By Stephani, 2012-04-27
I'm so glad I finally decided to dread. My hair rats so easily. If I would flatiron it and leave it straight, or curl it and let it be free, it didn't matter. After 2 hours it would be one big rat ball anyway. I really do not miss trying to brush out that mess all day everyday. It's so nice to not worry if people can see the rats nest that is forming at the nape of my neck. Instead I have no worries, and get compliments on my little rat snakes now haha I love my dread babies. I will never miss my brush.
By Mary White, 2012-04-27
I bought the wrap from a dreadhead on here, and the Tam on Etsy.. I no longer have dreads (caused too many headaches) and now have very short hair...
Would like to pass on the beautiful wares.
I still love dreads, but I can't wear them..
Tam is mossy earthtones, adjustable and can fit short to long dreads - worn twice- asking $15 + Shipping
Wrap is a beautiful golden yellow and brown, quilted look, braided ends... Gorgeous... best for long thick dreads - $15 + Shipping
BOTH for $30 Shipping paid.
email- email@example.com if interested!!!! I don't know if I will still get notifications from this site!
By kendra hutchinson, 2012-04-27
Wow. Dreadlocks... For me, it really is a journey, not so much about the the dreads themselves or my hair or whatever. I am beginning this journey after years of being unable to accept myself, as myself. As a woman, it has been very difficult dealing with society's views on beauty.
When I was younger, in high school, I was always busy with schoiol functions, debate, theater, dances, sports, and I worked 2 jobs.. Then, a few years later, I got married. Getting married followed with having our two kiddies who are now 2 and 1. In the past 4 years, I have completely lost myslef. My body has changed significantly, and I've become the complete opposite of who I used to be. My dreadlock journey is symbolic for me as a physical part of my journey to slef love and acceptance. Life should be what I want it to be not what everyone else wants it to be... I hope that with time I will learn to love ME and be able to truly not care what that lady in Wal-Mart was thinking when she gave me that mean look.. I don't want to beat myself up about it anymore. I want to be free.
So as my locs begin to grow from this frizzy heap of a mess into something healthy, natural, and beautiful, I hope that that transformation will lead my soul as well.
I don't know if that makes any sense really when put into words, but it works in my head.. Which is what matters to me!
By Valérie, 2012-04-27
I have finally come around to starting a blog post to keep track of my current dread journey.
First, I must kick off this journey with what my locks looked like prior to dreadlocking:
As you can see, I have pretty wavy hair.
I made the decision to twist and rip my hair on April 13, 2012. I really don't like brushing my hair anyway and, having it this long for the first time in a VERY long time was causing me all kinds of issues. Anyway, I decided to go with tnr because my hair (lower back) tended to mat in a giant ball every single day and I had to pick at it to get it loose regularly. I felt it would save me the anguish of dealing with the bber felted ball that would result if I went completely neglect... so I twist and ripped for a little direction and left it alone to do it's thing.
My weekly hair maintenance (for the record and those who care to know) consists of:
- Dr. Bronner's liquid soap (in lavender and/or tea tree) diluted with water 1/12, or
- Baking Soda 1/3 - 1/2 cup, lavendar/tea tree oil 20 drops, rosemary oil 20 drops, gallon of water This was not so great for me, imo.
- Apple Cider Vinegar (just a splash), gallon of water, same parts of the aforementioned oils, glob of aloe juice
- For flyaway control I lightly use Aloe Vera Gel
- Sea Salt Water spray the night before each washing
Now, I wash every 2 - 3 days alternating between no. 1 and 2, followed up with no. 3.
So, from this point onward, I am going to update my journey by posting comments. I can't change the chronology though so the top-most comment is the most latest (a bit backwards, I know. but I am not really sure how else I should do this...)
Happy reading and BB!
By pyrobud, 2012-04-26
So i made it past da one year mark so i guess the hard part is behind me. cuz i no i felt like giving up a long time ago but not now after i made it this long id have to be crazy. and i would like to take this time to give thanks to SE and this website cause, without it i probobly would have quit or i would of went the wax route because thats all i knew so to u i am very grateful. and i love my babys more and more every day.
By Stephani, 2012-04-26
While in the shower today, I woke up. Not just in the literal sense, but in the "my eyes have opened to the world" kind of way. I now know that I was meant to be a Cosmetology Educator. I have decided that in July I will go back to school to get my instructing license. I want to educate future hairstylists' the proper, and more updated ways of "doing hair". I want to inspire them, and have them see my passion that I have for this industry. I remember all of my instructors, and only one of them stands out to me as someone who truly was passionate about what she was doing. She inspires me still to this day, and I've not seen her since 2006. I want to be that person, even if for only one student. If I can invoke that kind of passion and love for this business for just one student, then I feel my job would have been worth it.
I went into this career knowing that one day I'd want to teach, but I kept putting it off. I think because of insecurities and what not. Having the experience that I do now, I think I am better educated myself then I was 6 years ago. I am more capable of teaching, and I have more knowledge to share then I ever would've back then.
