Strangers who touch your hair without asking...
Life Issues Facing Dreads
Priorto dreading a lot of people asked to touch my hair, and I lot of people touched it without asking. A few times at school the person who was seated behind me has started playing with my hair without asking. I used to lean back so they could reach more! I LOVE it when people play with my hair. Even just someone running there fingers through it feels amazing. I also understand why a lot of people at school wanted to touch it; I've always gone to schools were the majority of the students are black, and a lot of people are just interested in the difference in hair type, they want to know how it's so soft and straight.
BUT ever since I started dreading I have not wanted people to touch my hair, In the first few weeks of not brushing the people trying to touch my hair were friends. But, they still didn't ask, they'd just randomly stick their hand out. I always moved away and asked them to please not touch my hair. It got so bad with everyone trying to touch my hair that I told them I hate it when people touch my hair! Since then they've mostly stopped
A few weeks ago a girl asked me if I brush my hair, and then tried to touch it. I moved away and said "nope".
Today my friend (and everyone else) said I looked a mess and actually tried to finger comb it! I told him to please do not do that, and he apologized. Another kid tried to touch it and I kicked his hand (sounds weird, but I was getting water and his hand was like coming towards me and I just stuck my foot out). A lot of people want to fix it for me lol, but it doesn't need fixing.
So yeah, I get this problem a lot. People DO NOT ask, but I usually see them coming. I think it's only gonna get worse as my hair gets more crazy. I think people shoulddefinitelyask before touching somebody else for any reason! For example, I have a friend with a very sensitive scalp but people love his hair (I think it's because he's a white boy with long fluffy hair lol). When people touch his hair his first response is to lash out because it hurts and it makes him angry! If people just asked he could warn them that his head issensitive!