I am not going to go into a discussion about the evils of wax. (but it is really nasty stuff). What i am going to say is.....by going "to get the loose hair put back into place which is once a month" you are taking a chance of loosing your hair. Alopecia can come from having hair pulled too tight. Having your roots worked on and having loose hair put back in will pull your hair way way too tight. Dreads should not start at your scalp. They need room to move around. Having your dreads "maintained" is not the healthiest thing for your hair. Roots will lock up on their own. Baby dreads can have up to 3 inches of unlocked hair and mature dreads 1/2 inch to 1/4. Loose hair is ok.
I look at your pictures and it just looks painful. Ouch! I bet it is hard to sleep for a few nights after you get it maintained. Dreads should be soft .....not hard.