A new start
Welcome Joseph, you're on the right track!
Hi Paul! Nice that you have found this site and that you have decided to go natural! I have also tried out different methods before, but going natural is the best and easiest! Your curly hair looks perfect for dreading up fast, lets do this!
Cheers from Germany!
Well, you have definitely some wax in your hair, because you went to the salon for almost a year and wax should be removed completely.
Seperation of strands that want to congo together is part of the process. Maybe separate your hair when it's wet? Separate from the root up, with a finger between two strands and pulling the finger up gently
In my opinion you need to get the wax out of your hair first, because it prevents from dreading. The frizz is actually good because then the hair can create knots. Don't twist or retwist your hair again, that will cause damage and probably the thinning you describe.
On this forum is a lot information how to grow healthy dreadlocks, you can read how to get rid of the wax and what is good or bad for the hair. I have learned a lot througt here and i just wash my hair and leave it alone, that is all you need to get locks, no studio, no maintainance, no products, just time.
Good luck on your journey!
I think everything is fine, you are doing nothing wrong! Everybody has different hair, so everybody's journey is different. You just have to take it as it comes... I am at 6 month of going natural, and most of the people don't realize that i am dreading my hair, they think i have very thick and curly hair, that's it. If i would expect them to notice what's going on, it would be pure frustration, but i don't expect anything. At my 6 month mark something different is going on, some hair feels more like a dread than it was before, but still everything is going very very slow...
Maybe it will help you to lower your expectations? There will be time with not much visible changes and there will be time with more visible changes and you cannot do much except being patient, maybe try to not wait for something to happen, just let it happen whenever it will.
All the best for your journey!
I have read good things about African Black Soap. On a german Dread Page a lot of people using it as a dread shampoo and it seem to work good, at least for them! I want to try it out, too in the near future. I can give you a note about how it works out on my baby dreads (6 month old)...
btw Aleppo Soap should also work good (100% Olive Oil)
This is my 3rd or 4th try to grow dreads over the past 15 years maybe. I tried backcombing, twist and rip before, this time all natural. Before, i was out for a certain look and my self esteem wasn't very high and i was'nt shure if i do the right thing. This time it is different. I don't really care as much, because i believe it will turn out in a way i feel comfortable with. So in my case i feel that now its the moment to go for it because i feel mentally strong and i am free of a lot of self doubts, which was'nt close like this in the trys before...
So maybe you have started your set in a time which was not that perfect to go for it? I hope you pick the right descision for you and the situation you are in, and i also hope you don't need as many trys i have needed (the longest was like 12 month). Did you talk to your wife about your thoughts? Maybe she should get involved and support you in your descision? You have been patient for almost 3 years and that is a long time. If you would shave your head cleannow, it will take like another year or so to get the length back for locking. But on the other hand, time is not everything... What is 1 year comparend to decades of having a good time with locs?!
It would be sad if you would lose your passion for dreads because of another waiting period,but maybe its helpful to start all over... I hope everything will turn out positive for you, no matter what you do in the future! Jah bless!
Hey! Rubber bands are very bad, so you should take them out first. After that i would wait if your hair is sectioning itself, then you might have more than
20 locs by natural sectioning... With only 13 dreads getting them dry after washing will be hard and take forever, think about that. Take the rubbers out and let your hair go, then you will get way more sections then you have right now. Cheers!
I did a mistake like that years ago. I did cut my long hair (not dreads) out of a really bad mood and totally regretted that descision a day after. But stupidly kept the short hair for years. During that time i hated to get a haircut every 6 weeks, hated to comb and maintain my hair daily. So i was wearing hats and caps a lot, to kind of hide my hair i was not pleased with.
I let my hair grow again for more then 12 month now and i feel released, not having to cut and maintain my hair regularly. By going the natural way i think i will get a result i am pleased with for years or hopefully for decades without having to put a lot of time and passion into maintainance. So my passion is to do what its good for me, i let my hair grow into dreadlocks and i hope i will be happy with that for a long time. Take your time an find your personal reasons for what is best for you, the rest is easy...