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Beckysan
@Beckysan
08/01/13 11:43:11AM
17 posts

Natural birth control...


Alternative Lifestyles and Subcultures

You made me giggle :)

I took it as a 'big sisterly joshing' but then again, I know this is a sensitive subject for some folks

. Personally I know nothing about natural bc other than nfp or natural cycles and I was interested to see if there were some links on some herbs or teas that help. I think women have always known about natural bc, but we lost that knowledge somewhere along the way and it's high time we found it again. I love to hear about how people are looking to alternative forms and what they are finding, and more importantly, do they work and are they sustainable?

the Barrellady said:

Okay, I thought it was funny...guess I have a weird sense of humor tonight, sorry...here is a posting from January of this year with a couple of pages on the same subject to help you. There is even a link for herbs to help combat the cramps.....peace

http://www.dreadlockssite.com/forum/topics/opinions-on-birth-contro...

Beckysan
@Beckysan
06/12/13 07:30:46PM
17 posts

Things that make your day


General Talk

So it's been a tad damp here in lovely MN over the last...90 days. I think I remember what the sun looks like and am pretty sure we will see it again....if not, maybe Minnesotans will start morphing into various aquatic amphibians :)

Anyhow to combat the doll drums, I have been going out of my way to listen to music while at work. I love all sorts of music/genres/artists etc. So when I started 'discovering' some material that was unknown to me, I was completely tickled. Now mind you, some of this stuff has been out there a while (Black Keys first three albums, Black Crowes Brothers of a Feather) but for me...completely unheard of (been a BC fan for a long while) because I get so caught up in what I have to do next sometimes. I forget to slow down and just listen, or I have my standard go-to's that I just end up taking for granted.

So I have a few of my co workers who are music appreciators too, and we started trading back and forth new finds of the day. We have been doing this for a week and I can't explain the elation and joy at not only finding something that was new to me, but to be able to share it and have other people love it too. Even more, to inspire them to do the same and share with me! To be happy despite surroundings, things going on, the insanity of life outside joy...it's those moments that make me appreciate living and am able to even see the beauty of the purple clouds rolling in again. I am appreciating the contrast to the green and newness of spring, and as I was writing this, the sun even made an appearance!

So out of curiosity....what little things bring you joy, why and how do you go about sharing it?


updated by @Beckysan: 01/13/15 09:53:27PM
Beckysan
@Beckysan
05/16/13 05:31:12PM
17 posts

Contest/Challenge Time


General Talk

Ooohhh...the best thing for me would be accepting a part of who I am. I have put it aside for so long because I had to grow up and learn you can't please everyone. My dreads are for me, as a part of me and if I have had negative comments, I am not aware, because I really just don't care :)
Beckysan
@Beckysan
05/16/13 02:24:38PM
17 posts

Need a dreadie pep talk please


General Talk

Thank you for your post! Today I am feeling just impatient. I still love what my hair is doing, the texture and the feel, but I can't wrap it up yet, still busy shrinking, it won't stay put back, all these things I want to be done with. I could relate to the what the hell am I doing thought, and I keep coming back to: what is right for me :).Patience isn't always easy to aporeciate when we are being taught the lesson, but I know I will get great joy when my babies are mature, and from the lessons I learned along the way. Hope you are feeling better about it today!!
Beckysan
@Beckysan
05/08/13 06:24:54PM
17 posts

The Demon Drink


General Questions

Hey...I was just perusing through the site and stumbled upon this particular post.

I too come from an alcoholic home, but it wasn't what I thought would be 'alcoholic'. My parents didn't binge drink, my dad went to work every day, my mom had supper on the table between 5 and 6 PM. All outside appearances, people would think that there was nothing wrong with my family. My aunts and uncles were those kinds of alcoholics (skid row bum types), my parents weren't. Yet, they were still alcoholic. When my dad drank, he couldn't stop. Most of the time he would be the life of the party, but every so often he would get mean.

My mom liked it because it was the 'social' lubrication that she 'needed'. It made her feel more important, smarter and better than what she really felt. It also became her escape from life. To this day, I remember my mom reading me stories, but not being 'present'. I remember her kissing me and putting me to bed, telling me how much she loved me with nasty beer breath. But this is normal in most alcoholic homes.

