I came across that statement early in my dread process and felt really discouraged at first. I was really sensitive at first, sometimes even searching out negative ideas of dreads online and afraid to walk outside without them covered in case someone might say something hurtful. But after a while, I started going outside without the hat, and soon I was forgetting I even had dreads. NO one has said a word to me about them, good or bad. Now, after a few months I'm feeling more comfortable with myself and how I look with my baby dreads, I don't think I'd feel as upset if someone told me they didn't like them. (I think I'd be hurt if a bunch of people pointed and laughed, but that would hurt me no matter what. That's just rude to do to anyone if you're over the age of 3.) This kind of statement doesn't rub me as raw as before. I know my dreads will never look like a black person's dreads. Personally, I think their dreads are so beautiful and smooth, and I don't expect mine to look like theirs. But I'm not trying to be rasta. I've never been to Jamaica, and I don't personally like the rasta colors or listen to reggae music, though I have so much admiration for Bob Marley as I've learned more about him.
Everyone's got an opinion. Sometimes I wish they'd keep them to themselves more often. I know my family thinks dreads don't look great on caucasians, they're just polite enough to say, "Ahhh... yeah, they look... nice on you." It's nice that they are able to keep the negative comments to themselves, but that's only because they know and love me. I think a girl shaving half of her head and dying the rest purple at age 40 and 40 lbs overweight looks kind of silly. Then I think about what she might think about my hair. Dreads have made me a bit less judgmental, but I still have some negative opinions about others' styles. What this guy wrote is rude, and I think he took his opinion to some really cruel places, but I'm not trying to steal anything from the black style. I started mine, because I actually love the look of caucasian dreads! I know a lot of people don't like them, but it's my hair. And that makes my hair all the more fun and exciting to me.
updated by @taby: 07/23/15 06:31:24PM