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I get it now...
I had a realization today. Just a few minutes ago actually. I back combed 3 dreads myself a few weeks before letting the rest go naturally. Since then I have done no backcombing at all (besidesa little tightening of already existing knots at the roots of 2 spots in my hair I wanted to wrap). Today a friend and I did a few more wrappings in our hair. I realized (after noticing how much faster hers was dreading than mine) that my hair, for whatever reasons, may take longer to officially dread than I initially expected. Today a friend of mine also re-iterated his opinion that since my hair is the hair that it is, i really should give my dreads a head start by back combing or twist/ripping or whatever- that by itself my hair will not dread easily or quickly. So, after a day of dread-frustration, I unwrapped one of the barely dreaded segments of hair I wrapped earlier, and backcombed it into a dread and wrapped it back up. But, while semi-furiously (I'm also a little angry right now for other reasons) ripping a fine toothed comb in an unnatural direction through my beautiful hair andbeing able to literally hear my hair suffering- I realized something I thought I already knew. Dreading your hair is not about having dreads. It's not about the result, its the process. The experience. The journey. Any method other than 100% natural dreading doesn't justtake away a few miles ofyour path- it completley eliminates it. Sometimes I'm proud of the dreads that I have from previously backcombing...but now I've realized- I would be completley happy never having visible dreads, if that's all my hair is capable of.I know it's not, as many of the baby dreads I wrapped and put pics up of a few days ago were completley natural, but if it were- i would be ok with that. I am not doing this to have dreaded hair (irrelevent of my initial intentions), I am doing this to let my hairdecide what it wants to do, i am doing this to let my hair teach me things that my mind cannot, I am doing this to set myself free. And myjourney will give this to me, not my dreads.
so true. my hair, my dreads, my story.
and the small lessons you can learn by listening to every part of your own body. hair, bones, eyes, skin, et al.
"conquer yourself and you conquer the world"
this is so wonderful
Yea just let time go and live your life! Kinda sounded like you were just too worried or wanted to really speed things up. On average one year is what it takes and for some ( like me ) that can be a long time!
Congrats you're making so much progress. Not just with locking but with your mind. Many people who get frustrated fail to come to this conclusion.
When you start to lock your hair, it is natural to feel some frustration when they aren't mature the next day. You are absolutely right. It's about the process, not the results
ill give yu another realizationj
its only been weeks and u already had some natural dreads..ignore what the freinds saying shes just jealouse of the fact that you are dreading without all the painful hair pulling
but your so right it is all about the journey