Alcoholism isn't just the physical manifestation of the 'allergy', but it's also a spiritual disease that often times stretches through generations and through entire families. It took me marrying an alcoholic (no surprise there...) and hitting a bottom of my own before I was willing to understand what alcoholism is. Because I grew up in an alcoholic home, I have a lot of alcoholic tendencies, but I am not an alcoholic. I've tried...just not it! I can party hard, but there comes a point where I don't enjoy the effects of alcohol on myself or friends. I can stop, with out counting of how many I've had. But I did worry for a long time that I could end up like my mom and become an alcoholic at the ripe old age of 42.

My husband has 8 years of sobriety this year, my dad had that many before he passed away at 55 from gall bladder cancer. They did achieve this through AA, and they had (from what I have seen) good groups of folks to help them. People are quick to knock things they don't know, and it's not for everyone. But I have seen AA help bottom of the barrel drunks turn their lives around to become the upstanding human beings they were meant to be. Most alcoholics I know are absolutely brilliant, hilarious and wonderful people, they just can't stop drinking. Eventually you see them set themselves up for failure and things progress until they are desperate and it becomes a matter of life and death. That's how it was with my dad and my husband.

My mom, continues to find new bottoms. She does not currently do anything to take a look at herself, but I know that today, if she could stop, she would. So I don't have that expectation anymore. I can't get caught up in her drama either, as I am a mom and a wife and I have a job etc. The most compassionate thing I can do for her, is to let her find that willingness for herself.

No one but you can call yourself an alcoholic. I can read what you wrote, but I am not an alcoholic so I can't say 'yup, that's it'...but I do know how little I actually knew of alcoholism until I sat down to read a big book and attend Al-Anon meetings. So if you're still curious, sit down and read Alcoholics Anonymous (Big Book), as it does detail types of drunks, all the reasons leading up to drinking and what alcoholism is and does to a body. Good Luck, something watches over drunks and fools, I think that just about covers everybody :)

Beckysan
@Beckysan
04/29/13 11:20:30AM
17 posts

Elements drying my dreads out...


Dread Maintenance

Hello! Spring has finally made an appearance here in MN, and with that, I have been out on my motorcycle all weekend. I have been loving the wind in my hair and sun on my face, but I noticed my dreads are getting a little dry. Before I went out yesterday I put some jojoba oil through them. It seemed to help, but just wondering how often I should/could do this? Is there something else I can be doing? I try to tie them up in a bandana as well, but even pre dread, by the end of summer my hair is like straw (even with conditioning treatments). The upside is that it helps with the knotting process :). Any pointers or similar experience would be appreciate! Thanks and hope everyone is enjoying their day!!
updated by @Beckysan: 01/13/15 09:51:48PM
Beckysan
@Beckysan
04/24/13 07:58:51PM
17 posts

Itchy scalp still. Please help!


Dreads Hair and Scalp Health

Could you be having a mild allergic reaction to something?I know for me, pre dread, that my scalp was flaky and itchy even though I am "healthy" and used non sls shampoos. When I quit eating gluten (started slow) my scalp felt way better. Not saying gluten is necessarily your problem, but maybe one of the oils is giving you issue??
Beckysan
@Beckysan
04/22/13 11:05:22PM
17 posts

Mmmmm...warm damp dreads..


Dread Maintenance

Or even seeing how that could be comfortable for any length of time!? Some of the opinions weren't horrid but after learning the lessons I did, you just hope others learn them just as quickly to avoid damage or mold.Still shuddering about wet wool on my head though...ewwww!!!
Beckysan
@Beckysan
04/22/13 10:50:52PM
17 posts

Mmmmm...warm damp dreads..


Dread Maintenance

Found this website http://www.sweetdreads.8k.com/dosdonts.htmAnd as you read down, some of the suggestions are to put your damp warm dreads into a tam to knot up better..I don't like wet wool ANYTHING, so this made me shudder.Thanks again to everyone on this site for shared experience to lead us to happy dreads!!
updated by @Beckysan: 01/13/15 09:51:31PM
Beckysan
@Beckysan
04/22/13 10:41:59PM
17 posts

Scalp Issues


Help! Save My Dreads

I didn't use a 'lot' of wax and it took 3 months of patience and wax b gone from Vickie. Stuff works wonders, but too much of anything never turns out good. I agree with Robyn, check out some of the shampoos on the dreadlocks shampoo site. They all have tea tree in them. It took about two months for my scalp to recover from dhhq, but those soaps really helped. If you choose to go with essential oils, truly be very careful with peppermint. People aren't crazy or lying when they share experiences with that burning their scalps. That will cause even more flakes!! Good luck !
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