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i didnt see the reply untill i posted a reply to that..

ok watching things please use the contact us tab to send me a message on any and all odd server/site behavior you see the next couple dys...hopefully we'll figure it out but at least the emails are sending again

guys working on server issues

think we solved (temporarily) the issue with lack of email notices, but now seems that i cannot see the last 2 replies despite getting the email notices

are you experiencing this too?

That's a great story Soaring Eagle! I'm happy for you.

 @theodora-stella I know it can be hard to be who you want to be but from my own personal experience I know that when I do what I truly want to do and dress the way I do and in this case grow my hair the way I want to; I feel happy. Even when other people don't agree. My dad is a racist bigot, he really won't like me with dreadlocks. My brother says it will make me look like a typical vegan hippy activist. Of course I care about what they say, but I try my best not to let it influence my happiness because in the long run, I know what I want and there's nothing wrong with that So prove your friend wrong, with beautiful natural dreadlocks that probably smell great!

whats wrong with looking like a vegan activists/  btw  most vegan activists look like everyone else.. except not as fat or unhealthy.

an so true after cutting my 1st set due to pressure from negative people ..i was mor e miserable then at any other time of my life

and regrowing my hair i was happy again (despite just months before endig up in a wheelchair)

if you can;'t really be yourself how can you ever be happy

very few people are negative about it but they are aggressively negative.. however you'll also get a whole lotta support. the thing is.. who do you let affect you?  i'll give ya a example. years ago there was a post on another site 'am i ugly' with a photo, over 1000 people replied no your not, several girls hit on him, a few gave styling tips or  ways to build confidence and exactly 1 person said 'yes yr ugly the ugliest person i ever saw'

out of the over 1000 replies and the 1 single negative reply was the only 1 he responded to..or even seemed to read..

point is you can amplify the positive or negative simply by who you let affect you. ..for that kid, that 1 voice in the crowd cemented in the idea that he was ugly.

your family and freinds opinions weigh on you more then strangers.  and the fact is your family and freinds tend to be the most negative. not because they hold the stronget opinions on the subject.. but because of proximity.. how you reflect on them.."people will think im a druggie cause i'm hanging out with you' type mentality.

why should they care abou what you do to your hair unless they mistakenly believe it will affect their lives as well..

another story, my mom for 15 years never once talked to me without mentioning cutting my hair. i never could look her way and make eye contact without her fingers automatically making scissor motions..

i constantly got the im embarrassed to be seen with you so was excluded from everything..

untill

we went xmass shopping together 1 year, i tend to move faster then others so the were walking behind me not with me .. and saw like 100 people exclaim "i love your hair' as the walked by.. then a group of 15 conservative looking grey haired old women surrounded me saying they never saw anything so beautiful and wanting to touch it

from that day on my mom never mentioned cutting again, i got a tam for xmass that year. and she started actualy sending articles about how damaging discrimination against dreads was!  literally my biggest critic was changed in an hour by simply seeing it in a new light..as a matter of pride not embarrassment.