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How'd you come to that conclusion? The post itself said it was about unifying all dreadheads regardless of how they started or how they maintain or don't maintain their dreads. It was Soaring Eagle who first suggested including other members in the debate, not Dreads UK. They're including other people not to try to tear anyone down, but because some people, for example Lazy Dreads, are seen as very knowledgeable, so their information holds weight. And hairdressers...well, they understand hair lol.

Casey Fay said:

ok I am a little confused on this debate thing. I know I am a newbie but man it sounds like this could be bad. The UK post sound almost as if they cannot wait to tear SE down. Wanting to bring in hairdressers and Lazydreads. Whose next DHHQ and KB? If everyones camp is already established, what will this teach people like me who has just started?I thought at first it was to educate, but I don't like put downs like you use to be on top and other remarks of personal character. Is this just my imagination?Please explain to me what this might accomplish. Reputations are hard to fix once damaged. Will this really be worth it in the long run?

updated by @tara-c: 07/23/15 03:53:43AM

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Lazy Dreads isn't all for no maintenance. He tells people that if they backcomb, if they crochet, if they do this and that, this and that may happen, so be careful, etc. He's not strictly against it, he just tells it like it is.

soaring eagle said:

lazy dreads would be all about no maintenance natural dreads so why? weird

someone message panterra see if we cant get her to come back for it

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I think it's a good idea. It's not meant to be hostile or an argument, it's meant to be sharing information and sharing opinions as a way of seeing where each side is coming from and promoting unity rather than judgment amongst the various kinds of people who dread in various ways. I think it can be very well done if done properly

Laura Earle said:

...It's just one can of worms after another being popped open on here.

I'm posting the same thing here as I am in response to that video.

Why should there be a debate over dreading methods? As long as someone is accepting of whatever the possible outcomes may entail, why can't they just do whatever makes them happy and not be judged?

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Yeah, but that's not aggressive, just a misconception lol. I mean, people's biggest complaint about you or about this site as a whole is that you/we can come across as judgmental. And I know you go above and beyond to helping people educate themselves and help keep dreads healthy, but the way you word things can make people see it as an attack. So me, personally, I think a video debate will be excellent, because with voices, they'll be able to see very plainly how much you care about people and their dreads, and that you're not judging or attacking.

I just think if you're going to agree to the debate, we want to promote unity and education amongst all dreadheads, so we have to make sure it's fair for both sides, right? If it's one person against a few people, that one person's voice might be drowned out a bit.

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In that case, you should tell him that, so he knows members from DreadsUK can join the debate, otherwise it'll be one person debating against many people, and that'd get very crowded quickly.

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I can't speak to a camera but I'll be watching, I think that'll be an awesome debate

But won't it be a bit unfair if you have multiple people on your side and he only has himself? Got to be a fair debate!

Restarting dreads after a 1 1/2 years...maybe?

Help! Save My Dreads

You realise that dreads mature eventually, right? So, by that logic...every time your dreads mature, you'll want to start over again to get back to the messy, growing, changing stage. So you'll have to constantly restart your dreads again lol. Which is fine if it's what you want to do, but it sounds like an urge that you'll always have once your dreads go past that stage. So if you want to settle down with them, you'll have to get past that urge, sooner or later.

I had a similar thing, so I combed out a few dreads. Six or seven in total, and left the rest.

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Well, for the size of them, even if you go the natural route, you can somewhat control the size by separating them when they're tangling in sections that are too big. If you want them thicker, you can force them to congo while they're still young, and they'll eventually just look like normal dreads.

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What made you stop dreading last time?

If it'll make you happy, take the plunge again I think if I ever got rid of my dreads, I'd regret it terribly, they've become a big part of my life.

crocheting

Dreading Methods

To 'create' dreads, it's not too bad, unless you do them too tightly. If to maintain them, that's when damage is caused more, because it breaks hairs, so over time, the more you crochet, the more hairs break, until eventually the dread is severely weakened to the point it breaks off.

People who use wax also are very loyal and happy customers, it doesn't mean it isn't damaging, just that people don't see the damage it does. The thing about dreads is that the outside can look perfect, while the inside is a damaged mess, and you can't necessarily tell.

Besides that, it's kind of like palm-rolling; you're doing it to fix something or maintain dreads, make them look neat. And then not long afterwards, they're messy again, because that's life, but also because the thing you're doing to tidy them is causing them to get messy again lol. So damage aside, I think it's pointless, because you'll be crocheting to cover up the frizz and mess caused by crocheting. It's a never-ending battle.