Forum Activity for @anna-molly

Coping with others?

General Questions

I can relate with weird stares. I live in a hick town and going to the gas station this morning was a little annoying for me. However, I do not have low self esteem. I used to...I used to care what everyone thought about me and I would even "mind read" and start assuming what they were thinking. Honestly, you really shouldn't care. They aren't perfect either. Part of becoming a dreadhead in my opinion is excepting who you are, becoming closer to nature and natural things. Being a caring and compassionate individual. With that being said, you must also learn to except that not everyone in the world is going to appreciate that or be sensitive to you. You have to learn to develop a thick skin and let it roll right off you. As long as you are happy with yourself it shouldn't matter what the people think of you. And I have found, if you make eye contact and smile you usually get a better response than when you shy away. Be confident. There is only one you.

Husband not used to the idea yet.

General Talk

My thoughts exactly. He is very supportive and I honestly think he will love the end result. I also think he will enjoy poking fun at me when it gets super crazy. We joke around with eachother alot. I just couldn't imagine my life with out doing this. And we are so in tune with eachother I think he knows that. We talked while he was driving to work today bc he has an hour commute and I said "I really think you are going to like them." He agreed Just hearing him say that made me feel a million times better about how he feels about me changing.

Ixchel said:

he'll learn. I told my hubs from the start I was in it for 3 years minimum no matter what did or didn't happen with my hair. it's taking a long while for my hair to get knotty & form & while I love the process my husband still says he likes my hair from before, he misses running his fingers through it & preferred it straight & flat, but he did tack on that they aren't mature yet. He's interested to see them at that point & then make his conclusion on them, he does see how much I love them & enjoy my hair for the first time. It's a bit more of an adjustment period for them, we feel the changes & see them very closely with excitement, they just view it as hair that is getting messy & funky looking lol. it may take time but if he loves you he won't care what your hair is doing, he'll care that you are happy & he wouldn't want to be taking that away.

Husband not used to the idea yet.

General Talk

haha...Gee I hope not. I'm a for better or worse type of woman. But if he doesn't it's not like I would be alone.

soaring eagle said:

and maybe with a cooler husband if he doesnt get with the program..haha

liketheverb said:

One thing is for sure. I will be cooler than all the other 60 year old ladies in our area And hopefully much more chill.

soaring eagle said:

he'll get used to it by the time u turn 60

dont worry

Husband not used to the idea yet.

General Talk

My husband is an Air Force Vet...and very tidy. He does keep a beard, but always short buzzed hair. I don't think he can imagine my dreads a year from now either. I think that is what is lacking in his outlook. I can see the finished result and they are gorgeous! He did give my a compliment on my messy mane with my tam today. So I'm hoping he comes around soon.

the Barrellady said:

My husband is still not with the program. I'm half way to mature locks and he does not have imagination to see my dreads in one more year. He is a completely bald & tidy guy, I drive him crazy!

I imagine that your husband and mine will love our locks when they are mature and will love the comments from others guys who tell them our dreads are sexy & beautiful.

Husband not used to the idea yet.

General Talk

One thing is for sure. I will be cooler than all the other 60 year old ladies in our area And hopefully much more chill.

soaring eagle said:

he'll get used to it by the time u turn 60

dont worry

Husband not used to the idea yet.

General Talk

I have wanted to dread for a long time. I turned 30 this year expecting some sort of change to happen...I realized right away it's only a number. I did however come to the conclusion I was going to transition myself into a dread head. Well, my husband seems to think this will be a temporary thing for me, and above all, only a hair style that I will get sick of in a year or so. We were talking last night and I mentioned that my locs probably wouldn't reach maturity for a few years depending on my progression. He seemed surprised that it had even crossed my mind that I would have dreads for that long. Generally he lets me do what I want with myself with not caring either way. I don't think he realizes just how awesome this is going to be yet. He is being very supportive. I just think the change is a little much for him right now.

updated by @anna-molly: 01/13/15 09:48:19PM

I think I'm just going to neglect it.

Dreading Methods

So I have been doing some research on how I am going to dread my hair for a couple of weeks now. I thought I had decided on T&R. Now I think I'm just going to neglect it. I wanted to know if I should palm roll the hair every once in a while to help the process? I'm not really in a rush, I more just want to know if it would be beneficial. I received my Lock it Up Shampoo, Sea Salt Spray, and Gel today. Barrellady suggested I start with the baking soda wash first. About how long should I wait to use the shampoo and other stuff that I bought? My hair is about to the middle of my back and usually tangles pretty easily on it's own especially if I don't use conditioner. I do have hard water which is why I bought the shampoo that I did.

updated by @anna-molly: 01/13/15 09:48:15PM

Hi :)

Introduce Yourself

Thank you so much for the information. I'm hoping to start the process this weekend. I'm having a really hard time finding a tam that I like. I also wanted to ask. I have hard water in my home. Is there anything I should do to prevent build up so my dreads don't start to smell like sulfur?

Hi :)

Introduce Yourself

I'm Racheal. I joined last night to get more information on how I am going to start my dreads. At first I was going to get a dread perm, but that idea never sat well with me. I think after reading dreading methods I am probably going to go with the twist and rip method. I could use some advice on what kind of shampoo and oil I will need for maintenance. I haven't gotten that far in my reading the forums yet, but I wanted to take the time to introduce myself. I just turned 30. Happily married mother of two. I have always loved dreadlocks, but didn't think they would be an option for me until recently. I have thin hair, but I think I can make it work because I want to do skinny dreads. I love music, tattoos, movies, and being outside when it's warm. I kind of hibernate in the winter time. I like to blog about my life. I'm a pretty loyal person. I'm can be very generous and have been taken advantage of in the past because of it. I'm spiritual, but I don't believe in god so much as I believe in science, nature, and the universe. I hope to learn alot from the community here.

updated by @anna-molly: 01/13/15 09:46:15PM