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GreyGargoyle
@GreyGargoyle
07/21/10 12:31:35PM
569 posts

Loss of my love


General Talk

He loves you, you are not and never will be alone. He'll always be there. I'm going through a really hard loss as well but mine might only be temporary, I still feel your pain and I think that it's easier to go on remembering someone that loves you than to deal with someone who you love when they are confused about their feelings for you. Wish you luck. Just remember, he is around you and always will be waiting for you on the other side.
GreyGargoyle
@GreyGargoyle
07/21/10 03:00:29PM
569 posts

My Fiance Is Leaving Me...


General Talk

I agree with you there. I've always been myself in the relationship even when I try to play to be strong, I can't lie about who I am or my feelings. The best that I can come up with is that I love her and no matter what that is not gonna change.Sister Rags said:
Hey there Grey, I'm in a hurry but just wanted to throw in (yet another) comment.

Again, NO disrespect to anyone or to anyone's personal experiences, because they are ALL valid. I just want to say that "playing" anything (hard to get, or whatever else) is not the way to have a real, lasting relationship with anyone. Be genuine at all times, ask God for help and guidance at all times...your higher self will tell you, without exception, that you were created as an individual and there is never any reason to be anyone but who you are and to act accordingly. If you feel in love, my friend, be IN LOVE! The truth is, if the lady you love is a true person she will take your example of sincerity and be genuine, too. And maybe that won;t happen this minute, but maybe she will learn from you.

Whatever we do, we are, at all times, teaching others. And the question comes down to being pretty simple: Are we teaching truth or are we teaching lies?

updated by @GreyGargoyle: 07/28/15 01:16:32AM
GreyGargoyle
@GreyGargoyle
07/21/10 12:08:42PM
569 posts

My Fiance Is Leaving Me...


General Talk

I'll let ya know then. Today when she left for work I gave her a hug and told her to take care and drive safe instead of "I love you"...that's about the best I get at being hard to get. She has me wrapped around her finger and everyone knows it.
GreyGargoyle
@GreyGargoyle
07/21/10 10:18:31AM
569 posts

My Fiance Is Leaving Me...


General Talk

Yeah, man. It's just so hard to play hard to get when you love someone unconditionally...but I completely understand why I need to do that and I'll try but I doubt that I can! Maybe if I try really hard. As for praying about the relationship, I do that at least 1-100 times a day, man. I'm about to go wake her up, she has to get ready for work. I'm gonna try the hard to get thing right now and see if it works, HAHA, me...hard for HER to get? YEAH RIGHT! =(I forgot that she has read this thread because she saw me on it and she'll probably see what I wrote above...oh well. She already knows that I'm determined.Atom said:
Well praise God.. That's gnarly bro.. Hopefully she wises up. Glad to hear ur accepting it n whatnot tho. U have no choice but to accept whatever happens really. Worrying gets u Nowhere! Id take that 15 year old chicks advice tho n play a lil more hard to get.. Nvr fails lol

GreyGargoyle said:
Honestly, you guy's are great. This is why I LOVE this site. Thanks everyone. Love you all!
But just to give you guy's an update on the situation...

We went on a movie date tonight and at first it was horrible. I really thought that I screwed up by taking her but as soon as we got to the movies everything changed. It went from horrible to heaven in a matter of minutes and I fell in love again. She makes me happy with just a smile. Tonight made me realize just WHY that I love her so much. But anyways, it wasn't enough to change the situation yet but I feel as if after tonight we did accomplish some bonding and we have both found some level of acceptance. I'm more accepting of her decision and I still feel as if it's just a hurdle in the relationship and she seems to be more accepting of having a future that includes being with me. Like I said before...I'm gonna have to give it time, love and hope. It's a lot like growing dreads...hope this doesn't take so long though. It's much tougher and painful too though.
GreyGargoyle
@GreyGargoyle
07/21/10 09:32:18AM
569 posts

My Fiance Is Leaving Me...


