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"Metalhead" and "Hippie's"

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I'm sorry that this Thread has turned into this.I really am, and it disgust me that people, especially those who are part of a site that I think is probably the most open minded site that I've ever been too, though it has it's moments, and this is one, would start something like this argument, even if it was mostly one person who bashed on others ideologies.Though, I feel I must say, for someone to bash the ideas of Christianity is ridiculous, and probably, not only offends but, hurts some members of this forum who may belong to Christianity.There is nothing "Metal" about criticizing another person's beliefs.When people insult you and call your music bullshit, you'd become defensive, you'd become enraged and engrossed with proving them wrong, and you call those people assholes and douches and closed minded, and etc,etc,etc and you're becoming exactly what you hate.You're hating on something that people hold very, very dear to them, like music to you.If you think that Metal bands that follow God are "Posers" and all that, than maybe you need to look into your definition of what music is.They have beliefs that they feel so strongly about that they took time out of their lives to write music for, and express emotions for, and throw money at. Being in any band isn't cheap.They expressed emotions, the same way that the bands you listen to do.They also followed a certain sound, or trend the same way the bands you listen to do.Black Metal, Post-Hardcore, Death Metal, Pop, Punk, Garage Rock, etc it all follows trends, everything does.No one is bashing your belief that no God may exist, why bash others who have done nothing worse to you than what you are doing to them at this exact moment?Sure, there are some extremist Christians but, there are extremist in everything.You're being no better than a Closed minded Christian, you're being a Closed minded Metalhead.Stop bashing others beliefs and music, and start focusing on strengthening your beliefs and your life, and music if you play.ON THAT NOTE!There's a lost of punk bands who members have dreads as well, and share some similarities with "hippies"1.Vegan- a good number of Hippies and crust punks I know are vegan because they won't be part of torture, and the bad karma they believe is in meat.2. Community- a lot of Crust punks live in Squat houses and help rebuild them in exchange for the stay there, and grow food and help out, the same way hippies live in communites.3. The idea of peace- Both are huge believers in peace, and love, and equality.those are just a few, and I thought it'd be relevant to the original thread topic.=) Nic Sullivan said:

i agree with you i have half a mind to shut down the thread, this is not what is was suppose to be about. This is one of the only times on this site (minus the all the stuff about the wax debate) that i have seen such closed mindedness. Btw Pantera is one of my favorite bands of all times. I should be going to get a tattoo of a broken whiskey bottle that say on the label pantera 101. proof. as soon as i get the money.

Panterra Caraway said:

Thanks Tara and Asleigh for bringing some peace and sanity to this thread, altho Maxe and Shuk Coot did too. I started reading this out of curiousity and soon moved to irritaion and disgust! It all really sounds like a bunch of male posturing. When any of you guys walk down the street and end up being treated offensively or hassled because you sport dreads or certain clothes I am sure it pisses you off and you would be the first ones loudly complaining too...well, thanks for helping to perpetuate the very stereotyping you complain about. Why does everyone have to have a label? I'll tell ya..because then you seem to think you have everthing figured out and you know who to like or dislike or who's your bro! Bullshit! Oh, look at me, I'm bad ass, I worship Satan!!! Oh brother. Grow up. Why can't someone just be?

How long did it take your dreads to lock up?

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My dreads locked up a lot faster than I expected, about a month and a half. I only have three and I sleep on my back so, I suppose that had a lot to do with it.

Anyway, I was curious on how long it took all of your dreads to lock up.




updated by @jcisazombie: 01/13/15 08:31:19PM

How do you deal with closed minded parents?

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I'm sorry. It can be hard. I'm sure we'll both make it through ok, though. =) labmofgod said:

i know how you feel my mom and step dad are just like your mom except there is two of them which makes it worse

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Religion, in all forms, is something I respect, as long as it doesn't affect others. I respect my parents for their decision to believe in a "God" and I love them regardless, the only thing wrong with it is the fact that it's effecting me. I don't want to make enemies with my family or anyone. I chose to try and be as friendly with everyone, regardless of their life style. I'm just trying to get my parents to understand why I do the things I do.I dropped out of high school to get training in the field I'm fixing to go to college for.I moved out and lived with my friend's family who own a recording studio and learned to mix and a bit on mastering using the DWA, logic 9. Now, I'm learning to read sheet music in bass and treble clef in order to send my portfolio into college in hopes of getting accepted with recommendations from my chorus teacher of four years, the recording studio studied under, and the institute that taught me to read sheet music. So hopefully, I'll get my life on track. Perculator said:

1. Religion? War anyone?
2.Money is like the most expensive toilet papper and has a lot of ties in Religion (you see God has a problem with cash)
3.Sucsess is egg shaped
4.Yep me too. If I got it right the first time I would fail the second and the third.If I was given more of a chance.
5.Getting one life in check is a mystery to me. Thank goodness your still young enough to make some more mistakes. Get some training if you can find a passion.

