormon must make an oath that he (or she) will never reveal these, outside the temple. The purpose of the signs and tokens, according to Mormon Prophet Brigham Young, is that they will be needed to pass the angels guarding the gates of heaven. The tokens are various handshakes, copied largely from the Masonic initiation rites of the 1830s, when church founder Joseph Smith was initiated into Freemasonry. The signs are various positions of the arms and hands (right arm to the square, for example, is the "first sign of the Aaronic priesthood").
Before 1990, when Romney and I first went through this ceremony, we were taught that each of the first three signs and tokens also had a "penalty" associated with each one, and we had to mime various ways of taking life to represent the penalty to us if we were to reveal the secret signs and tokens: slitting one's own throat, ripping open one's chest, disemboweling oneself. Yes, folks, this was part of the most sacred ritual in Mormonism: pantomiming your own bloody death.
So Mitt Romney, and all other righteous Mormons, can be confident that they know the secret passwords and secret handshakes to get into heaven. Do you see why Romney and his church are reluctant for "unworthy" people (the rest of us, including Mrs. Romney's parents) to know about this? As Deborah Laake put it in her autobiographical book Secret Ceremonies, (New York 1993):
The actions that were going to guarantee my entrance at the gates [of heaven] would have nothing to do with love or charity or the other teachings of Christ that I'd been raised to believe God valued. In fact, I hadn't heard a single one of those words spoken today, the most primary day of religious instruction in my entire life. No, I was going to burst into heaven on the basis of mumbo-jumbo. ... The mysteries of life were fraternity rituals. ... Did all the white-suited glorifiers in the room unquestioningly accept a ritual of nutty gestures from the pseudo-occult as a sacrament? Those were the first moments when I viewed Mormonism with suspicion.
Or as summarized by a young Mormon missionary:"If we told investigators [prospective converts] about that, they wouldn't join, because it's too weird!"
But wait! you are saying. You haven't revealed anything. You've just told us that there is stuff to reveal. So reveal it!
Right. The four secret passwords that will get you into heaven:
The first one is the "new name" that you get with your garment. Mine is "Enoch" and you can borrow it when the time comes. The angel won't know. If you're female, you can use my ex-wife's new name: "Mary." (She would kill me if she knew I gave her sacred new name away!)
The second password is easy: your own given first name.
The third password: "The Son," meaning "the Son of God."
The fourth one is so sacred that you don't get it until the very last moment in the ceremony, at the veil, from God Himself (or an old guy standing behind the curtain who is pretending to be God). And it's very long, but you have to memorize it or you don't get in:
Health in the navel, marrow in the bones, strength in the loins and in the sinews. Power in the priesthood be upon me and upon my posterity through all generations of time and throughout all eternity.
(If you watched "Big Love" faithfully, one episode showed this part of the ceremony.)
And what about the secret (oops! that should be "sacred") handshakes? Rather than describe them, I will suggest you simply do an Internet search for "mormon handshake" images. They'll be right at the top.
Anything else? Yes, there are more secrets.
During the endowment, Mormons are required to take secret oaths that they will obey various "laws." The "law of obedience" requires them to obey "the law of God and keep his commandments." They don't specify what the "law of God" is, but Mormons understand that the Mormon church is the only true source of God's law and commandments. So they are taking an oath to obey their church.
The "law of sacrifice" requires them to "covenant to sacrifice all that we possess, even our own lives if necessary, in sustaining and defending the Kingdom of God." Mormons understand "the kingdom of God" to be the Mormon church.
The "law of the gospel" is accompanied by a charge to avoid "evil speaking of the Lord's anointed [church leaders]" as well as avoiding "light-mindedness, loud laughter, taking the Lord's name in vain" and every "unholy and impure practice" (not specified).
The "law of chastity" is to abstain from sexual relations except with one's lawful spouse. That one does make sense. That's one of the Ten Commandments, after all.
The last law is the "law of consecration." It requires the Mormons to
...consecrate yourselves, your time, talents, and everything with which the Lord has blessed you, or with which he may bless you, to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, for the building up of the Kingdom of God on the earth and for the establishment of Zion.
A couple of terms need explanation. The "Kingdom of God on the earth" and "Zion" mean, to Mormons, not just their church, but ultimately the theocracy that will replace the non-religious civil government. They believe, of course, that Christ will come to run this government, using faithful Mormons as administrators.
The pressing question for Mitt Romney, and for the Mormons who are supporting his candidacy, is: Would Romney consider the Presidency to be something that God had "blessed" him with, and which, pursuant to his secret oath, he should "consecrate" to his church for establishing a theocracy? If he is elected, will he kneel down and thank his God for blessing him with the presidency? And what is he supposed to do, according to his secret oath, with "everything" God has blessed him with? That's right: he is to use it for the benefit of the Mormon church.
Now wait a minute, you may be thinking. It doesn't really mean that! The Mormon church doesn't expect that from its members, does it? Oh, yes, it does! Remember California's Proposition 8? The Mormon church pulled out all the stops to pass that proposition, which would forbid same-sex marriage, and it called upon all Mormons to cough up and donate, even those who were not California voters. Those who were hesitant to do so (often the amounts demanded were thousands of dollars per family) were simply and subtly reminded of their "temple covenants." And they all understood that the church was calling in the chits on the oaths to obey, to sacrifice, and to consecrate whatever the church demanded of them.
How would a President who was also a good Mormon obey those secret oaths?
It wouldn't even take a phone call from church headquarters to the White House. Mitt, being a well-trained Mormon, knows "in his heart" what God would want (which is the same thing that the church wants, of course) and doesn't need to be told. That's the way it works already in the only American theocracy in existence today (Utah). The Mormon politicians who run that state - the judiciary, the legislature, the executive branch - don't have to ask church leaders for direction. They know what they should do, without asking specifically (usually).
The question for American voters is: knowing that Romney has taken this secret oath, that he is a faithful Mormon, do you want him to answer the question "Would you feel bound by your sacred oath to obey the law of consecration that you made in the endowment ceremony?"
Should it make a difference to you, the voter?
2012 Richard Packham Permission granted to reproduce for non-commercial purposes, provided text is not changed and this copyright notice is included
By Marlee Batchelder, 2012-10-24
I've been moderately worried as of late. I don't have extremely thin hair, although I'm also aware that it's not especially thick. I am having fears of my hair dreading and only having a small number of thin-ish dreads- thus looking like an idiot. I currently have about 13 that are semi-formed in the back. Most of the front hasn't formed yet. I've been told that everything will thicken up over the course of this never ending process, but I'm still afraid that I may end up looking stupid with innumerous stragly dreads.
Has anyone else contemplated this though? I just keep seeing pictures and people with amazingly think and numerous dreads and thinking "I will never have that many dreads/dreads that thick"
Someone make me feel better :/
By Castaway J, 2012-10-24
I was just outside thinking about things like i usually do, but this time i came to a moment of realization, something that hasnt happened in a while that i can remember. standing there on the porch looking up at the stars i was thinking to myself about how much my dreads have matured and the fact that its been well over a year. more specifically i was hooked on the notion that somehow my own development was somehow connected to that of my own forming dreadlocks. i mean its crazy to think about or even consider, is it insane to know it to be true though? introverts are though to be fair. It just blows my own mind living through the process myself and seeing the change over the last year.