Sorry, just needed to vent to fellow dreadies and submerge myself in a positive environment right now
General Talk
Hey Mandy, so sorry to hear about this painful situation! It's so hard to deal with state workers! I used to run a girls ranch for troubled youth. They were kids that were taken away from their homes because it was an unsafe environment but then they had gotten in to trouble while in foster care and then we would get them. We had 12 teenage girls. We tried our hardest to be a family and teach them what real families were like, you know, loving mother and father, how to treat each other as siblings. We would take them on all kinds of trips and activities.One thing I learned after being involved with child protective services, case workers, judges and attorneys, is that the system is seriously flawed! BUT I honestly do not believe that people get into that kind of work for any other reason but to help kids. Because there IS so much abuse and pain there are WAY to many kids in the system. State employees are over worked and under paid and under appreciated. They're tired. But they still want to help. They always want to do the very best thing for the child.I guess all I'm trying to say is, you asked for positive energy and affirmations, I would start with, don't view the system as the enemy. For as flawed as it is, there are good intentions. As soon as you get on the "fighting" end of things then that's exactly what will happen, you'll have a fight. Try to be appreciative that you have people trying to do what's right for you and your child. I know that's hard when it feels like they're out to get you.I'm not telling you to do anything different then SE or anything else. I agree that you should take some action as far as, I don't know, get outside "witnesses" take pictures of this bruise. Write everything down, dates, statements, everything. Just in case this is carried to someplace you don't want it to go. All I'm saying is that WHILE your doing this just change your view. Protect yourself while being grateful that there are people who care about your child's well being. Does that make sense?Imagine your mother-in-law engulfed in a beautiful, calm, peaceful, pink light....all around her, she'll mellow out. Kill her with kindness...and pray for her that she won't have to live her whole miserable life based on who's gunna think what about her...what a sad existence that she (and so many other people) think they have to live in.and in the mean time....I'll be happy to send the good vibrations your way!Good luck Sistah,B
