Great post. I was one of those people. I nevercrocheted, or used any products, but I kinda expected my hair to do it's thing faster. That's probably why I combed my hair twice in the past, and then started again.
A few days ago I wanted to post something similar, but I decided to postpone it until I reach my 1 year mark (which will be in a month and a half :D ).
But yes, all in all, people should be prepared for the unexpected. And if you expect your hair to lock up fast, as I did... Well, it probably won't. :D
As for the stylists thinking you're crazy/whatnot when telling them wax and maintenance are bad... There are people like that in every field. People think I'm crazy when I say I have a headache, cramps, or anything else, but then refuse to take painkillers and tell them I don't take drugs, and haven't in about a year and a half.
And since I'm (about to become) a teacher of English (not an English teacher, since I'm not a native speaker), I have constant arguments with some of mycolleagues about the methods which should/shouldn't be used in an EFL classroom. Even though some of the methods have been proven wrong, unrewarding, and boring for the students, there will always be people defending them.
What I'm trying to say is that world is made of people willing to learn, and people willing to spend their lives only 'knowing' one thing, and discarding anything that is different. We can't change the world, but we can, as Gandhi said, 'Be the change we want to see in the world.'