Any polyamorous dreadies?
Alternative Lifestyles and Subcultures
I really think the success of the relationship depends on the love and commitment between the partners. There may be a jealousy issue from time to time. I'm only married to one person and he gets jealous sometimes. But if they really love each other, I think they can work through it. And about choosing who to spend time with, from what I saw on the show I mentioned, they are all a family and do these things together. If you were graduating and your sister was in a car accident, you probably would skip out on the ceremony, right? Same with your sister wife or girlfriend/wife. What I'm talking about is a family, nit a group of people ONLY interested in sex. And there is a relationship where women have multiple husbands, it's called polyandry. I don't see it a lot, but I don't think I know any guys who would be willing to do it. Most guys have too much trust and jealousy problems to handle that well. That's not to say all men are like that, I'm sure there are plenty of them. I watched an interview with a woman and her 2 husbands that was really interesting. The wife and one husband worked and the other husband stayed home with their son. They also said they didn't want to know who the father of the little boy was so that they would both be equal fathers.
Are we just talking about sexual relationships here? I think it's posible to have a deep emotional connection with several people at the same time, which you could call being in love with all of them (maybe in completely different ways). But I've never been in a sexual relationship with more than 1 person at a time. Wouldn't conflict come of it, because at some point several of the partners will want or need attention at the same time? What if a man has one partner having a baby, and it's the other's graduation day? What if one has a car crash and is in hospital, when he's meant to be doing something with one of the others? Who does he choose to be with? There will always be a favourite.
It may work in other cultures, but they have very different roles for men and women to the standard in USA and Europe, that have been accepted for many generations. It may have started in relation to maximising the birth rate in a dangerous environment, where many people and children die? Or perhaps rich and powerful people cementing their advantage by having many children? Being raised with a western mindset it would be a hard shift to truly accept a polygamous situation, wouldn't it?
You don't really hear about multiple husbands for each wife, do you? Most people would equate systems like this with oppression of women, seeing it from a western viewpoint.
Not saying I think it's wrong in itself, if everyone if freely accepting of the situation. But surely it will get torn apart by jealousy in the end?