So, my dreads are two months old and I'm not sure whether it's a phase or not but I am seriously missing my hair... I miss combing it, I miss brushing it, I just miss it. I am seriously considering taking out, combing them out, whichever. Help with opinions and thoughts.
Whoa. It'll pass. I mean, it's really your choice. But many people go through this phase and then in a few weeks want their locks back. Give it another month. You're going through a messy phase right now. And looking in to mirror as a rats nest on your head may be a little disconcerting. It happens and it's a natural feeling. But they are progressing very nicely. In 2 months you'll be going through your messiest phase, but soon after you will see them coming together beautifully.
it's up to you, but I think you should give them at least 1 more month. If, them, you still want to take them out, do it. But be aware, that you might really regret it. And then you will have to start all over. Those 3 months will be gone. Just as you thought about starting them seriously, think long and hard about whether you really want straight hair again. Or if this is just a fleeting moment ofnostalgia
take every comb and brush u got and throw em in the trash and wait that way u got to buy a new comb to comb out and give yourself 2 months to think about it b4 u do
dread loss depressions very real and profound if you do comb them out you will feel such a sense of loss you wont feel like you and within a year you will be dreaded again so why interrupt the process and koose al that progress
wait it out
I originally started dreading in December 2010. I have combed my hair about 5 times since then. In 15 days, my dreads will celebrate their first year of uninterrupted dreading.
What I'm trying to say is that you can comb them out, and then start dreading again if you regret getting rid of them. They are not one of those once-in-a-lifetime-opportunity things, and you can change your mind.
Ofc, I am always for people keeping their dreads, and I advise you to think it through, put down all the pro's and con's, and decide carefully; but it all comes down to this: it is your decision, and even if you do comb them out, and then go back to dreading later on, it is all about you. None of us can ever know exactly how you feel, and you have the right to decide when it is the right time for you to dread and stick with it.
If you don't have bangs, you could comb out a few in the front, sou you would have 'normal' and dreaded hair all at once.
Those are all very good points... I suppose I have on my side, working for me, is apathy... I am just not looking forward to combing out or spending time doing it... I guess I'll just sit tight and think on it some more. It's kind of hard facing down the stereotypes and assumptions I'm running into, it's hurtful to know someone for years and then have them call you a "dirty hippie." My locks are definitely teaching me about patience, finding beauty on the inside, and toughening my skin against other's prejudices... the emotional journey, I feel, is taking it's toll.
Did they call you that in a derogatory way? I call myself a dirty hippie all the time. I'm barefoot almost all the time. I hate showers. I don't smell. But I am a proud dirty hippie.
In time, you'll get more compliments than criticism. And the people who care enough about how you look, will surface. You'll then be in a place to choose whether you still want them as friends. After being bestfriendswith someone for 20 years, I had to stop hanging out with him. Not because of my hair. there were other more important reasons. But It had to be done. You'll see the people pop up who you really want to be around.
Yes, it was said in a derogatory fashion; but yes, I think true colors are emerging from people as well as myself. Which is a good thing. Thank you all for the support and suggestions; I'm going to wait a month and then reassess. Thank you all. <3
