maybe someone already mentioned this: but this is an old urban legend...it was told about bee-hive hair stylestoo..no worries!
YES! i totally feel you here...I put off dreads for 12 years because my partner told me he didn't like them and would not like me to have them...but then I guess I was asking his opinion too. I finally got to the point where I didn't want anyone elses opinion anymore and at that point it all comes together you know?
Ironiclyhe really loves my hair now...I suspect you will find the same for your wife: it is a journey for her also, it is a change, she KNOWS it is a long-term change, she will grow right along with them, with you , and soon she won't remember what you looked like without dreads. And she won't care to. I think maybe our partners get afraid for us (what will the parents? the kids? the cops? our bosses? think...) I think part ofmy husband'strouble with them was wanting to keep me (and him 
safe from that: oh god are we gonna be searched every time we want to fly somewhere???. so just step forward, and i think you will find her walking with you. best of luck an many blessings!
My hair did this too: very fast and all connectedin a webbedmat at the bottom...I found it sort of chilled out after about the 3ish week mark. It slowed down andI was able to "catch up" on the seperating. At first I thought I would never be able to seperate all the way down to the roots but when I pulled them apart they sure did...I hope that helps...
Maybe she could seperate them herself and it won't hurt so bad?I agree that they look great
or....you could go to a thrift store, find a 100% wool sweater and cut off the sleave ... insta tam
i read this last night. there is so much i want to say about this, but i am afraid it will come out in a tangled mess...but here goes.
i thought thisblogger spoke his mind, he was not hateful....only baffled. okay so he doesn't understand that lots of us white folk fight our hair everyday to keep it from dreading...he doesn't know they come natural too, and doesn't see his hypocracy. okay. his points may be mute, but the underlying feelings are not. they are very real and are born anger and....i can't even pretend to know. tension DOES exist, and until we can live comfortably with the tension it will not, can not be healed. until we can stand in the fire storm of that anger, and just allow it to be expressed there can not be growth.
there is a gentleman on here (sorry i forgot your i.d.) who spoke of dreads forming on the slave ships....that is wrenching to me...can we stand in that for a moment? and then can we allow someone tohave strong feelings that they may not be able to express well, or even be fully aware of why he feels how he feels when he sees a wpwd(white people with dreads)? can we who so deeply desire acceptance give the same?
maybe i am overly sensitive and allow room for negativity, or maybe this listening is an important step to healing the huge wound in our country in particular and our world in general.
Kapil, right on...ditto ditto. yes yes.
I love the question of "American" food. We are such a young culture, I think our authentic couisine is very unrefined and therefore undefined. Survival foods: pan breads, dandilion greens and rabbit. Dried fruits, nuts, etc: this is what I would argue are "American" foods...but most folks don't eat like this (we try to but I would be lieing if I didn't say I am very thankful for my tumeric, cardamon, ginger etc....and I am aware that for the most part these come from far far away). We shroud our wildness, newness,and what could be beautiful idealisticyouth, in commercial glamour.Those of us who long for depth often adopt other ways, other traditions andother foods.America (post European invasion)was never isolated long enough to develop her own "food culture" before it was hijacked by fast food....
ah yes...off topic. But it is all wrapped up together.
in the end people are not meant to worry over what they eat...we eat our food and we are thankful for our food. We hopefuy have access to whole foods, natural foods. Thankfulness and gratitude that we have food "choices" should replace our judgement of others.
