How to Convince Parents to allow Dreads? Any Ideas?
Life Issues Facing Dreads
oh it's been so long! Thankyou though! and in the end, she just didnt think it was healthy or a good 'image' (it really did just go against how she was brought up) but i think ive changed her mind about it, and whenever anyone says anything she just backs me up and says "Yes, she does have them, but she looks rather unique don't you think/" or something equally as nice. haha! Family members were the worst. And family friends- dont even get me STARTED. hahah. well after about 6 months of further pestering i started my dreads on feb 13 this year.. so i think they are roughly about a month old now? They are looking wonderfully messy! They'll look proper eventually, but right now i like them! hah x =D
JUST realized that the last post was June 2011, hahahahaha! Hopefully all went well
I'm wondering if there is any time in the past where your mom didn't like something you did but you managed to work with it and eventually prove your case? Personal example: when I was 16 I wanted to get my eyebrow pierced but needed parental consent. My mom actually said yes because she honestly didn't think I had the balls to go through with it. She was wrong. As shocked as she was I was able to show her that it didn't change who I was or who she knew me to be. By the time I decided to grow dreads (after many more piercings and a tattoo she forbid me to have) we had established a sort of trust; that no matter what I did to my body I would own it and make her love it too. Maybe your mom needs a little reassurance that her baby girl isn't drifting too far away? Naturally your family dynamics are different than mine, and I don't know what my mom would have said if I'd tried to dread my hair in high school, but usually mothers are mothers are mothers. I think you need to pinpoint exactly what her issue with dreads is. In my experience some people aren't even sure themselves why they don't like something. Is it all the myths? Is it how she was raised? Did she know someone with dreads who was a horrible person? (as silly as that sounds it's hard to shake first impressions) Is she afraid you'll change in a negative way? What does a negative change mean to her? No matter what the issue is I think it's important for your mom to remember that it's just hair (definitely not implying that it doesn't mean more than that to you) Hair grows back. Worst case scenario: you brush them out and/or cut your hair. Most mothers have this amazing ability to love their children no matter what. I say you cash in some of those unconditional love chips