I am in the process of getting dreadlocks. Why do I feel like a fake?
ive been struggling with the same type of thing since i was born. sometimes the change can feel really weird at times. you shouldn't feel bad about being on an in between or for changing from one thing to another. i oftern get crap for being a punk rocker, and a hippy at the same time. but those are just names to categorize me from other soemthing to give it a name because it unfamiliar. embrace what you love and let urself love it. wther dreads, corporate look or anything else it doesnt need a name, except yours. like you said, "I've been really happy and comfortable with my hair this way (actually more happy than I have been in years)" just remember that. and as for if ur stressing about what to put in your hair or hold it back with, have fun with it. i feel like what you accessorize your hair with is to reflect you, but not to prove something to others, but your own enjoyment and chance to be creative. i think its awesome you made your own headband! its your hair and your choice what to do with it and some words of comfort, ive been through changes like this plenty of times, your not alone, and these struggles with self only end with good outcomes. if u ever need to talk, though we dont know each other, im happy to listen or give some words!