Sad story vent/rant..

Thank you. I will indeed give it a shot again. There definitely is hope, I started my uncles dreads with t&r not too long ago and he his really thinning out, but just seeing his happiness in having them is pretty inspirational in a way so I will definitely try again. Wish I came on here sooner too, I knew all of you are amazing and very supportive, just didn't cross my mind when I needed it most.

Lauren Halsall said:

I'm sorry to hear that, hugs

you should definitely try again! it's worth a shot if you did it before then theres still hope and a chance to recover them

i'm sorry you had to go through that alone, next time come here you have everybody's support but i so hope you continue your journey and can find peace whilst doing so

much love

updated by @anthony: 07/13/15 10:52:31AM

Keep the faith. I have a girlfriend who has alopecia and has lost much of her waist lenth hair. At first she was really withdrawn and depressed but after years of dealing with it she has learn to except herself and her condition. She truly is one of the most beautiful people I know and her hair has nothing to do with it. Make sure you dont bottle your feelings up inside, when you are sad or pissed off talk to someone. I hope that things turn around for you.

Definitely will, just going to not try and dwell on it since what's done is done. This next journey I'm not going to let anything get rid of them to the best of my ability haha. Thank you and hope your anxiety is under control as well, the shit really is serious biz.

Makaila said:

grow them back out bro, it might take awhile but it will work. i have anxiety too, i know how that shit is. give it some time and youll be able to start the dread process again, this time youll be able to learn from your mistake.good luck and much love.

Sounds like a little progress on getting used to it then. Hopefully soon one day it doesn't matter at all to him, and help from a good girlfriend like yourself will help that go quicker I'm sure .

Special K said:

I rub his balding scalp sometimes and he'll tell me to stop.. He makes light of it more and more now.. he's growing to accept it..

Anthony said:

This young age losing hair stuff is for the birds lol, hope your boyfriend is taking it better than I am. But thank you for the positivity! I'm going to attempt my journey again if I can someday, hopefully that someday is in the near future. Once again, thank you so much.

Special K said:

Sugar, my boyfriend is loosing his hair too hes only 24. Its gonna be ok.. *hugs* If you think you want to grow em back.. We all are gonna support you one way or the other.. *Hugs Hugs Hugs*

Much love to you..

I'm giving my best effort at trying to, I have a problem with staying positive and to accept things. I am glad to hear that she has gotten through it and to accept those things! And yeah keeping your feelings bottled up inside is such a terrible thing to do, I've done it for too many years and of course the outcome is never good. But thank you, hope everything is going well for you and for everyone else on here.

Patty Haynes said:

Keep the faith. I have a girlfriend who has alopecia and has lost much of her waist lenth hair. At first she was really withdrawn and depressed but after years of dealing with it she has learn to except herself and her condition. She truly is one of the most beautiful people I know and her hair has nothing to do with it. Make sure you dont bottle your feelings up inside, when you are sad or pissed off talk to someone. I hope that things turn around for you.

xo Anthony I'm praying for you, dude']

Thank you for the prayer, much love to you.

I cannot express how truly amazing everybody on this website are.

ExaltHimx7 said:

xo Anthony I'm praying for you, dude']

I hope that this doesn't sound harsh...I truly don't mean it to. I have a child who is Bi-Polar and have been a part of mental health support group for the last 5 years. Because of my daughter's problems, the rest of the family now suffers from anxiety and PTSD. My daughter can be very violent and abusive...and yet she is only 12. One of my good friends has a daughter who hasn't left the house in 2 years due to Agoraphobia and severe anxiety. The biggest thing that I have noticed from the many people I have encountered is what I would call...Living too fully in the moment. When my daughter or my friend's daughter (who I will call M.) are having anxiety or going through some kind of episode, they only see what is in front of them. You can talk to them until you are blue in the face and all they see is this moment. Infortunately, when they are feeling better, they then have to suffer the consequences of not being aware that life is more than that uncomfortable, unhappy moment. M. goes on line and meets someone and because of their kindness in that second becomes convinced she is love...then, if they disappoint her...she is convinced they never cared and are a horrible person. Life, is made up of many moments and many feelings and nothing should be evaluated using the narrow confines of just this second. I know what you go through is really difficult and I am not trying to dismiss it. But, they next time you feel overwhelmed and the walls are closing in...it may help to keep in mind that there may be something in the next hour, next day...that you will discover or learn...that makes this moment not nearly as important as it seemed. And I agree with Cameron...it is unimportant in the end if you looked one way or another...it is what is in your heart, your mind and the content of your character that will be remembered and live on. I wish you happy times and peace within yourself.

