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James12
@James12
02/25/13 06:32:43PM
9 posts

Various questions on obtaning and maintaning dreadlocks


Dreading Methods

I tried the backcombing wax method in the past and it was a huge mistake. Take the advice in this thread and visit the dreaducation section and you will find all you need. Natural uneven dread are the best kind of dreads to have. Don't worry about those that judge you or have something negative to say about your hair, there will be plenty more people that are supportive or intrigued by the process than are negative about it.

James12
@James12
02/21/13 04:54:57PM
9 posts

I need motivation..:/


Introduce Yourself

Hey Sara,

I agree with Soaring Eagle and have had some experience with feeling this way. I used to work for my Dad and I hung on there way too long thinking that if I tried a little harder or changed the way I was working I would enjoy it more and be more motivated. That never worked though and I finally ended up leaving and am much happier now.

But the truth is you need to find out what it is you actually want to do with your life and you will find a natural motivation boiling up inside of you that can't be stopped.

So take some time to reflect on what it is you really would like to have in your life and go get it. If that is staying in school and studying something new and completely different go for it but you cannot force motivation if you subconsciously don't want what you are trying to achieve.

James12
@James12
02/21/13 03:14:55PM
9 posts

Hello and a Question from a New Guy


Introduce Yourself

Thanks Amanda.

Amanda said:

I think with your hair length, it would be safe to wear a tam during the day. When I started, my hair was similar in length as yours and since tams are so loose, my hair had plenty of room to move around in it. But whenever you can, let your hair be free. :)

James12
@James12
02/21/13 02:25:51PM
9 posts

Hello and a Question from a New Guy


Introduce Yourself

OK, thanks for the info.

I will make sure to add my review.

James12
@James12
02/21/13 02:07:25PM
9 posts

Hello and a Question from a New Guy


Introduce Yourself

Hey Everyone!

I'm James and I am just starting out with my first set of natural/neglect dreads, stopped brushing Feb. 10, my 28th Bday. I fell for the horrible dreadheadhq set up about 10 years ago and am really looking forward to having dreads instead of candles growing from my head.

I do have a question, any feedback would be awesome. Does wearing a tam this early slow the process? Or does the hair still dread even in a tam? My hair has a natural tendency to grow forward and always ends up in my face. Being that it is only about 5-6 inches long right now it seems impossible to keep out of my face. If I am not wearing something to hold my hair back I am always pushing it out of my face and tend to run my fingers through the front unintentionally.

Happy to have found this site and look forward to any advise you may have.

-James


updated by @James12: 01/13/15 09:47:14PM
James12
@James12
02/20/13 04:51:32PM
9 posts

How to cope with all the negativity?


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"Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind" -Dr. Seuss

James12
@James12
02/13/13 10:03:04PM
9 posts

The pressure to shave...for men.


General Talk

Thanks for the wisdom Soaring Eagle!

It is true that society has applied value to valueless things and sometimes believes that the most valuable thing has no value. As long as we do not fall into the trap of believing their values then we won't be valuing their beliefs. Beliefs about hair, appearance, clothing labels, etc. having to be the same as everyone else has really done damage to the creativity in our culture in my opinion.

soaring eagle said:

another is to realize money is only paper the arbitrary value printed on it is meanningless unles you are willing to agree to its value

so if you dont need it to wipe your ass then you need to find others willing to accept that it has value in exchange for goods or services

so you make a tam and you need a sandwich

1st you have to get someone to agree the tams worth 5 squares of tiolet paper then you have to avoid wiping your ass with them long enough to find someone with a sandwich and a underwer stain that requires 5 squares of tioletpaper to resolve

its really alot esier to find someone without a hat whos got a sandwich and a drum and a car willing to trade em all to keep their head warm

you see ..goods..services these things have value especialy when needed

the i scratch your back if you scratch mine is a direct exchange of services

ill mow your lawn if you feed my kids

ill plant your garden if you put a rioof on my house

you can exchange goods for services services for goods etc..and the values arent based on the numbers printed on the papers u could wipe yoir ass with the values are based on what yoir willing to do or part with to receive what youu want or need

the true story of custars last stand:

as the battlefeild dust cleared custar and his army wee on a ridge overlooking the battlefield where may of his men lay dead

the native americans weee down there pickig amongst he bodies for useful things

many of the men had just been paid for the 1at time in months and monts their pockets stuffed full of green papers which the tribe thought looked like green frog skins

the children were playing with these green papers, the women sewing them onto ton clothes as patches and yes some of the warriors used them to start fires or wipe thier asses

this drove cusrer..and his men insane..custar and more then a few of his men killed themselves on the spot

not because of seeing a feild full of thier freinds laying dead below them but because they valued those papers above life itself

on the other side the native americans found little value in these frog skins wich made poor patches for torn clothes and were a bit too skinny to keep the hands from stinking after wiping their asses

so they soon found they were most useful for starting fires

poiunt is..if you agree green papers have value you will give yoir life chasing after that value

but if you believe you..yoiur body your hair your life has value you will never compromise for flimsy green pictures of li]ong dead poloticians


NaturalDreads01 said:

yeah.. it really sucks.. but it is what it is i guess.. the system is screwed lol. Luckily I like crocheting. so I have had people who have wanted to buy some of my stuff.. So I guess that is one way for me to get money lol.

KnotLady said:

the whole job thing gets me heated. how is facial hair less professional? if theres food involved, get one of those beard nets. they make them. my husband shaved to try ot get a job, but his shaving didnt improve the economy lol so it didnt really help. i think people should be able to look however. its actions not looks which denote professionalism and courtesy. i feel if you conduct yourself well, then people will hopefully be able to be acccepting, in jobs and in general.


updated by @James12: 07/22/15 11:57:23AM
James12
@James12
02/22/13 03:51:14PM
9 posts

I give up...


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Great words full of truth, thanks for sharing :)