Just plain mean
Life Issues Facing Dreads
This is so sad
I dated a guy with dreads long ago,he was black/ white mix. my hair always dreaded up by the end of the day and when I decided to let it go he got very upset with me telling me I could not do that. I was shocked, we had friends of all different hair types and ethnic back grounds with dreads. It revealed how two faced he was. If this very rude guy ( to say the least) in your post is at least having a open dialogue about his feelings he will at least maybe get dreaducated. When I met my husband 14 years ago I had dreads. I shaved my head as our relationship got closer for some reason ( I had monk friends with shaved heads, Buddhists philosophy was really coming up in my path I guess I was experimenting) those negative ideals about whites with dreads lurked in my shadows I think .i kept my hair brushed, donated it every couple of years but always had this sadness of not having dreads. About 2 1/2 years ago I decided to let my hair dread once again, it felt great. I thought it was my for ever set. However I emitted this hard core energy of dont talk about my hair to every one and no one did. ( except a few people) but I really put up a wall with out saying a thing to my family because I guess it would have really hurt if they thought my dreads were anything less than a great idea.sorry to ramble, on to my point. I recently and sadly cut off this set
I know now its mostly because of not being open to dialogue about them. Now my hair just looks like a cute messy pixie cut but definitely as it starts to mat together I'm going to discuss it especially with those I love and work with. Lockin my hair up is extremely personal if others don't like it for some reason I want to talk about it especially if they are important people in my life. I may be pleasantly surprised by some nice comments
too. This website and forum is really genius, it's really helping me feel comfortable with my decision to have locks. XOXO to all you fellow dreadies.
updated by @Dready Dharma: 07/22/15 11:37:45AM