Forum Activity for @rze

Considering removing dreadlocks

General Talk

@ Sky ... Agree 100% ♥

   When I first started my locks, I also had quite a bit of shrinking.  This is absolutely normal.  By constantly fidgeting and fussing over your dreads on a daily basis will only cause you to become frustrated.  You have to let your hair grow, let your locks dread on their own, sit back and be patient. *pops popcorn*

Why do people insist going to a salon? There is no logic in this action.  Hair simply locks on its own, without 'paying' anyone to do it for you.  Salon's only exist to take your money. That's it.  Why allow them to do so?

My 11 year old daughter wants her hair dreaded???

Dreads in the Family

My 12yr old son started his locks in Middle School.  Beforehand, he had watched his Dad and I grow & care for our locks for several years.  My son decided he would rather have locks than his normal curly hair... so we began the process without asking anyone's permission.  I do not allow other organizations to tell me how to parent my child, that includes school administrations.  I did, however, email my son's teacher to let her know that "this is the way it is" and that his locks would be clean, maintained and under control.  At the time, we lived in a small, rural town full of close-minded older people... but I never heard a word from anyone with complaints.  Towards the end of this past school year, my son's locks grew longer... and he ended up making more friends!

If anyone wants to argue the "dreadlock" point, you don't have to throw around religious philosophy... just simply ask them, "What do you think people looked like before the comb was invented?" ... and walk away!

I've settled on one very simple bottle to keep in my shower. Baby shampoo. Yep. There are NO  harsh chemicals ('cause its made for babies!); baby shampoos are usually non-residue and paraben-free, and the lathering agents are very minimal. Typically, if you develop residue, its because of a lathering agent. Sure, baby shampoo doesn't lather up thick and rich like the t.v. commercials show, but it does a great job of cleaning, not stripping natural oils, and rinsing out completely. I use the lavender scented baby shampoo, which eliminates the need to spray more chemicals in my locks after a shower.

I wash my locks about every other day, or every 3rd day... and let them dry thoroughly.

(...from my intro via my profile page)

This is an excellent question for a web designer, or coder. I am interested in this as well...

If anyone has any information, please point in the right direction... thanks!

Going to salon to shorten dreads in the future?

Dread Maintenance

... I know what you're going through, Sync.  My husband wrestled with the idea of keeping his locks short as well. As his grew, he realized that each dread look on a life of its own, and he began to value their length.  Now, he wouldn't think of cutting them because he feels a deep connection to them.  Having dreads is a journey, as they grow you may change your mind.  Nurture them.  Wait a while and see how you feel about them later, as they grow.

A salon only exists to make a buck.  If you are an adult, no one's opinion should matter other than your own.

You will find many forums here on how others grew, not just their dreads, but as people too!

Help needed to cover my hair

General Talk

... Bandana's and scarves help as well! I usually tie them up 50's style (like a pin-up) after piling all my dreads on top of my head in a dread bun. I know yours are short (for now), but I still did this even in the beginning! Most people and the elderly accepted this because it reminded them of an earlier era.

(I'm on the left in this pic) :D

Wax For Dreads The Dreadwax Scam Exposed

Dreading Methods

@SE - I agree 100%!

Its true.. Disability doesn't pay very much at all, even with dependant children!  You and I get about the same amount for disability every month.. I don't know how you manage living on just $200 a month though!  My situation is very different.. with 3 kids and a husband (pharmacist).. so basically, my check is purely supplemental.  However, I can't imagine how you do it, SE.. your heart is a universe in itself for saving all these dreadies from the harsh world of lies and capitalism!  Does our new site have a "donate" button so we could help you somehow?  Perhaps PayPal or something??  I know you're not in this to make money, please don't think thats what I'm implying.. but to help with the cost of running this valuable site!  I know my doctors visits and medications cost a grip, and surely you've got medical expenses too.. I think every little bit would help out.  Don't you think?

Stripping oils from hair?

General Questions

A less harsh alternative would be baby shampoo (paraben free) to help with the oils.  My hair makes enough oil for 5 grown folk.. so I use baby shampoo most of the time.  Its very gentle (hypo-allergenic), no residue, no lathering agents, rinses out completely and the lavender smells good :o)  I've used it for almost 2yrs without any problems or worries.. I hope this gives you another option! Good luck 

@azdreads & @garism - Agreed 100% 

 

@honjah-kassa - The dreading process is truly a journey.  Its not just about hair.. its about mind, body and spirit.  Dreads teach patience during the process, tolerance of others, and strength both inside and out.  You grow as a person, mentally and physically.  The journey is so much deeper.. and everyday yeilds little accomplishments and milestones to be proud of!  Embrace the struggle, accept the lessons to be learned and you will be stronger, healthier and gracious for your journey! <3

Wax For Dreads The Dreadwax Scam Exposed

Dreading Methods

 

Like you with your stylist, a great number of people place their trust in "friendly-faced people" fronting capitalism in this country.  As mentioned, I'm so glad you've recovered from your horrific experience as well!  But this is only one aspect of a much bigger picture in this country.. always be careful who you trust!  These big businesses and corporations train these people to be falsely trustworthy on purpose - to trap you.  As SE wrote about Jonny Clean - even Jonny knew he was doing wrong, but the almighty dollar is more important than human sensitivity!  How did our country, further yet mankind, get to be so self-indulgent, indifferent, and unemotional? .. it boggles the mind, seriously!

I'm here because I was researching dreads and stumbled upon SE's site several years ago.. information contained in this site is trustworthy, common sense, well researched, logical and true.  There are still  good people out there willing to help those of us when needed.. people with kindness, honesty, and love for others.  Words cannot express the gratitude I have for this site and SE.. otherwise I may have ended up with dreadlocks looking like the photo's above!