Not harsh at all, all helpful supportive conversations going on here for the better good . One thing anxiety has done to me is block out the fact that other people/families have the same, similar or harder problems to deal with, and that is definitely not the way I think when I'm in a normal happy state of mind. Anxiety and depression seems to be something that does spread throughout family and some true friends, all because we care about each other. My family has been through hell because of me and are suffering almost the same as i was until I did get some help, and that made me feel awful but they do understand. Being there for someone seems to be the best medicine when it comes to things like this, it's a good thing you are pretty strong and educated so you can help your family and friends through all of this. I hope all goes well for all of you, as long as you help each other out everyone should be fine. As for me I've been doing alot better now, a few things needs changed but I will be fine. Thank you so much for your time. Prayers to all.

Panterra Caraway said:

I hope that this doesn't sound harsh...I truly don't mean it to. I have a child who is Bi-Polar and have been a part of mental health support group for the last 5 years. Because of my daughter's problems, the rest of the family now suffers from anxiety and PTSD. My daughter can be very violent and abusive...and yet she is only 12. One of my good friends has a daughter who hasn't left the house in 2 years due to Agoraphobia and severe anxiety. The biggest thing that I have noticed from the many people I have encountered is what I would call...Living too fully in the moment. When my daughter or my friend's daughter (who I will call M.) are having anxiety or going through some kind of episode, they only see what is in front of them. You can talk to them until you are blue in the face and all they see is this moment. Infortunately, when they are feeling better, they then have to suffer the consequences of not being aware that life is more than that uncomfortable, unhappy moment. M. goes on line and meets someone and because of their kindness in that second becomes convinced she is love...then, if they disappoint her...she is convinced they never cared and are a horrible person. Life, is made up of many moments and many feelings and nothing should be evaluated using the narrow confines of just this second. I know what you go through is really difficult and I am not trying to dismiss it. But, they next time you feel overwhelmed and the walls are closing in...it may help to keep in mind that there may be something in the next hour, next day...that you will discover or learn...that makes this moment not nearly as important as it seemed. And I agree with Cameron...it is unimportant in the end if you looked one way or another...it is what is in your heart, your mind and the content of your character that will be remembered and live on. I wish you happy times and peace within yourself.

Good for you! I am glad you are feeling better. I also want to commend you for seeing the reality of what your family has been through. At the moment, that isone of our problems...my daughter seems oblivious to what she is doing to her family. She always thinks that we are lying and she takes the "victim" role. Thank you for your prayers and kindness. I do hope that now that some of us here are aware of you and your past, that you will call on us for support Whether you have dreads or not, there are plenty of people who care and are willing to offer words of wisdom or even just listen. I truly believe that dreads choose us and not the other way around...so, if t is meant to be it will surely happen. May you continue to be blessed <3

Anthony said:

Not harsh at all, all helpful supportive conversations going on here for the better good . One thing anxiety has done to me is block out the fact that other people/families have the same, similar or harder problems to deal with, and that is definitely not the way I think when I'm in a normal happy state of mind. Anxiety and depression seems to be something that does spread throughout family and some true friends, all because we care about each other. My family has been through hell because of me and are suffering almost the same as i was until I did get some help, and that made me feel awful but they do understand. Being there for someone seems to be the best medicine when it comes to things like this, it's a good thing you are pretty strong and educated so you can help your family and friends through all of this. I hope all goes well for all of you, as long as you help each other out everyone should be fine. As for me I've been doing alot better now, a few things needs changed but I will be fine. Thank you so much for your time. Prayers to all.

Panterra Caraway said:

I hope that this doesn't sound harsh...I truly don't mean it to. I have a child who is Bi-Polar and have been a part of mental health support group for the last 5 years. Because of my daughter's problems, the rest of the family now suffers from anxiety and PTSD. My daughter can be very violent and abusive...and yet she is only 12. One of my good friends has a daughter who hasn't left the house in 2 years due to Agoraphobia and severe anxiety. The biggest thing that I have noticed from the many people I have encountered is what I would call...Living too fully in the moment. When my daughter or my friend's daughter (who I will call M.) are having anxiety or going through some kind of episode, they only see what is in front of them. You can talk to them until you are blue in the face and all they see is this moment. Infortunately, when they are feeling better, they then have to suffer the consequences of not being aware that life is more than that uncomfortable, unhappy moment. M. goes on line and meets someone and because of their kindness in that second becomes convinced she is love...then, if they disappoint her...she is convinced they never cared and are a horrible person. Life, is made up of many moments and many feelings and nothing should be evaluated using the narrow confines of just this second. I know what you go through is really difficult and I am not trying to dismiss it. But, they next time you feel overwhelmed and the walls are closing in...it may help to keep in mind that there may be something in the next hour, next day...that you will discover or learn...that makes this moment not nearly as important as it seemed. And I agree with Cameron...it is unimportant in the end if you looked one way or another...it is what is in your heart, your mind and the content of your character that will be remembered and live on. I wish you happy times and peace within yourself.