Dreaducation: learning the hard way.
Hello everyone! My name's Caroline and i've had dreads for a little over four months, and am currently in the process of combing them out. My current situation has invaded my mind for the past week and i decided that i really wanted to write it all down, so i can see my thoughts, and i figured i might as well share it with anyone that cares. To anyone considering dreadlock EXTENSIONS; this is for you.
I have been wanting dreads since my senior year of high school (2008). when i would see anyone with dreads i would literally stare at them, admiring them, i thought they were so beautiful and rad. there was something about people who had dreads that i wanted to be a part of. so four months ago, i started researching dreadlock extensions. i knew i wanted long, full dreads with tons of beads and yarn and decorations. I also know that i can be extremely impatient so i decided to do it. 4 hours sitting in a chair and 600 dollars later i would have insta-dreads! ...yep, 600 big ones. it was human hair, which i liked, it felt more natural. Anyways, I was very pleased with the finished product. for the four months that i had them i highly enjoyed decorating them, experimenting with hair styles, etc etc. But just recently i started to feel a void. I joined dreadlockssite and started looking at pictures and watching videos on youtube about people that let their hair naturally dread. And it took a while to finally admit it, but i realized that i had dreaded my hair for all the wrong reasons (so i personally felt). I felt immediately disconnected from my dreads. 50% of them weren't even my hair. Sure it was fun putting beads in and wrapping them with yarn, but i skipped years of the journey. I had instant gratification, and because of that i was bored with them already. I didn't get to watch them grow from babies, i didn't allow them to form their own personalities, i didn't even have a favorite one. they all pretty much looked the same. I didn't love them. And i enviously watched videos of people who adored their naturally grown dreads. After that, my hair felt like straw. it was heavy. and annoying. like a burden attached to my head. which is NOT how one should feel about their dreads. unless they have had them for decades and are ready to say goodbye. I decided not to waste anymore time- i decided to comb those bitches out. and as i write this, i have half a head of dreads and half a head of regular hair. it looks quite ridiculous, honestly. when i'm finished combing them out, (which has taken three days so far and i am half done..) i'm going to leave my hair alone and grown natural, neglect method, free dreadies. I'm anxious to see what they will do, and let nature take it's course.
so children, the moral of my story i guess... The harder you work for something, the more you will appreciate it
and if you're considering getting dread extensions, i highly recommend not doing it. unless you are confident that you don't want to be spiritually connected to them, or you don't plan to have them for very long. I'm hoping to reach out to those people because i don't want you to have to learn the hard way like i did. Thank you- if you actually took the time to read my story! I hope you have a glorious day.