you're the best! thank you <3
Infinite thanks SE! Perhaps the biggest lesson from the dread journey for me is to let go of perfection Your response has helped me so much. Hope that you have been doing well!
So much love your way! <333
I stopped palm rolling, yet I still notice that my top layer is unraveling after showers. My mom even notices. Even though I have had these baby dreads for 5 1/2 months, I am thinking about spraying them with sea salt before I wash my hair to help them lock up.
First question, would this be harmful to put sea salt in them before washing each time?
Second, could my dreads be too thin and that is why they are hardly progressing? My hair just looks like a "bad hair day", and it gets so disheartening seeing timelines that have mature looking dreads by this point. I wonder if I sectioned them too thin, and should start encouraging them to congo. Is there such a thing as sectioning too thin?
p.s.) I know from my posts it must seem that all I care about is the "look" of dreads. I just wanted to share that often I am very happy with the process and not caring what they look like I find that this journey has already helped me in many ways. However, I have mild OCD and I suppose that is what causes me to worry so much. Thank you for your patience.
Thank you both! I will just stick with separating and putting in beads; no palm rolling or rubber bands My friend did both of those things and has beautiful dreads, so that caused me to want to try. but I'll trust you What damage does palm rolling cause?
I've been trying to resist the urge to ask questions, as I ask so many, but I want to make sure that this is normal and I'm not doing something to cause this.
Whenever I get out of the shower, even if I didn't wash the dreads, the next morning I notice that there's a lot of loose hair (mostly on the top layer) that wasn't there before. I've had these baby dreads for 5 months, and I thought that this only happens when you've had them for a few weeks. The only thing that I'm doing different is palm rolling. My dreads are beginning to knot up more and look more dread-like because of doing this, but I hope that it isn't the reason why some are unraveling.
Thank you bunches!! I just had to hear that. I'll take them out right now (: I did have beads, but then my dreads became bigger and wilder and couldn't move so my dad got a hammer to get them out. He got a few out with pliers, and then accidently cut off a dread with the pliers! haha.
That woman sounds awesome.
Awh wow. What a sweet and thoughtful reply! Thank you for your kindness dear friend (:
I think my problem is the fear of the unknown, more than patience. I really like this wild journey, and I don't care how long it will take for them to be dreads. I just worry that they'll never get there or that I'm doing something wrong haha! I wish there was some confirmation that I'm on the right track, but perhaps the acceptance of the unknown is another lesson dreads are teaching me
I began my dread journey about 5 months ago, though my top layer is probably 2 or 3 months old. I TnRed pretty much my whole bottom layer, and mostly backcombed the top.
I am worried because my hair doesn't look anything like the timelines I have seen. It seems that by this point you can usually tell that a person has dreads. Mine just looks like ratty hair. No one can ever tell that I' have dreads. My family members laugh at me and say things like, "your hair will never dread", and "it doesn't look like you have dreads, just ratty hair" this is really discouraging.
A few days ago I visited my friend who has had her beautiful locks for a year and a half now. She said that I just haven't given my hair enough maintenance, and should palm roll and separate more. In a picture I uploaded of my baby dreads, SE even said that it looks like I have to separate more. Yet I separate every day, and usually only a few need to be separated so I'm not sure why it looks like it needs it so much. Maybe I just have a lot of loose hairs?
My friend put rubber bands around some of my dreads, and I have began doing this also. I know that it's looked down upon on here, but my friend did it to hers and they're so beautiful. She doesn't use wax or crochet or anything like that.
She cut her rubber bands out when they were no longer needed, or when the dread tried to swallow it.
I don't care if my hair looks disgusting right now, as long as I am on the right track. but I fear that my hair will never dread and will just stay this ugly mess. I'm sorry for the long post and complaining, but I have the urge to just cut them all out. Thank you for reading this!
With my top layer down, no one can tell that I have even thought about dreading my hair. Someone actually made fun of dreadlocks in front of me, so the top layer is pretty "normal" haha!
Here is my top layer pulled up:
I can't believe all of the length I have lost in just 4 months! The hair at the top of my shoulders used to be at the middle of my back.
Having fun on this dread journey A big thanks to all on here who have helped me in so many ways!