Oh my word! Thank you all for the numerous replies/sharing wisdom/partaking in this discussion (or perhaps "debacle" of mine).
Update, since it's been a while since I posted this:
Against the advice of most, I have pretty much stopped washing my hair. I actually did a few hours ago today, because I felt it was time to, but I essentially didn't wash my dreads or scalp since I posted this however long ago it was. I actually realized HOW dry my scalp was, once I stopped washing and it actually healed. No more dandruff. No problems.
Cutting down to washing 1-2x per week (which is how much I've been showering anyway) helped. But since then I've cut down further and stopped washing my dreads (and only wash my scalp really every 3 weeks (maybe 4 weeks?).Honestly, I can't tell you how much it's helped me.
I cut out using anything other than a TINY bit of dr. Bronners and a few sprinkles of baking soda (and of course water). When it's gotten irritated (which is RARE now that I've stopped washing, or "over-washing"for me that is).
I plan on giving my dreads a good wash (with liquid dr. bronners and BS) every few months. I try to keep my head out of the water in the shower as much as possible but have just been rinsing my scalp and hair about 1x a week.I work on a farm and little specks of dirt do appear from time to time on my scalp (oddly though, not typically IN/ON my dreads). When this happens I kinda rub them off, pick them out, as best I can, then rinse that night.
Hope I answered all your questions, or responded in ways that might be helpful to you! Thanks again for replying to this forum.
Best,
MC (or JX)