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just need some unbiased advice :)

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thank you everyone for their advice and outlooks on the situation! i appreciate it sooo much I'm moving this discussion to the 'word must be heard' group if you want to comment on it. Thanks again!

just need some unbiased advice :)

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wow, that was some amazing advice! i do tend to want to please others...a lot, so that might be why i was so upset by one measly negative comment. i do love writing for many of the same reasons you write. It helps me figure out all the things i have roaming around in my head, and it feels so good to get it all out on paper. and i just feel closest to myself while writing.

But another reason i like to write and the main reason i wrote my book is because i like entertaining people- my novel is fantasty/fiction genre- and it's like my own personal escape from every day mundanity; the same reason i love to read, and i would love it if my book helped at least one person tohave that same escape. Plus being able to be in control of what happens to your characters is another perk to writing fiction. In the real world i'm very passive aggressive, but in my writing world i ama power monger! haha

Thanks again for your advice Willow! it helped a lot!
Willow said:

I'm a writer, too. My editor told me, "The novel is dead, and you wrote the last one." I have been rejected by many agents and publishing houses - so I know all about receiving negative remarks. Here's how I get through:

I figured out WHY I write. I write because it helps me see things in different ways. I write because I feel the need to, like a splinter in the mind. I write because, once it's on paper (or a screen), I don't have to think about it anymore. Why do you write?

And I figured out why I'm not publishable or liked: publishing houses want to print what sells. They don't care if someone actually wants to read it or not. If it is purchased, that's all they care about. If I don't fall into their money-making mainstream, then I am not someone who will be read.

If you like what you write, then that needs to be all you need. If you write to please others, some will be pleased and others won't. The more you need their approval, the more disappointed you will be as a writer.

Do what's right by you, and let them go.

just need some unbiased advice :)

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thank you so much! xD i knew there would be negative opinions out there, i just thought i would be better at dealing with them. but i'm gonna try the best i can to either learn from constructive critisism or disregard it, depending on if what they say is justified or not. It's gonna be hard to get over the initial reaction tho. no one wants to hear bad things about something they worked so hard on. but it's all a process! thanks again for your advice. it is much appreciated
fancyAmanda said:

Well first of all I give you major kudos for writing a book and putting it out there... just know that people will have opinions all day long, it's completely up to you how you choose to deal with the negative ones. They will always be there, you can either hide from it or take it for what it is. Be proud of yourself; you've done something that not many people can ever do.

just need some unbiased advice :)

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very true. i never thought of it that way. thanks! mean people can be a drag

soaringeagle said:

u got a book on sale on amazon they dont..you win

mean ppl are mean u cant help that

just need some unbiased advice :)

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ahahah oh i'm gonna whip my hair back n forth thanks for your advice! i knew there would be people who don't like it cuz it's kind of directed at a certain audience. it was just an initial reaction to be defensive about it, but i feel better now. if i think their constructive critisism is justified, i'll learn from it, but if it's not i'll learn to disregard it thanks again!
Personal Jesus MD said:

Well if you feel good about the work you put into a book its all good if others dont like it thats them they can chose not to buy or not at the end of the day somebody is going to buy it and if not then hey you tried most people dont write books

:P just whip your hair back and forth

just need some unbiased advice :)

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So this doesn't have anything to do with dreads, but i just recently wrote a book and am about ready to make it available to buy on amazon. I have something set up online so people can review half of the first chapter, and it's been up since january. I thought i would be good at taking critisism but last night somone rated it and was kind of mean about what they had to say. I'm trying really hard not to let it bother me, because i love my book and my new motto is to be happy no matter what obstacles i have to face, but they seemed to have hit every nerve and every worry i've ever had about my book. i was just looking for some advice from people i don't know. I felt like my friends were baby-ing me when i brought it up to them. I don't want that cuz it makes me feel worse. I'm just lookin for some advice from people who might have some experience in being critiqued on something they love and how to handle it without letting it put a damper on everything. Any and all advice is much appreciated
updated by @jessica-acosta: 01/13/15 08:59:45PM

Just curious!

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that's exactly how i feel. even though mine are still young and pretty short, i would never go back on my decision to dread. i seriously cannot wait until mine get as long as yours!

hippie mama said:

well ive had my hair for almost 5 yrs and they are about 5 inches above my butcrack long. i know tmi right. well i have a mix of thick and thin dreads. when i wash my hair though dude sometimes i could swear they feel like there about 30 lbs. just like a shit load of long sponges ya know. then it takes like 2 days to dry but i wouldnt shange them for the world. when their dry though they feel like their maybe 2 lbs but like i said their not short and my hair of course is alot thicker then it ever was before. despite the weight i love em so much that i would never cut them off

Just curious!

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thanks i can't wait until mine are long enough to tie up and just do crazy stuff. glad to hear they won't be real heavy!

Just curious!

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i hope this isn't a stupid question, but i was wondering if dreads get heavy when they get really long.especially the real thick ones. I'm just curious they seem like they would be kinda heavy, especially when they're wet.
updated by @jessica-acosta: 01/13/15 08:58:40PM

Odd Washing Question

Dread Maintenance

i use a half gallon milk jug. its easy peezy to pour with one hand