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A time line. 9 months. No products. No tools. A bit of partial preliminary T&R. Seperation as needed.

Dreading Methods

Well, yet again I have not updated this in quuuiiiiiite a while. I am now, having started my dreads on the 14th Nov 2010, on 18 months. Where has all the time gone???? It is very strange looking back on how much they have changed from their tentative bird nest beginnings. I still love them very much. I have had zero problems with them. There were a couple which decided recently that they would rather be two than one so I split them. They are mostly mature now, but they are still doing a lot of changing. I have a lot of zig zags and loops still to finish doing their thing but I really like the messy look of them. I don't think I would suit really neat ones. I am not a neat and tidy person :P I still maintain they are the best thing I ever did, and since growing them I have felt more like myself than I ever have done. They also mean that on stage I can make of my head a work of art, filled with feathers and what not and they have become somewhat of a stage trademark, with me becoming well known for my feathery locks I am currently in the process of buying some dread extensions of funky colours, because I am a big fan of visual detail and want to add more colour... greens and what not to the the whole rustic kind of image. I get constant compliments about my hair now which is something that never happened before I grew my dreads.

To you beginner dready people at this point, I would say always persevere and try not to worry about the birds nest/flat locks stages because they really do go away in the end. Neatness, is not a norm to which one should aspire if one wishes to be a dread head

updated by @fay-brotherhood: 02/05/15 10:12:49AM

A time line. 9 months. No products. No tools. A bit of partial preliminary T&R. Seperation as needed.

Dreading Methods

Ha ha, they replied to a post of mine the other day which I made in November. To which I responded pointing out they had previously been anonymous and now everyone could see who I was talking about and the message promptly disappeared. Considering the amount of money this person owes me, and the fact I am paying for property damage caused by them, I think it's pretty cheeky to leave such a post. As I no longer have enough respect for this person to provide anonymity. Names Godbowling on here . I'd be surprised if they haven't deleted themselves in an inability to escape their sea of wrongness............

A time line. 9 months. No products. No tools. A bit of partial preliminary T&R. Seperation as needed.

Dreading Methods

Bit of encouragement for you people just starting.

before dreading

Day 4, back in November

Week or 2 later

14th December. Post Twist and rip frizz ball!

January. Loopy crazy birds nest :P

OK, these were my dreads at about 4 months old. Just starting to tighten up. At this point I was able to stop separating every day.

April

Around about May

Yesterday, at 9 months. They are still very very loopy and I am seeing a slowing of progress now. I think they are starting to do some shrinkage as some keep migrating further and further up my face. I love them though. I did get a rather negative comment the other day however from some fool.......

"hows about get fucked my dreads look a shit tun beter than your shitty matty mess.......!"

This coming from someone who has doused em in wax, kept elastic bands in for 10 months, palm rolled, root rubbed, interlocked, folded them in half AND crochet'ed and has spent the entire journey complaining that they look shit/they hate them and want to shave them off, while lamenting their old glorious swathes of shiny long hair.

I lol'd. Because I have had nothing but pleasure from this here journey. It has been effortless and a great lesson in freedom. Doing my hair now consists of washing (if it needs it) and putting it up in some way. I feel a lot more confident in my appearance now I have embraced my hairs natural tendency to be a mess (it never liked styles or straightening, it always rebelled!). I now only have to wash it once a week cos it just doesn't get greasy any more and that means no worries about many lank greasy hair on camping trips and what not. I love them, and I look forward to watching their continued organic, beautiful evolution.

updated by @fay-brotherhood: 02/05/15 10:12:49AM

Please take a look and let me know if this is ok...

Introduce Yourself

It's normal.It's because at present your hair is quite short. The little bumpy bit will probably stay there, but it will become less noticeable in relation to the rest of your hair as it grows and increases in its wild dready volume! Mine are about 9 months old and shoulder length and I still have bumpy lumpy bits around the roots. Don't worry about it. No one but you will notice

I need opinions please.

Dreading Methods

1 month, T n R, and natural

9 months. Love em.

Patience is your friend Don't fall into any maintenence traps. They will ultimately only slow your progress. Someone I knews dreads were no where near this point at 9 months because he fell from the start hook line and sinker for Johnny cleans lies.

updated by @fay-brotherhood: 02/05/15 10:12:49AM

Ignorance about ignorance.

General Talk

I will have a look at that Charlotte

I would argue that morality in it's most basic form has an evolutionary basis. There is growing evidence in animal behaviour studies that morality is not just a human trait, but a trait existing throughout the social animals. The argument being, that in order to survive and thrive and produce more offspring in a social setting there needs to be certain 'rules of conduct'.
A selfish individual who cheats the system and plays everyone for a fool, will inevitably be found out and ultimately will shoot themselves in the foot. e.g Vampire bats sometimes fail to find a meal. On their return their neighbour will regurgitate some blood for them to keep em going. They expect the favour to be returned. If it is not, the 'cheater' is identified and soon no one will give him a meal. Much like that person who borrows money from everyone and never gives it back. Soon no one will lend them money, or trust them and they will ultimately lose out!