It's amazing to me how life never takes us the way we think it will. I'm more then happy to roll with it though, and I know whatever happens was because I went into it with a purpose and direction.
By Devon Fletcher, 2012-04-26
I started with TnR method and everything was very tight for a while. I am very happy with how they look right now and can"t wait to see how they progress over time. I finally figured out patience is the only way to get this done right and think this journey will be more than just a hairstyle
By brittany leigh, 2012-04-23
I love my hair now! I love how it looks, I love how it changes all the time, I love that it has begun to dread entirely on its own. I have done nothing to it. Most of my sectionsnow aremostly loopy and crazy, some flat some round. But I have got probably 4 or 5 sections that are perfectly dreaded from the top to about half way down. And again, I have done nothing but let them be (:
Now that you can see my sections a lot better, more people have started to ask me "So uhh... What's going on with your hair?" And that has mostly started within thelast month or so. (Keep in mind, I still have a ways to go before they are mature.) But the minute I tell people I havent brushed my hair since June, they laugh. Not to be rude I don't think at all, but most people think I'm kidding. And once they realize that I am totally serious they ask why and I tell them that it is dreading. Almost everyone has said "well those dont look like dreads" or "dont you have to put wax in to do that?" or "why does it look like that?" or something like that.
This is exciting in a sense that people are starting to notice that something is happening. But in another way it is very frustrating.I have to explain to people all of the time that the way they usually see dreads, the perfectly round, thick, all the same length...Those are not natural and are not real, nor are they what dreads were intended to be. That you don't need anything but to throw away your hair brush. And even still, most people dont understand that this could take years for my hair to look anything like what they are used to seeing.They think its instant or something.
My hair is still very fine and silky. It will take a long time for it to totally knot up and hold. I still have some loose hairs on the sides by my ears and underneath of all of my hair. And then I have some parts of my hair that look totally dreaded. I guess most folks dont realize that this is a process. That any hair type can dread, it's just a matter of time and patience.
Hair care lately has been switched from Bronners to baking soda/water mixture that I keep in an old bronners botter. Basically cover the bottom of the bottle with baking soda, a good layer. Then fill up about 3/4 with water, shake it up real good and thats all I do. Wash with that once or twice a week, depending on how my hair feels and looks. I still have my bangs which arebrushed whenever they need it. Sometimes I straighten them. But other than that, everything else has been left alone.Hopefully I will get some more recent photos of my hair up here soon.
Loving the journey so far. So glad I took the advice I got from this site to just stop brushing. I dont think that I would love my hair as much as I do had I gone about this any other way. (:
By Stephani, 2012-04-22
Today I just feel like sitting on my couch and taking my teasing comb with the little metal tangs and scratching my scalp. LOL I call it my scratchy comb. Before my dread babies I never really combed my hair that often anyway, but now that I know I can't I think my scalp knows it too.
By Australe, 2012-04-21
So I am almost two months into my dreadie journey. I've hunted and have gotten my hands on some glass and also some wooden custom beads, spent some time and taught my hubby how to do hair wraps with embroidery thread. I started off with T&R followed by neglect. I used the locking gel from dreadlockshampoo.com for a few weeks and then gave up on it, I'm keeping it around for times when I might need to smooth my dreads out for a special occasion. I do think it helped them not come out as quick, but besides that really don't know.
Each dread has a good 3-4 inches of undreaded hair at the ends, which I like because it curls and lets my hair dry way faster. Roots are locking up and after only two short months I'm having to make sure that I keep them separated. So needless to say I'm uber happy with my progress so far.
I'm thankful and also happy that having dreads has allowed me to just not give a crap about my hair anymore, no fighting with it everyday to make it do what I want. I gave all of my hair products and left over shampoo and conditioner to a good friend of mine, made her day The bathroom is less cluttered now and that makes me feel better too.
I did have several dreads come completely out at my hairline and have been debating re T&Ring them, half my hairline is a curly mess and the other half is baby dreads that didn't come out.
My friends and family for the most part have either given me positive feedback or kept their comments to themselves. Well besides one of my grandmothers, she felt the need to tell me they look dirty. But this is the same woman that complained because my husbands hair/dreads is down to the middle of his back now. Oh and the reason my son when he was a newborn only wanted mommy and no one else was because I breastfed him and held him too much. Needless to say her snarky comments usually slide off like butter on a hot skillet.
The initial itchiness I had was gone after a couple short weeks, and I haven't been having any problems with dandruff for the first time in my life. Washing twice a week with BS/ACV and EO's; Rosemary, Lavender, Peppermint, and a bit of Tea Tree Oil. LOVE how it makes my hair smell and I usually add a little of the Lavender and Rosemary to my ACV rinse as well. I never smell vinegar in my hair, just my lovely EOs.
I love some of the comments that I got from out local Mom's Group right after I did my hair. Everything from them arguing with their husbands about wanting dreads to people saying that it always seemed like I was supposed to have dreads and that they fit me and my personality so well
Thanks to everyone who has offered their support to far and all the great information and opinions I've found on here ^_^ Blessed Be.