Losing Patience- Need a good kick in the pants
Dreadlocks Journey Emotional Support
So, I'm 8 1/2 Months into this journey and I've loved it. Here's where my problem comes in-
When I'm around the house, hair is wild and free. I love to wear it down. On the occasions where I go out, I put on a headpiece of some kind (wrap, tam, etc) to help out because my dreads are a bit wild. Finally, about 3 weeks ago, I decided to wrap my hair a bit because the dreads were going everywhere, congo-ing, and I had to go to some interviews and appointments I had to look "tame" for. So, wrapped them. Now that all that hullabaloo is over, I finally unwrapped them tonight.
They are back to being crazy. I know that it takes about 2-3 years before they start looking good. I started this journey to, in part, teach me patience. But with the holidays coming up, I'm starting to stress a bit. I need some reassurance that they will, eventually, look good.
The part I have the most trouble with is the back of my hair. It looks like I've this circle of balding in the back of my head. I have super thick hair so I thought it would look more evenly distributed, but it doesn't. Also, I know that the roots will eventually start looking better, but right now they're a pain in my butt.
With winter coming my war with dry skin has already started and thus the whole dandruff war. I'm trying to mess a bit with the mixture so that I can combat it, but I'm having a hard time keeping it so that it's not gross looking now.
I feel like I'm losing focus, like I'm losing my patience. This is the first time I've started feeling this way. For the first time I'm considering taking the dreads out. Hubby says I'll regret it for the rest of my life if I do it. I guess I'm asking for some honest advice, anecdotes, or someone to tell me to go f- myself. I just need a good kick in the pants or some agreement. I don't really know what I'm looking for. I'm at a crossroads and I guess I just needed to ... talk.
updated by @fieryfaeriefury: 01/13/15 09:37:11PM