A human rapist might in the short term spread more seed, but quickly he will be shunned by females in a group who will not want to breed with him through choice, and he is likely to be ortracised by his group. thus in the long term he loses out and reduces his reproductive success. Yea he will pass on some of his rapist genes so the behaviour will persist, but not enough to become widespread as its not an evolutionarily stable strategy.

Empathy is a part of morality, and also essential to the process of morality. A social animal must have feelings of empathy towards its conspecifics or it will have no drive to help them. In turn that would mean it would not be helped by its conspecifics. Lack of empathy would mean everyone loses out. Alliances are essential to a social animal, and you can't build a proper alliance without feelings. I read a couple of cruel but interesting studies on empathy. A rat is placed in a cage with a lever that it presses to receive food. There is a rat in a cage next to it, which gets electrocuted every time the lever is pressed. When he associated the pressing of the lever with the other rat being hurt, he refused to press the lever, even under duress of great hunger.

If that is not morality I don't know what is.

Another rat study which was pretty brutal for the poor rattys, looked at the reaction to rats exposed to the decapitation of conspecifics. It was found they had exactly the same stress response as a human would have, exposed to a person being brutally beheaded.

I would recommend alook at the book 'Wild Justice - The Moral Lives of Animals" by Bekoff and Pierce for a really really eye opening read. And if you search google scholar for Animal empathy you will find loads of really interesting studies

updated by @fay-brotherhood: 07/23/15 04:13:21PM

Ignorance about ignorance.

General Talk

Again, I added the word prejudice as just a simple, highly generalised example to illustrate a point. I was never talking about the root of prejudice and its mechanisms. I believe it is just one of the many symptoms of the concept of being ignorant about your own ignorance.

I'm just making some linkages and hypothesising based upon observations of the workings of a few people I have known who have been generally not nice people. I have noticed that the thought processes that allow their worst behaviour seem to filter down into less significant areas of life. And I wonder if that is a thing of significance.

I like reading about psychology but I'm doing a wildlife conservation degree and will never be a psychology expert by any stretch of the imagination. HOWEVER I am NOT ignorant of my own ignorance, which is the point behind my post. II think it's nice to share everyone's pooled knowledge on forums and share ideas

Ignorance about ignorance.

General Talk

When 'lumping' these ideas together, I mention the dread thing more than anything because I was looking for small things to illustrate the point alongside large things that anyone who is totally closed minded on a subject, even in the face of evidence to the contrary is of potentially worrying mindset.

Of course I am generalising here, there are exceptions to every rule, but it's just a perception.

On the dreadmaintenancething, obviously it's up to everyone what they do, but the point I was making was of totally closed minded people who live in ignorance. There is nothing wrong with a choice made after educating yourself. It is the people who are ignorant about the fact they live in ignorance that irk me.......... and that applies to so many things in life....... and I just think it's a mind set that potentially leads from small insignificant things to much bigger things....

Ignorance about ignorance.

General Talk

Being ignorant on a subject is forgiveable. You can learn. People can help you, you can absorb information and thus reduce your ignorance. As such the ignorant evolve into the enlightened.But what do you do when you are ignorant about your own ignorance? When no matter how much some one tries to tell you the truth, and how much evidence of the truth is placed before them, they still refuse to listen and believe? I'm not talking about religion because that's a whole different ball game when speaking of faith. I'm speaking of the smaller, wholly provable things in life. Things like stealing being wrong... that you should fix and pay for damages to other peoples goods you cause..... that you should pay people back who do you favours. That vandalising things of beauty and importance to others is wrong. That breaking into property just for shits and giggles is wrong. That making others feel bad is wrong. Even to smaller things like the fact there is no NEED for dread maintenance, that a posh name doesn't mean your clothes/car/guitar are necessarily any better than the next persons. That some animals just do not exist and are an urban myth...... the list goes onWhen a person denounces fact.... I mean something that CANNOT be speculated upon cos anyone with half a brain cell can see it..... it then goes beyond ignorance and into stupidity.This is how racism and prejudice is born. It is how a criminal mind evolves. A dangerous mind set. When someone is able to fully believe, in an unshaking manner that wrong is right.... about any subject despite attempts to educate, I think you are looking at a potentially dangerous person. When you meet a person who is completely sure that wrong is right you should run away. This is something I have learned and I am only glad that I have never come a cropper before I learned this lesson...Discuss.
updated by @fay-brotherhood: 02/14/15 12:05:11PM

crochet dreads recovery to natural dreadocks

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Looking lovely for 5 days! Mine looked like I'd been electrocuted at 5 days :P