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Soo, today is my 12th day of neglect and... I just spent at least 15 min in the bathroom putting beads to my hair so that the hair wouldn't evolve into one gigantic mess.

I must admit that I panicked a bit. I don't know why. My hair is just.. such a mess. I'd rather leave it alone and just forget about it but if I do so, the result will be horrible. I have to separate. I felt like this isn't going anywhere.

So, this was my hair yesterday, it's pretty much the same today, except for a few new beads.

I'm not totally sure when should I separate.. it feels like the top layers of my hair get together very easily and the hair feels somewhat dry - perhaps that's one reason why they tangle together.

Then again the lower part of my hair isn't doing much.. a lot of straight hair especially on the sides, but in the back the hair likes to form some kind of .. bundle of hair. I don't know how to describe the differences well.. :/

At this point, I really can't turn back nor am I sure I would want to.. my hair is pretty damaged, I think so it's best for it to dread, I think.

updated by @purkurr: 02/14/15 05:51:39AM

dreadlocks changing more than your hair

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I don't know, how I have changed since the decision of having dreads.. but I have seen these really strange dreams.

I have already two times this year decided to let my hair dread and everytime I have made the decision, I've had these weird dreams. In the first one I was with my classmates, and one of them said to me: "You have really changed, you are now fully changed spiritually." And I became so happy in that dream! It was a bit of a disappointment to wake up.

In the second dream, which was last week, another classmate of mine somehow.. did somekind of a treatment on me, spiritual healing or something like that and then she showed me two roads. One was the road of life and it was sunny and warm, and golden and the other one was a road of death and of course it was dark and scary. Most of the people I saw walked towards the road of life, but I didn' t - I chose the road of death but to my surprise, I wasn't scared at all. I somehow became "friends" with death.

Well, I don't know about these dreams, but they sure were strange, and oddly enough, happened to me every time I made the decision to dread.

Greetings from a dread-a-holic in Finland

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I'm in Helsinki - what about you, Elli?

Elli said:

Other crazy Finns, great! Where are you located?

Greetings from a dread-a-holic in Finland

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Thank you, Jackie C.!

I'ts nice to know that I'm not totally alone with these thoughts. Luckily, these thoughts are getting less and less room in my mind. Well, last week I did have a difficult moment, but this week has been quite alright, haven't had too much time to think about my hair.

Jackie C. said:

I love this post, Purkurr! I can totally relate to the thoughts you describe going through your mind, especially about being obsessed w dreads but worrying about being too old or how they "fit in" to the other stuff I'm doing. I'm also a singer. It's really cool to meet others like me on here. 'So glad we connected!

Greetings from a dread-a-holic in Finland

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Thank you all for your kind support.

I'm sure I can do this. I have told myself that if I want, I can them comb my dreads out when I turn 30 - though I really think that by that time I won't. :P

Greetings from a dread-a-holic in Finland

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Hello you all!

I have been reading this forum for ages, and I signed up last August but I haven't yet published any introduction of myself so here goes.

Yes so, I come from Finland, the land of ice and snow, reindeers, Santa Claus and.. well, a LOT else. We do have four seasons, in fact and thus we have warm summers as well.

I'm now 26 years old, I have been wanting dreads at least forrrr... three or four years. I thought of getting them when I was younger as well, in my teens, but didn't. I have had dreads about two times before, always done with the twist'n'rip method but I have always combed them out ( yeah, I wonder how my hair would look now, if I hadn't combed out the dreads made in 2010.. wow, they would be about 1,5 years old). Perhaps the time just hasn't been right for me.

The biggest threat to my dreads will be me. Yes. I get these intense moments when I just decide that "no, I don't want dreads, take'em off!!" and then I grab the olive oil and soak my hair in it. This has always happened. I hope it won't happen now. I quit combing my hair last week- about five days ago -and I have washed my hair with non-residue soap aaannd.. results are visible. My hair reaaally likes to tangle together. I haven't separated that much, because I understood that the hair should be left alone for a while, but I'm a bit uncertain when exactly to intervene...

I also get these crazy ideas from time to time, about which I have posted, when I think that I can't have dreadlocks because classical singers or dancers don't have dreads. Because dreads just don't fit in the picture. But then again, I'm notonly a singer, I am also much more! I should stop putting these labels upon me. Sometimes I think I can't have dreads because I'm too old.. huh? Yeah, "you shouldn't get dreads, because it's ridiculous to get dreads in this age, you should have started them way earlier". These are the voices which I hear in my mind from time to time. But I wan't to fight back!

So, this is a little peek into my mind and thoughts... what's going on. I really hope I can now start my slow dread journey with the help of these forums and all of you (and my boyfriend, who loves dreads but isvery suspicious when it comes to natural method but I just have to convince him that this is the only way for me to get dreads. I think it's because of the slow transition - my hair will look pretty normal when I put it up in a loose bun, and that's somehow very important for me. I usually panic if I all of the sudden have a head only full of dreads). Ok now I seriously need to stop. :D

Keep dreading!

updated by @purkurr: 01/13/15 09:19:46PM

neglect & backcomb timeline (22 MONTH UPDATE! New pics in comments section)

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Wow, you're progress is awesome!

Natural Dreads At Lightning Speed (updated)

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Yeah, you've got some fiiiiine looking dreads coming up!

Cant make up my mind.. words of wisdom?

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400 dollars, whoa! I also did like a couple of dreads at a salon, they did them by backombing, but I took them out.. that cost almost like 80 dollars for about five dreads. Not so nice. :/ Once one of my friends TnR'd my whole head, but I also took opened them aaaaanndd.. last autumn I TnR'd my hair myself, but ended up opening them as well. Maybe this natural way will stay?

I'm so happy for you too! It was so great to find your post and all the replies to it. This gave me so much more strength.

Cant make up my mind.. words of wisdom?

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You know what ? I'm going on my third day of the natural method. Haven't combed my hair at all, today I did some separating, cause my hair seems to want to stick together. :D I'm so happy that my boyfriend likes girls with dreads, though I'm not sure he likes the natural method (he once had to cut a huge beavertail-lock from a friend of his, so he's a bit suspicious of this method).

I think I'm gonna go with the natural method, it seems the easiest way and I also like to keep my hair looking like hair for a while.

updated by @purkurr: 07/13/15 10:57:17AM