Forum Activity for @heather-b

Sleep time dread wrapping

Dread Maintenance

Right on! Thanks SE. I'm really not worried about dread acceleration, (I'm enjoying the daily dread surprises of the journey) I just started thinking about tossing and turning and pulling on dreads at night. So thanks for the info! :D

Sleep time dread wrapping

Dread Maintenance

I have a wool tam that I wear at night that I really like, I use it because I read on this site that wool is good to help dreads to lock. But I've been curious if it's damaging to not wrap your dread's at night? Mainly just curious...thanks
updated by @heather-b: 01/13/15 08:49:39PM

lice prevention

Dreads Hair and Scalp Health

Thanks!

lice prevention

Dreads Hair and Scalp Health

Just curious, are dreadies more likely to get lice then....hmmmm....non-dreadies?
updated by @heather-b: 07/10/15 09:40:13PM

Sadness

General Talk

I'm not sure if I've misinterpreted some of the replies to this post or not, but my understanding is some people may have thought that I was saying I would prefer people to be dishonest as long as they're nice and I just want to make sure that people know and understand where I am coming from.I have seen many many posts on this site where people don't necessarily agree with someone else and they are not afraid to tell them so and yet they have the capability of communicating with love and kindness. Those are the posts that I enjoy reading. I like the discussions, especially where there is a difference of opinion so we get to learn from different people's experiences.I've learned a lot from posting my feelings tho'. I've been reminded that I get to choose what I read and don't read. I loved the analogy of it being like the "unknown person on the freeway". And I appreciate the reminder of the lack of tone and emotion through text. I also enjoyed being reminded of the fact that I can't recognize the beauty of good in the world if it wasn't thrown in with some less-good.So, hopefully I communicated a little better this time, and thank you for all the lessons in the replies! :D

Sadness

General Talk

yup! it was just my random thoughts and feelings! :D

Kathleen1 said:

ummmmm.....sorry you feel that way? (random!)

Sadness

General Talk

hmmm....sorry if I came across as mad...I never really thought I was mad about anything. Not sure what responses your talking about. Thanks for the reply tho'! Your right, as far as I need to find the nice people and leave the mean ones alone.... I've noticed that I tend to engulf myself in the drama of the forum instead of the positive feedback which there is a LOT of ... Thanks for the reminder of changing my focus.

Radha Das said:

I read through the respones and you seem to be the only person I have ever encountered on this sight that seems to be mad and all of the things you have accused others for being. I have only found sweet nice people on here, maybe I have just been lucky, I don't know. Be happy life is short, find the nice people and leave the mean ones alone.

Sadness

General Talk

Awesome! I see it happen all the time...that whole "judge not less ye be judged" thing...that was the point of the mirror post...exactly! :DWhen you had your experience of absolute peace how long did it last? I've felt that before...realized that all this is just a game anyway and felt complete faith and peace....problem was it lasted only for a moment before I took all worries and stress right back again, and I can't seem to learn how to bring it back. I believe it was a gift from the Divine so i wouldn't give up. I was struggling quite a bit at the time and it was like a carrot being dangled in front of my nose to keep me going just a bit longer.

Micah Mapes said:

Yea, I dont want my excitement back either. I've turned into a guy I once made fun of, but now I understand most of the people I judged. I always end up on the side of the fence I just condemned. Life has a way of showing what is real and what is just an opinion that we wanted to believe was real. I have many more opinions to be undone but I trust that my joy will increase as I deflate. Once I had this experience of absolute peace and it was as if I didn't exist at all. I was still alive and aware of the room, but the "me" disappeared for a second and it was a feeling I will never stop pursuing. I am the only problem I need overcome.

Sadness

General Talk

That's the miracle! :D

Knottysleeves said:

Wow, your job sounds stressful. Though I imagine it feels great when people successfully get through the detox and stay clean, eh?

Sadness

General Talk

I love that..."cornered into...peace" It's interesting how un-peacful or uncomfortable peace can be. Something new and different and often viewed as boring! Ha! Today I'm soooo grateful for that boring side of peace...I do NOT want to go back to the form of excitement I used to engage in!Even this drama makes me slightly nauseous. If I can't avoid the drama threads soon then I may pack up my happy ass and leave too.

Micah Mapes said:

I understand where you're coming from. Unfortunately, I do see this much animosity in the places I go. I'm around a lot of male machoism, one-uppingism, character assasinations, etc. It's strange you mentioned you worked with drug addicts. I used to be a counselor at a rehab, then back to being patient, then AA, then finally freedom from it all. I have been cornered into learning how to have peace in my life. Peace isn't exciting, but it contents me in a deeper way than anything the world will ever offer me. Deep, deep, down in me, I find You. That's is where my joy comes from. I think we have to see these arguments as what they are. Mind arguing with mind, but the being is in complete harmony with itself which is the other person.