4-5 month neglect, need tips on how to sleep ( i wake up and the tangles some times are undone? ) and i wear a hat from when i wake up to bed time

4-5 months been not touching/ combing and once a week i wash with 1 gallon water 1/4th cup baking soda, I also am addicted to wearing a hat, sense i was 12 i have had a backwards cap on ;/ anyways i sometimes wake up and or after washing i have big clumps of hair or small, maybe im mistaking these for early incoming dreads, but once i go to bed, or ride a skateboard or even go in the wind they seperate, are dreadlocks ( natural ) all knott's, maybe i just am mistaking? also i wear a hat, should i stop, and how how would you keep hair out of your face? my hairs past my shoulders. ill post pics if i ever get a phone, i was taken away from my great perfect mother cause my drugy dad kept calling DHS and making storys that they now see are way untrue and they made a mistake now my bro and sis and i are fending for ourselfs, in 3 months he hasnt had a job, just the fake one he tells them, anyways lol.wind/skating good or bad for early dreads? id think ited tangle more, which makes me think these groups of hair may not be early dreads sense they come undone easily, hope this is all understandable, weird keyboard not my computer and had a time limit to be on it so had to go fast ;/ thanks peace
updated by @colbi-godlove: 02/03/18 06:17:06PM

wear a tam at night leave em loose during the dayyou seem old enough to take charge file complaints against the drug addict get police reports of neglect and abuse and help mom get u back by ducumentaing every issue u have and that means police reports and possibly even if needed getting you and your siblings into something tem,porary while its workerd out a foster home or a relative or even homeless shelter but u need a court ti=o see papers that youir being mistreatted


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Any ideas of wear to buy a wool tam? and i did make moves to put myself into foster care but my older bro and young sister beged me not to do it, for them like my mom did for them staying with my dad as long as she did, i stayed andd i have been filing complaints and neglect and abuse to DHS but at the time they just saw it as a kid who's trying to get to his mother quiker, my dad is and has always been a lyer to get his ways and he filled DHS full of lies making himself look good i do my best to reveal him but its a battle that i am finding going my way every week i get to meet with dhs and my mom, but my brother makes it hard, he ever got to see first hand my dad hit my mom, and do drugs he lived in the back room i lived in the same room as my mom seense birth till 11 and my bros adhd and stubern so when i tell him who my dad really is he gets pissed and says hear say, always been that way ;/ so today as i tell dhs these things he defends my dad, my dad gives me bad looks, doesnt treat me like a son only if my bros around, and hes great with my bro, hes swayed my bro, my bro's only a year older but im mature and wise where he isnt he is my oppisit but he tells my to wait it out till aud 27th our next court date, we live at my "dad"s mom and dads who i cant stand theyre so racist and just like my dad, at court my grandpa fliped out on my mom as my mom came in the metal detector the cop was a witness that my mom didnt say a word or look at him and he verbally attacked my mom, i yelled at him and guh so many bad things in that day, but aug 27th we might get our mom back we lost our house monday but today she got accepted to a job and apartent dhs said after she got the 2 shed have no problem getting us, at my grandparents i hear " my moms a meth head " and my dad told dhs that, and i have lived by my moms side forever, helping her find out who my dad really was, i know for a fact shes never even seen meth, if you knew my i could show you how big of a lie that was, take my word shes the greatest mother ever, i've gone through it all with her, and after a day of councling my councler hates my dad haha he believes me, but man sorry for the horror story, three months of talking to no body tends to make people tell strangers EVERYTHING peace and thanks man godbless you soaringeagle said:

wear a tam at night leave em loose during the day

you seem old enough to take charge file complaints against the drug addict get police reports of neglect and abuse and help mom get u back by ducumentaing every issue u have and that means police reports and possibly even if needed getting you and your siblings into something tem,porary while its workerd out a foster home or a relative or even homeless shelter but u need a court ti=o see papers that youir being mistreatted

Hi Colbi, that is a big load for anyone to carry. I'm glad you shared here. I hope things work out for you and your family.It breaks my heart when I hear about situations like yours.I had a very turbulent upbring also, different situation than yours but very emotionally damaging. I was afraid a lot and felt really lonely.I found solace in the library. I would go often until I moved out of home at 14 years old.It is hard to stay sane but you can do it.It's good to share your thoughts about what is happening and if you want to talk in person rather than online there is kids help phone, some one is always on the line ready to listen.Much love and light your little one.

Wind at anytime is going to be good. If you are out skating rinse your hair with plain water after you are done.

thanks for your story it helped i could deffinitly use your advice to find solitued getting out of here alone brings me sanity, library and bible would do me peace, i have cerebral palsy and public school gave me anxiety after teasing so social places were hard but i've had to overcome it to call attorneys lawers ect on my own speaking for myself and my mom and i've had way less anxiety lately, i'll deffinitly get out more often. god bless, peace. Island Mamma said:

Hi Colbi, that is a big load for anyone to carry. I'm glad you shared here. I hope things work out for you and your family.
It breaks my heart when I hear about situations like yours.
I had a very turbulent upbring also, different situation than yours but very emotionally damaging. I was afraid a lot and felt really lonely.
I found solace in the library. I would go often until I moved out of home at 14 years old.
It is hard to stay sane but you can do it.
It's good to share your thoughts about what is happening and if you want to talk in person rather than online there is kids help phone, some one is always on the line ready to listen.
Much love and light your little one.

thanks i see after my hair drys it gets weaved with other hair as hair comes out of the wet clombs, deffiitly helpfull tip, peace. God bless. GoldenEagle said:

Wind at anytime is going to be good. If you are out skating rinse your hair with plain water after you are done.

wow 1 cup is alot i let my bro mix it once he put 3/4ths and it didnt fully disolve but he coulda put 2 cups and said 3rd cup to be funny, he finds those small things funny to do, but ill up the soda thanks, God bless, peace. Lisa McRae said:

I'd say a little more baking soda in the mix, I do 1 c. to a gallon. You can get really nice tams from the home grown project (one of the shops in the shops section of the site) I bought one and they do custom made home made ones. So beautiful.
Just wash, separate and be patient. 4 months is a little slow but you'll get there.

Wow Colbi! You make me want to reach into the computer and hug you. I have 3 daughters. One has Cerebral Palsy and Autism, my youngest has Bi-Polar disorder and is presently living in a facility far away from me. I wish I could help you in some way. I think you are a very brave and loyal young man. You love your mom a whole lot I can see. I am sorry that all the adult stuff is making your life less than it should be. I have been here on the site for a short while but I know for a fact there are good people here and that they do care. Please keep coming back...not only for your hair but for anything else you may need. You shouldn't have to be tough but hang in there and don't give up. I will pray for you. I send you love and hugs and blessings. I truly believe that somehow right always wins out.

Keep up the patience, man. I've had what I thought were babies come and go, loosen and tighten. Don't worry about it. Let it go and it'll all work out in the end. I think I finally have some permanent ones...FINALLY! =D (I started from a shaved head though.) You're lucky you have such long hair.
updated by @greygargoyle: 07/23/15 06:18:30PM