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btw990
@btw990
09/18/18 07:47:10PM
72 posts

Fiance fired; advice?


dreads jobs employment issues

Sorry for not updating in a while, I figured there was no point with nothing going on. So the original mediation date was in like mid-July. The night before, we were getting everything prepared for the next morning and then Tiara gets a call from the mediator because it was getting postponed, cause the owner's lawyer had personal issues and told him to just go to the mediation on his own. Lo and behold, when he talked to the mediator he had no idea that requesting mediation was admitting he was wrong and settling out of court lol. So the mediator ripped him a new one and told him he has to show up on the new date, lawyer or not.

Now after going on 11 months the mediation is finally tomorrow, thank God. We're going to start out at 50K to leave nice room for negotiating and see where it goes, but I know the owner doesn't look good in their eyes already because of the postponement, since they were traveling from out of state for the mediation. Pretty much the entire time this has been going on is just more leverage for us because we've just been scraping by, even had to borrow money to pay the rent the last couple of months. Fortunately she just got a full time job a month ago and I just started working there Monday. So now our work situation is perfect. But yeah, we're excited to be over all this crap and him finally having to deal with it.
btw990
@btw990
06/07/18 12:34:31PM
72 posts

Fiance fired; advice?


dreads jobs employment issues

That's around what I was thinking, any pay she lost since then. Definitely going to tack on damages too though, considering we have two kids now and nothing has been easy with less income. It's not easy to get a job while pregnant, and difficult for us to pay for daycare. So I feel a little ruthless about it, but gonna be realistic about it too.
btw990
@btw990
06/06/18 08:54:06AM
72 posts

Fiance fired; advice?


dreads jobs employment issues

So the case entered the Mediation phase on May 11, and yesterday the EEOC called to schedule a day to mediate and settle, which will be June 25th. Now the problem is figuring out what she should be asking for to settle. Don't want to make it seem like this was about money but don't want her to get low-balled either.
btw990
@btw990
03/19/18 02:47:19PM
72 posts

My natural timeline


Member Journals and Timelines

Thank you both! I am very happy with how they are turning out. Wish I understood how dreading works a lot sooner than I did cause I'd be further along, but you live and you learn. I'm just happy to have my own experience with disaster so that I can educate others. At the moment my most underneath locks in back are my favorite because they're the most mature. It's really cool just to watch and feel them do all this curling and shrinking, definitely makes it exciting.
btw990
@btw990
03/13/18 09:51:45PM
72 posts

Fiance fired; advice?


dreads jobs employment issues

I think my last post here may have sounded different than it was meant to, so I'd like to apologize if it sounded at al narcissistic. I'm not the greatest at explaining what I'm trying to say sometimes. Anyway, back on topic...

The EEOC finally got back in touch in mid-February. They're now working on the case and sent the owner the charges that are being held against him, which are for religion and sex (for pregnancy). There might be another that I can't remember off the top of my head. So now the process is in the Mediation stage where they will work on settling it, and if he doesn't agree to it then they will start investigating.

Funny thing about it is that he probably thinks he will be done paying for her unemployment soon, but because of the timing of it all, he will also have to pay for her maternity leave, which will be disability, starting in a couple of weeks for 12 weeks. So because of his carelessness, by the time this is all over with he will have paid her for nearly a whole year, on top of whatever he will owe for the settlement.
btw990
@btw990
03/13/18 09:37:07PM
72 posts

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4 & 1/2 month update

Finally got on here to update. Got plenty of dreads developed and a good few shrinking up nice. The dreads up top are more abundant than my last set which I'm happy about. Some of my previous dreads did re-form, but it isn't too big a deal to me because they don't affect my cowlick area. I've also become a lot better at separating and more precise with the sizes of my sections.
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btw990
@btw990
11/26/17 11:54:01PM
72 posts

Fiance fired; advice?


dreads jobs employment issues

Just goes to show how superficial people can be and how focused on appearance they are. The way I see it, naturally (pun intended), one thing that dreadlocks symbolize is no care for what others think. Many claim to not care about what other people think about them, and that includes people who manipulate their locks. But if that were really true, why do people get so obsessive over getting every little hair crocheted back in as soon as one comes undone? They can't really claim "I do it for myself" because they don't see themselves, and they allow that one minor thing to disturb their inner peace. So in actuality, they are doing it so that they can look "better" or more neat to others. Not trying to be judgmental at all because I was in that place, but it definitely takes some looking inward to figure those things out. Instant dreads skip all the dirty looks, judgment and persecution and go right to the "Nice dreads!" stage. So what other purpose would they serve besides the look?
updated by @btw990: 11/26/17 11:55:09PM
btw990
@btw990
11/25/17 02:44:06AM
72 posts

Fiance fired; advice?


dreads jobs employment issues

It is sad that people basically expect to have to pay for truth. Just goes to show how seemingly hopeless humanity has become that it's hard to believe there are still good people working toward a good cause without expecting anything in return. You certainly are a rare breed.

I was actually thinking a little while ago about sites like dreadheadhq and how people get sucked into the mindset of needing to use their products/instructions for dreading their hair and always keeping them "perfect" looking. Most people think of Bob Marley when it comes to dreads, and it made me laugh envisioning someone asking how he did his dreads and telling them he used dreadheadhq haha. Really though, I think a lot of people just have a hard time with waiting for their dreads to form, like how I did but then I grew to hate my insta-dreads. There's no fun in that, no experience, no wisdom to be gained. It's boring.
btw990
@btw990
11/23/17 10:50:03AM
72 posts

Fiance fired; advice?


dreads jobs employment issues

Will do!

It's always nice and refreshing when you're taken care of when it's least expected. The benefit of these situations is learning more patience, prioritizing, and appreciating at least having enough to put food on the table.
btw990
@btw990
11/22/17 08:08:35PM
72 posts

Fiance fired; advice?


dreads jobs employment issues

So when we woke up this morning we saw that we have pending deposits from Unemployment retroed for the last month. Which is such a blessing because we were getting our internet/cable and phones shut off as well as my car insurance canceled in the next few days. And we weren't sure we'd have the money to pay for our rent next week, either. So this is all working out amazingly so far 👍 I'm excited to see what goes on as far as the EEOC, and we're most definitely going to sue, especially since he admitted to it all being about having dreads and not even having an employee handbook.
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