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Strangers who touch your hair without asking...

Rose
@rose
4 years ago
104 posts

Oh wow :o that's way worse than the people at my school. But my hair just looks like unbrushed hair lol.

Oh, and what you need is this shirt!http://www.etsy.com/listing/98943647/dreadlock-and-crazy-hair-top-yes-i-wash?ref=sr_gallery_2&ga_search_query=yes+i+wash+my+dreads&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_ship_to=US&ga_search_type=all

Lily-Nicole said:

Happens all the time at my new high school! The other day a girl, let's call her Jessica just took my hair out of the headband bun it was in and started grabbing handfuls, and I couldn't stop her because I was holding a plate of beef liver for biology. Then she proceeded to call all her weirdo friends over to take turns grabbing at my hair. Eventually I tossed the plate onto the table and made them stop. Later I learned Jessica has always had extreme boundary issues. That really doesn't make it okay though.

Another thing I have noticed is people smell my hair A LOT. This one chick named, uh let's go with Jackie just stuck her nose into my bun on the first day of school! Has that ever happened to you guys? It was super weird.

Another time I laid my head down in class (Finished early) and I sat up and like two or three people were rolling my dreads, it was super freaky, I thought they were performing a cult ritual on me. so not cool

Also in the first week of school I was sitting with my new friends and I left to go to the bathroom, when I came back they wouldn't look at me. So eventually I convinced the hair sniffer girl to tell me what was up, this one girl told all of them people with dreads don't wash their hair and they never have. I flipped out on her, like that is totally not okay. It's like I need a hoodie that says YES, I WASH MY DREADS. I explained the whole situation though, still super annoying.

I don't usually mind if you touch my hair without asking but sniffing it is too far even for me. Plus taking my hair out of the bun? You guys know how much work it is to put dreads into a neat pony tail, a lot.


updated by @rose: 07/22/15 11:38:03AM
Baba Fats
@baba-fats
4 years ago
2,730 posts

I just mentioned this forum to my wife, and she brought up a point, We live in the city, and a lot of older black women always asked her about her locks and wanted to feel them, back when she had locks. I have had this experience to in WAWA

Lily-Nicole
@lily-nicole
4 years ago
20 posts

Rose, that is absolutely magnificent, I will have to put this on my Christmas list.

Rose said:

Oh wow :o that's way worse than the people at my school. But my hair just looks like unbrushed hair lol.

Oh, and what you need is this shirt!http://www.etsy.com/listing/98943647/dreadlock-and-crazy-hair-top-y...

Lily-Nicole said:

Happens all the time at my new high school! The other day a girl, let's call her Jessica just took my hair out of the headband bun it was in and started grabbing handfuls, and I couldn't stop her because I was holding a plate of beef liver for biology. Then she proceeded to call all her weirdo friends over to take turns grabbing at my hair. Eventually I tossed the plate onto the table and made them stop. Later I learned Jessica has always had extreme boundary issues. That really doesn't make it okay though.

Another thing I have noticed is people smell my hair A LOT. This one chick named, uh let's go with Jackie just stuck her nose into my bun on the first day of school! Has that ever happened to you guys? It was super weird.

Another time I laid my head down in class (Finished early) and I sat up and like two or three people were rolling my dreads, it was super freaky, I thought they were performing a cult ritual on me. so not cool

Also in the first week of school I was sitting with my new friends and I left to go to the bathroom, when I came back they wouldn't look at me. So eventually I convinced the hair sniffer girl to tell me what was up, this one girl told all of them people with dreads don't wash their hair and they never have. I flipped out on her, like that is totally not okay. It's like I need a hoodie that says YES, I WASH MY DREADS. I explained the whole situation though, still super annoying.

I don't usually mind if you touch my hair without asking but sniffing it is too far even for me. Plus taking my hair out of the bun? You guys know how much work it is to put dreads into a neat pony tail, a lot.

Star Gryphon
@star-gryphon
4 years ago
190 posts

Baba, older black women definitely ask to feel my dreads. Younger black women can be racist little (expletive deleted) and just plain jerks. It's sorta funny how that works. People who are so fast to cry racism...and then they are the first to be!

taye
@taye
4 years ago
836 posts

Ok...i kinda see an issue here. You were in a movie theater and had your hair hanging over the back of the chair and got upset because the person behind you touched your dreads? In my opinion...you were invading the space of the person sitting behind you. The area around a movie theater chair is cramped at best. Having someones hair in my space would make me VERY uncomfortable. I amsurprised they just touched it. If I was in their place.... I personally would have said something to you along the lines of " excuse me....but do you mind keeping your hair to yourself?" I am not sure how long your hair is.....but mine would be in their lap. Not trying to be hateful...but if you are going to let your hair invade someones space...don't besurprisedif they touch it.They yanked it to tell you that you were being rude.

Star Gryphon
@star-gryphon
4 years ago
190 posts

this was years ago when there wasn't much there.

Now I wouldn't do it because it would be in there lap as well. Although...the movie theater here is REALLY roomy and there weren't too many people in it.

it fell down to maybe just past my shoulders then.

sarai
@sarai
4 years ago
38 posts
Funny. This reminds me of a post I read on mothering.com about strangers coming up and touching pregnant women's bellys without asking. Weird! One persons response was to reach out and grab the offenders belly in the same manner so they can feel for themselves how rude and weird it is to be touched without asking. Haha. Same tactic could be used for your hair too I guesslol
 
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