natural neglect dreads in weeks not years
Dreading Methods
Christina I only started to let mine dread naturally two weeks ago and my husband didn't buy shampoo last week because he assumed I wouldn't be using it.....he did however ask when I would be going hat shopping to cover the grease.... I guess I'll have a lot more of that to deal with *rolls eyes*Ditto on the "what if you get bored"..... I forced myself to wait 18 months after deciding I wanted dreads just to make myself certain.... I assumed most people did this or for longer...is that not the case?? Mama Christina said:
All the regular old suburban moms at my kids school were all "for" my dreading process when I updated on FB (lol) that I was going to dread my hair. Then they wanted to know what happened because the t&r I had around my face were loose and they thought I took them out. They all are shocked that it might take a year for them to be more separate like the dreads they have pictured in their minds and all I ever hear is "OMG I DON"T HAVE THE PATIENCE FOR THAT!". Then when I try to explain that YES I WASH my hair (first question when I say I'm letting them form naturally is "so what, do you just not wash your hair" and insert that awful tone of voice like you grew up in the valley) and it's a really nice journey of letting go and how spiritual it is...
well, they stop listening and begin to want to talk about something else. No one has freakin' patience for anything. You're right SE, people do sound like contradictions by saying they wanted dreads for x number of years only to want to have insta-dreads from the salon.
I get asked "what happens if by the time a year comes around you want them out?" Now, why the hell would I go down this path if I didn't like them? Well, they don't understand the process anyhow so I guess they don't understand the mentality. Like my DH always says, "there's nothing wrong with you, you're just talking to the wrong people".
Thank the gods for this site so there's a safe haven.