Husband not used to the idea yet.

I have wanted to dread for a long time. I turned 30 this year expecting some sort of change to happen...I realized right away it's only a number. I did however come to the conclusion I was going to transition myself into a dread head. Well, my husband seems to think this will be a temporary thing for me, and above all, only a hair style that I will get sick of in a year or so. We were talking last night and I mentioned that my locs probably wouldn't reach maturity for a few years depending on my progression. He seemed surprised that it had even crossed my mind that I would have dreads for that long. Generally he lets me do what I want with myself with not caring either way. I don't think he realizes just how awesome this is going to be yet. He is being very supportive. I just think the change is a little much for him right now.

updated by @anna-molly: 01/13/15 09:48:19PM

he'll get used to it by the time u turn 60

dont worry

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My new book Ban The Taboo Vol 1

One thing is for sure. I will be cooler than all the other 60 year old ladies in our area And hopefully much more chill.

soaring eagle said:

he'll get used to it by the time u turn 60

dont worry

and maybe with a cooler husband if he doesnt get with the program..haha

liketheverb said:

One thing is for sure. I will be cooler than all the other 60 year old ladies in our area And hopefully much more chill.

soaring eagle said:

he'll get used to it by the time u turn 60

dont worry

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My new book Ban The Taboo Vol 1

My husband is still not with the program. I'm half way to mature locks and he does not have imagination to see my dreads in one more year. He is a completely bald & tidy guy, I drive him crazy!

I imagine that your husband and mine will love our locks when they are mature and will love the comments from others guys who tell them our dreads are sexy & beautiful.

My husband is an Air Force Vet...and very tidy. He does keep a beard, but always short buzzed hair. I don't think he can imagine my dreads a year from now either. I think that is what is lacking in his outlook. I can see the finished result and they are gorgeous! He did give my a compliment on my messy mane with my tam today. So I'm hoping he comes around soon.

the Barrellady said:

My husband is still not with the program. I'm half way to mature locks and he does not have imagination to see my dreads in one more year. He is a completely bald & tidy guy, I drive him crazy!

I imagine that your husband and mine will love our locks when they are mature and will love the comments from others guys who tell them our dreads are sexy & beautiful.

haha...Gee I hope not. I'm a for better or worse type of woman. But if he doesn't it's not like I would be alone.

soaring eagle said:

and maybe with a cooler husband if he doesnt get with the program..haha

liketheverb said:

One thing is for sure. I will be cooler than all the other 60 year old ladies in our area And hopefully much more chill.

soaring eagle said:

he'll get used to it by the time u turn 60

dont worry

he'll learn. I told my hubs from the start I was in it for 3 years minimum no matter what did or didn't happen with my hair. it's taking a long while for my hair to get knotty & form & while I love the process my husband still says he likes my hair from before, he misses running his fingers through it & preferred it straight & flat, but he did tack on that they aren't mature yet. He's interested to see them at that point & then make his conclusion on them, he does see how much I love them & enjoy my hair for the first time. It's a bit more of an adjustment period for them, we feel the changes & see them very closely with excitement, they just view it as hair that is getting messy & funky looking lol. it may take time but if he loves you he won't care what your hair is doing, he'll care that you are happy & he wouldn't want to be taking that away.

My thoughts exactly. He is very supportive and I honestly think he will love the end result. I also think he will enjoy poking fun at me when it gets super crazy. We joke around with eachother alot. I just couldn't imagine my life with out doing this. And we are so in tune with eachother I think he knows that. We talked while he was driving to work today bc he has an hour commute and I said "I really think you are going to like them." He agreed Just hearing him say that made me feel a million times better about how he feels about me changing.

Ixchel said:

he'll learn. I told my hubs from the start I was in it for 3 years minimum no matter what did or didn't happen with my hair. it's taking a long while for my hair to get knotty & form & while I love the process my husband still says he likes my hair from before, he misses running his fingers through it & preferred it straight & flat, but he did tack on that they aren't mature yet. He's interested to see them at that point & then make his conclusion on them, he does see how much I love them & enjoy my hair for the first time. It's a bit more of an adjustment period for them, we feel the changes & see them very closely with excitement, they just view it as hair that is getting messy & funky looking lol. it may take time but if he loves you he won't care what your hair is doing, he'll care that you are happy & he wouldn't want to be taking that away.