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Bananarama
@bananarama
03/18/12 01:38:44AM
8 posts

How to Convince Parents to allow Dreads? Any Ideas?


Life Issues Facing Dreads

oh it's been so long! Thankyou though! :) and in the end, she just didnt think it was healthy or a good 'image' (it really did just go against how she was brought up) but i think ive changed her mind about it, and whenever anyone says anything she just backs me up and says "Yes, she does have them, but she looks rather unique don't you think/" or something equally as nice. haha! Family members were the worst. And family friends- dont even get me STARTED. hahah. well after about 6 months of further pestering ;) i started my dreads on feb 13 this year.. so i think they are roughly about a month old now? They are looking wonderfully messy! They'll look proper eventually, but right now i like them! hah x =D


Linds said:

JUST realized that the last post was June 2011, hahahahaha! Hopefully all went well :)

Linds said:

I'm wondering if there is any time in the past where your mom didn't like something you did but you managed to work with it and eventually prove your case? Personal example: when I was 16 I wanted to get my eyebrow pierced but needed parental consent. My mom actually said yes because she honestly didn't think I had the balls to go through with it. She was wrong. As shocked as she was I was able to show her that it didn't change who I was or who she knew me to be. By the time I decided to grow dreads (after many more piercings and a tattoo she forbid me to have) we had established a sort of trust; that no matter what I did to my body I would own it and make her love it too. Maybe your mom needs a little reassurance that her baby girl isn't drifting too far away? Naturally your family dynamics are different than mine, and I don't know what my mom would have said if I'd tried to dread my hair in high school, but usually mothers are mothers are mothers. I think you need to pinpoint exactly what her issue with dreads is. In my experience some people aren't even sure themselves why they don't like something. Is it all the myths? Is it how she was raised? Did she know someone with dreads who was a horrible person? (as silly as that sounds it's hard to shake first impressions) Is she afraid you'll change in a negative way? What does a negative change mean to her? No matter what the issue is I think it's important for your mom to remember that it's just hair (definitely not implying that it doesn't mean more than that to you) Hair grows back. Worst case scenario: you brush them out and/or cut your hair. Most mothers have this amazing ability to love their children no matter what. I say you cash in some of those unconditional love chips ;)

Bananarama
@bananarama
06/17/11 03:44:34PM
8 posts

How to Convince Parents to allow Dreads? Any Ideas?


Life Issues Facing Dreads

Yeah! thanks, thats a really good idea! Shall do that :)

Julian said:
It might also not be a bad idea to gather a few pictures of peoples' dreads earlier on and then when they've matured, that way your parents might see that it is a process and they will look amazing in the end and that your not "doing it wrong" :). I had to do this with my parents.
Bananarama
@bananarama
06/17/11 02:53:21AM
8 posts

How to Convince Parents to allow Dreads? Any Ideas?


Life Issues Facing Dreads

brilliant ideas guys! I willstart growing mydreads for sure by the end of the week! :) HAHAHA. althoguh im thinking of just doing them now, im going away for 12 days with a bunch of friends, so i can just let them grow :) muahaha.
Thanks for all your support, you guys rock! :D
Bananarama
@bananarama
06/16/11 01:16:34AM
8 posts

How to Convince Parents to allow Dreads? Any Ideas?


Life Issues Facing Dreads


GENIUS! I am definately doing this, thankyou!
ElaurenG said:
I had another thought to add to...maybe show them some before and after pics of people once they've taken out their dreads. Show them that it isn't as permanent necessarily like a tattoo, that people can comb and condition out quite a bit of their hair, and a lot go on to have some cute new hairstyles immediately following their dreads. Basically that you're probably not going to have to shave your head at any point. Also you are more than welcome, let us know how it goesand again good luck!
Bananarama
@bananarama
06/15/11 02:52:44AM
8 posts

dreads or no?


Life Issues Facing Dreads

Wooo! hapy for you man :) Enjoy them!

Bananarama
@bananarama
06/15/11 02:39:32AM
8 posts

How to Convince Parents to allow Dreads? Any Ideas?


Life Issues Facing Dreads

LEGENDS! You guys areflippin amazing! thankyou, so so so much! I'm going to show them this site, and i will make a collection of beautiful dread pictures (thankyou chels :) for the idea!) Brandy and trina, awesome idea! and ElaurenG, i think my mum is exactly the same as yours, so il definately give it a go, and im going to do it natural, and i have pletny of pros for that!!
SoaringEagle- Whoa :D This will defs win my parentsover for sure! Thanks for writing it again, and its full of so much eveidence they can't possibly argue against it! and if all else fails, ive come tot he conclusion they cant exactly shave it off if i do it regardless of their point of view..& i quite agree with brandy, its my body, so :P
Thanks guys for all your help! :) I really appreciate it! :D
Bananarama
@bananarama
06/14/11 04:56:44AM
8 posts

How to Convince Parents to allow Dreads? Any Ideas?


Life Issues Facing Dreads

Hey guys :D,
I've been in love with dreads for almost 3 years now and want them superrrrbadly! Except my parents are completely against them and think they are "unhealthy" (<--- i know...haha *shakes head*), "dirty, unattractive" and pretty much every other WRONG stereotype there is out there. Another reason wich really isnt helping is that my hair is super long & straight and blonde and everyone is always telling them how 'pretty' (read: boring) my hair is. I'm in yr 12 and my school allows them so there is no problem there, i just need help in convincing my parents, particularly my mother!

Any ideas!? All help much appreciated, or any similar experiences please share!
Thanks! =Dxo
updated by @bananarama: 02/14/15 06:26:58AM
Bananarama
@bananarama
06/13/11 12:47:33AM
8 posts

dreads or no?


Life Issues Facing Dreads

Do what your instinct tells you :) Highschool is pretty f*cked, and if anyone says anything- hey, you've got a middle finger right? if you know what you want, and you got good reasons (ie. you want them because YOU want them, not cause 'my gf said they're cool' lol) then i'd say go for it!

also, people tend to regret what they didnt do, rather than what they did. you could give it a go and see how it turns out, and if you dont like them, just comb & conditioner them out.

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