I will be combing out my dreads
Careful with drunk girls around your head, though. lol
If they are 2 years old, you should never have been able to rip them in half. That is proof in itself that they weren't mature. That is what wax does. You probably could have palm rolled the 2 halves back together and not even known it was separated once.
A mature lock is so intertwined that it would take half a bottle of conditioner, a brush and a few days to separate it. Not one kid in an instant with their bare hands
They will always be messy. Even mature locks are frizzy. If you really need to keep the neat for a special event like a wedding, or pictures, you can get the gel from dreadlockshampoo.com. But I wouldn't recommend doing it on the regular. You need them to be messy for a while. If they aren't messy, they aren't locking.
You're not ananomaly I have a friend who has 6 year old locks that you can't feel the wax in either. It's because the wax is covered up by hair. It isn't on the surface anymore. Now it's stuck in the core of your locks. And it will be harder to remove because of it. And Beeswax is even harder to remove than DHHQ and KB.
Wax will never wash out in normal washes, so you can be 100% sure it's all there. If you were to cut open a lock, you'd see hair as an outer layer with a gooey sticky core.
If you are serious about removing it, spend a little extra time working the remover deep inside and let it sit for a bit longer
I can't believe that it wasn't mentioned yet.
While you may like blunted tips, are you prepared for them to take 5+ more hours to dry? That's just the average. Blunted tips hold water longer which increases the chance of mold and mildew to grow. I have blunted tips on a few locks and they take up to 24 hours to dry completely. The ones that aren't blunted dry in about 14 hours.
And if you have locks under a year old blunting them will not make a difference. If they aren't fully locked, the new blunted parts will just come undone and you'll have to spend all that time doing it over again
What your kids think is way more important than your parents. But in the end it's always how you like them.
I understand that you get frustrated once in a while. It happens to us all. But it's a process that takes some time. Just bare with it. Feeling free is what it's all about.
The process of locking is always a 1 step forward 2 steps back in the beginning. 2 months is practically no time at all. In TnR and back combing that process is greatlyexaggerated.
Everyone who did TnR sees a lot of unraveling before they see any progress. This is completely normal. Sometimes hair does come completely out at first. Don't worry about that.
And the roots in baby locks will almost always be straight for between 1 and 3 inches. When they mature that shrinks to between 1/4 and 1 inch.
Dreadlocks do not form over night. Mature locks, on average, take a full year to develop.