General Talk

Honestly, you guy's are great. This is why I LOVE this site. Thanks everyone.Love you all!But just to give you guy's an update on the situation...We went on a movie date tonight and at first it was horrible. I really thought that I screwed up by taking her but as soon as we got to the movies everything changed. It went from horrible to heaven in a matter of minutes and I fell in love again. She makes me happy with just a smile. Tonight made me realize just WHY that I love her so much. But anyways, it wasn't enough to change the situation yet but I feel as if after tonight we did accomplish some bonding and we have both found some level of acceptance. I'm more accepting of her decision and I still feel as if it's just a hurdle in the relationship and she seems to be more accepting of having a future that includes being with me. Like I said before...I'm gonna have to give it time, love and hope. It's a lot like growing dreads...hope this doesn't take so long though. It's much tougher and painful too though.
GreyGargoyle
@GreyGargoyle
07/20/10 06:48:18PM
569 posts

My Fiance Is Leaving Me...


General Talk

I sort of agree.I just don't get why life is like it is...I mean I try so hard...I used to try hard with girls. After my last ex I quit talking to girls. Hell, I barely even looked at em. I liked my life and I was happy but when this girl stepped into my life it was like almost like seeing an angel in it's purest form and I to this day I still feel that strongly about her and I know it was fate that I met her. It was fate or a huge coincidence and I really KNOW that it was fate. Nothing in my life has been a coincidence. I wanted dreads for a life time but I finally decided to dread when I found out the truth about them. I know that was fate. I know it was fate for me to meet her and I truly feel like she is my soul mate. I just don't get what this has to do with the relationship or my future as I know that it is me and her against the world. Today, I went into her room to wake her up and so I sat on her bed and she laid her head into my lap and she cuddled close to me and when she finally woke up I felt amazing inside...but I also felt pain that you can only comprehend when you're in my situation. I don't think that I could comprehend this pain if she got back together with me. It's that horrible for me. I just don't get why life is throwing this at me. We have so much in common and life has so much to give us as soul mates. I just NEED her in my life. She makes me whole and complete. And I know I sound pathetic. Ha...Sister Rags said:
I dunno, dude...I think it's kind of unfair to advise you to accept this as a good thing ultimately. Seriously, no disrespect to anyone, because I know what you mean. I've very seldom seen something in life that doesn't turn out for the better, eventually. BUT at the time, the pain is so monumental, it's like - Who cares about tomorrow? TODAY feels like I'm worse than dying...I'm alive and in HELL. That kind of pain is fucked. There's a lot of it in life, but it's still fucked.
GreyGargoyle
@GreyGargoyle
07/20/10 05:13:10PM
569 posts

My Fiance Is Leaving Me...


General Talk

Thanks, Sister Rags...Laura, didn't you ever have doubts about your husband or him about you?I'm just curious, you seem like the right person to ask.
GreyGargoyle
@GreyGargoyle
07/20/10 04:13:48PM
569 posts

My Fiance Is Leaving Me...


General Talk

Yeah, I just hate going through senseless pain. That's why it fucking hurts so much. I devoted EVERYTHING that I had to her...and if it DOES ever come back to us getting together then this break up was just senseless pain and a waste of time. But if I look at it from another point of view, it can be a nice way to learn how we truly feel about each other. But if it doesn't work out then I'm just hurt and lonely. Because across the country she can easily just hang up on me and be done with it and never talk to me again...if I'm here I at least have a little control in the way that I might be able to show her that I am right for her, show her how much she really means to me and how I am the perfect guy for her..But on the phone and over the net she can just back out whenever. I guess that is why everyone says, "if it's just meant to be then it will be." But it fucking hurts so damn bad.Jake Holland said:
Things have a way of working themselves out man. My fiance left me about 3 months ago, and now she realizes what she had and wants me back. I am a little confused but I think we decided to move out of state and travel the country working along the way.....weird huh.
GreyGargoyle
@GreyGargoyle
07/20/10 03:09:27PM
569 posts

My Fiance Is Leaving Me...


General Talk

Thanks everyone, it means so much.
GreyGargoyle
@GreyGargoyle
07/20/10 12:34:29AM
569 posts

My Fiance Is Leaving Me...


General Talk

Yes, she is bipolar and she didn't take her meds today now that I think about it....but I'll talk to her about it. We did something like that before though. I chose to stay but we kept in contact and I still lived in the house...within a few hours she changed her mind.Man, I just feel so dead inside and out. I am completely torn apart.soaringeagle said:
is she bipolar? wait 4 days even if u gotta camp out in the woods tell her your not leaving yet but your giving her space have her take u to where u camp so she knows just where to find u wait give her room to think dont contact her just stay nearby tell her in 4 days if shes still sutre then you'll leave
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