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I was not being condescending at all. And if that is the way you see it - for that I apologize - for it was not my intent. I've done free form - understand the beauty of it. I have also done palm rolling and now interlocking. I have enjoyed each step, each method. What I stated was simple facts. Does not mean I agree with it...but it does not change it being factual. Everyone is not accepting of the "natural" look. Heck a lot of companies don't allow dreds at all - maintained or not. And they are within their legal right not to accept it if they have "appearance guidelines" that are clearly defined. So I am not being condescending when I say that most up on this site would not get pass the reception desk. Its factual. In fact when I was clerking here I did not have locs. I had cut my locs off and grew my hair out - kept it straight. I knew what was going to be required of me. When up north I did differently. Here in the south YOU as a white woman can walk in maybe get away with certain things I cannot as a black woman. Its fact. Not me being condescending. And here in the south a white women with straight hair and do things YOU can not do. Fact. So no hidden issues here. Im not calling you out saying you have issues or anything. Have no idea what you may or may not have. However, nothing that I stated in my previous post was snide or condescending. And once again if that is how you saw it - for that I apologize, but I stand by what I said. YOU may not have called anyone stupid...but I have seen it on this site quite a few times.

NaturalWomyn said:

maybe you should take your own advice a lil? If you want things to be different try leading by example because your post was pretty condescending. Not that I care, I personally think we should all be free to express our opinions as we wish and if it's not always sugar coated oh well (wo)man up. I see more and more people who didn't dread naturally saying that "we should all just be nicer" and honestly I just don't see the problem. Just because we don't agree with someones method doesn't mean we're saying your stupid. Sounds like unresolved issues to me...

Jaquerian McCain said:

Well I would not say you should stop. however, I would say that presentation is key. I understand that most on this site are "natural" locs. However, I for one - no matter how much I would like to free-form my locs simply cannot. I work at a law firm, I go to court, my appearance is critical. Knowing this...me wanting to do something has nothing to do with my paycheck. And my paycheck maintains my house. Now if I worked in advertising or some other field that was more diverse and accepting...perhaps. But as a black woman who works in a majority white man's profession...there is a need to acclimate to certain things in order for me to get to the point I want to be. A cookie cutter image can have raw edges.

On here - a lot of what I read is how stupid folks are to go and have locs maintained. How ignorant they must be because they obviously do not know that they can do this or that themselves and that every loctician is attempting to rip someone off, and that everyone who interlocks or crochet has damaged locs. Which none of that is 100% true. I simply think that a more polished way of communicating would be better. I know YOU don't like interlocking. However, I also know that if you walked up in my law firm looking for a job you would not get past the reception area. Not even as kitchen help. You may be the smartest person in the world - but no one here would listen. So how one looks is important.

I think free-form locs are the best. I have had them. Most of my family are true Rastas in the hills of Jamaica. They live a true rastafarian lifestyle. Yet even they know when they come to the states to visit - they have to maintain a certain appearance in order to not be looked at as homeless or big black men who are out to rob and steal. Its the american culture. Things are changing, but they are not there yet. So for those have professional jobs that they need to looked maintained - I think all of us should be more polished in our comments. Not degrade them, call them stupid or ignorant.

Well I would not say you should stop. however, I would say that presentation is key. I understand that most on this site are "natural" locs. However, I for one - no matter how much I would like to free-form my locs simply cannot. I work at a law firm, I go to court, my appearance is critical. Knowing this...me wanting to do something has nothing to do with my paycheck. And my paycheck maintains my house. Now if I worked in advertising or some other field that was more diverse and accepting...perhaps. But as a black woman who works in a majority white man's profession...there is a need to acclimate to certain things in order for me to get to the point I want to be. A cookie cutter image can have raw edges.

On here - a lot of what I read is how stupid folks are to go and have locs maintained. How ignorant they must be because they obviously do not know that they can do this or that themselves and that every loctician is attempting to rip someone off, and that everyone who interlocks or crochet has damaged locs. Which none of that is 100% true. I simply think that a more polished way of communicating would be better. I know YOU don't like interlocking. However, I also know that if you walked up in my law firm looking for a job you would not get past the reception area. Not even as kitchen help. You may be the smartest person in the world - but no one here would listen. So how one looks is important.

I think free-form locs are the best. I have had them. Most of my family are true Rastas in the hills of Jamaica. They live a true rastafarian lifestyle. Yet even they know when they come to the states to visit - they have to maintain a certain appearance in order to not be looked at as homeless or big black men who are out to rob and steal. Its the american culture. Things are changing, but they are not there yet. So for those have professional jobs that they need to looked maintained - I think all of us should be more polished in our comments. Not degrade them, call them stupid or ignorant.

Okay Whales dude, I mean no disrespect here to anyone...but, talk about reading posts!!!!! Have you read the millions of posts Gannon here has posted giving the impression he knows it all or down right challenging the people who know better than him (or I, for that matter!) I agree with Natural Womyn when she said she doesn't know what this kid is thinking! Everyday, a new more ludicrous idea pops into his head like "Sham-Wow" but for dreads! It is getting old!
Whales are super fly said:

Wow. Did you guys even read his post? And even if he did disagree with things (which he doesn't), what gives you the right to point fingers, LAUGH at his face and say, I quote: "i think he thinks those dreadheadhq wax messes are dreads"? Immature, uncalled for, sorry guys, but... wtf

I'm really sorry but this. This leaves me very dissappointed, no matter what you guys say

thnx for actually answer sum questions i really posted cause i wanted questions answered about neglect that werent answered by the dread method guide.....1.u already answered about when to wash...2 how do u prevent huge dreads?...
soaringeagle said:

g-man
wash every 4 days about ..gently
in bout 2 weeks your gonna see seperating into sections and the very beginings of tangling maybe even a lil dreading but thats a maybe week by week they will get more knotted and when they start to connect clumps with loose strands start to seperate

yea i laughed too, hes freaking out over 8 days,,,,, when it comes to dreads, 8 days is nothig, your in too big of a rush man, dreads will happen on their own but got to give it time and not just be waiting around the mirror for dreads to appear...... some times in life its a good thing to take the longer, scenic route, then the fast way, especially when it comes to dreads, even if i seen results in 6 days, but thats just me ..... and also whales he did edit it so i to read his first discussion little misleading it did sound like he was putting natural dreads down in a way......... so i think replies were appropriate

Shiva'sMattedLocks said:

dude gannon...i have a really hard time understanding what you write..mayb cz eng aint my first language....bt really what is this fuss about?? I blve you have been on this forum for atleast 2 weeks now and you are fairly active...which means you do read around..dnt you?
First you got dreads..then for watever reason you combed it out..now you think neglect dreads are fat..then you say you have known 1 persn with dreads who u never met after he got it...then you say i havent seen any progress in EIGHT DAYS!!
I mean seriously, it really looks to me that you are not really in the mindset to have dreads..
this is my opinion..and i dont care if it "disappoints" any self righteous person...

@whale- he was responding to naturalwomyn cz gannon's actions and posts have confused few simple minds here..and if you understood and read his posts so clearly..you should have replied with some useful info for gannon..rather than trying to be class monitor of this forum..now i ask you the same question...instead of helping gannon..why did you come and point finger at others post and essentially contributed nothing?? cz that leaves me sooo disappointed...lol..