Don't make enimies, even with your family

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I see the points of others and acknowledge my parents beliefs and how it ties in with our social life, like raising a family. Just because I'm having trouble with the way things are being handled doesn't mean I'm being closed minded too. My parents raised me from birth and have stuck together due to their beliefs, regardless of it being a good idea or not, now that leaves me with a distressed mother clinging to her son as the only source of love she can find outside of her God. I understand their situation, I've lived with their situation for 18 years. Seeking solace doesn't mean I'm being closed minded, just looking for answers to advance my life out of the web of things caused by the decision my parents, and myself included. Ameliorating your life isn't, in any form, being closed minded.Thanks for your reply. =) GoldenEagle said:

1. Be open minded yourself.

An individual isn't truly open minded unless they are willing to listen to and consider the point of view coming from other people.

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thanks a lot. =) I'll try and stay optimistic. Iain said:

Hang in there you guys,
and take advantage of every opportunity that arises in the future,
and stay optimistic

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I hope everything gets better for you too. =)You shouldn't stress out about life, just find something you love doing and you feel complete when you do and pursue it. That's what I'm doing. =) I just need a job to get some money so I can get to my college, I have a $500 scholarship thingy I got for getting my GED so, that'll help with a lot. I just need some cash to rent an apartment and buy a bicycle since I dont think I'll be driving my car as much in a city. qs said:

Oh, I totally overstand this post- especially beings where I am in I life right now.
I have a lot of stress at home very similar to the stress you're facing, but thank JAH my father doesn't judge my dreadlocks as much as he did the first two times I did them...
See, I'm 22 and unemployed. I DID graduate High School and I do have some college credits under my belt, however I feel as if I should have made better choices...maybe even gone to a real college. The point is, now it's too late for me to regret. I just have to DO something.. but I have no idea what to do...

I know I'm probably of no help, so I suppose I am just venting as well.
Thanks for letting me do so on your thread.
I hope everything gets better for you!! Just keep your head up and stay positive.

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My rents don't really have a problem with my dreads, it's just the whole idea that "I'm ruining my life." Ya know. I had a job at a pretty stereotypical "uptight" place when I had long hair, and they let me keep my plugs and my septum in, and my best bro had the same piercings and tattoos and they hired him. haha I can always hide my dread under my beanie, which I do before I go in to ask for an application, and I take my piercings out as well. I'm going on a job search next week, I was going to go on one this weekend but, the clutch went out in my car.So, hopefully once I get my job, I'll save money and be able to get my portfolio together and go to College. Stephanie Harrison said:

Hey.

1st of all, get a job first, hate to say it, but some employers look down on them, so probably best to get that first, you cant be fired for having dreads, you can guage your workplace's reaction and you can also get your mum slightly off your back.
Educate your Mum about dreads, mine weren't too keen, but i told them how they could be maintained, that i would get them pro, how they could be cleaned, etc, to dispell old beliefs, also reassure her if necessary you'll get rid of them, this is much easier being male!

My advice, may be conformist, but hey, they're your parents, so you gotta try not to piss them off too much. Also I'd reccommend when your mum has a go just agreeing with hber and refusing to argue back, shuts mine up

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Thanks for the reply and taking so much time to give a very in depth one. =) I'm sorry for the late reply. I'm sure it is stressful on my mom since I'm an only child. I try looking at it from both sides, sometimes it's just really hard. thanks again. Faelwynn said:

Wow, sounds just like when I lived at home.

Here's all your mom really needs to know (this is about what got mine to shush): You're 18. You're living your life as a fledgeling adult and it's hard, but you're doing the best you can with what you've got. Your desicions are YOURS; you will have to pay for them in the long run and they are completely out of her control (I've found that parent's don't deal well with things being out of their hands, but they realize that it has to happen at some point.) but she and your father have instilled in you the tools to make the right desicions (and if not, then you've adapted your own tools... she doesn't have to know that though..).

Here's what you need to know: Cut your mom some slack. This has got to be hard on her too, she just has no idea how to express it. She doesn't like that you're growing up and that soon you'll leave. She really just wants the best for you, and though it sounds (and possibly is) like nagging, it's the only way she thinks that she can get through to you. Don't yell, keep your cool. There's nothing quite as strange and confusing as someone that can keep their head in the midst of yelling, and still state their point. Sure, it's hard. But you'll earn their respect in the end. Totally worth the effort.

My father and I have a very similar mental disability... We can't stand large crowds of people, I can't seem to tell people what I want (I have a very very hard time ordering things at fast food places, or asking anyone for help.. I can't even order food on the phone), I am so socially awkward it's not even funny anymore... I can be so painfully shy that I literally can't speak to people.. and some days I am a complete shut-in... I can't make myself leave the house. It's hard to explain.. Anyways, dad never got involved in disputes either. Deep down though, he was still just as torn as my mother. It broke their heart when I threw off my 'good little catholic girl' shroud and revealed myself for the nature loving pagan that I am. They made fun of me, cursed my beliefs, told me I was going to hell.... but I kept my head heald high... and to this day my father respects me for that.

Stick it out. Keep thinking positive (do a bit of research on the Law of Attraction :3), and stick to your beliefs. Don't let anyone tell you your wrong, and you bend to their will. Hear everything, but take it with a grain of salt and form your own opinion. You have a family here that supports and loves you.

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Thanks =) and sorry for the late reply Alysha said:

It sound's like your mom's a little stressed..but it also sounds like she only wants the best for you and she's just trying to make sure that you'll be okay in the future..GED is no big thing, you can still get into almost any college..stay positive and remember your parents LOVE you!