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Niesje Sigrid
@Niesje Sigrid
08/22/13 07:54:11AM
56 posts

I love me dreads but I hate getting made fun of in school


General Talk

I wasn't trying to imply that you were a sociopath at all! I'm sorry If you took my comment the wrong way. I just didn't want him to think it was the only option to be violent. I do understand that violence is sometimes necessary and I've had my fair share of it in the past. We are all on our own journey and I wouldn't judge you harshly for how you got where you are now.

Niesje Sigrid
@Niesje Sigrid
08/21/13 05:55:06AM
56 posts

I love me dreads but I hate getting made fun of in school


General Talk

I'm glad you gained confidence, but let's not be violent. Bode, Sirick is right about carrying yourself with confidence. It changes everything. People generally treat you better. But high school kids will always find something wrong with you, simply to distract from all they feel is wrong in themselves. They lack confidence and certainty. When I was in high school, I thought I wouldn't have any problems. I was skinny, attractive, smart, always had the good weed ;) lol. But people said I was too weird, I was probably anorexic, I was probably sleeping with all my guy friends, etc. They will always say mean things. If they're going to be mean anyway, why not just be happy? Why not just be yourself? Don't worry about them. Let them worry about their own insecurity and you just be your own confident beautiful self :)

Sirick said:

I can't offer any advice for having dreads in high school, but I can share with you my experiences from having long hair in high school.

You may experience slightly different things depending on how rough your school is and how many others at your school have similar styles.
Mine was a pretty average school, not too low class and scum filled but also hardly what you would call high class.

You will get called names. You will have people mock you behind your back. You will be bullied mentally, physically or both.

I was raised to be a pacifist, and I did my best to follow such views. But when I decided I wanted to grow my hair long I started running to way more problems then I had before.
I was the only boy at my high school with long hair, I'm unsure if wearing it in a ponytail made it worse or better.

Before growing my hair I only had to deal with light bullying from class mates that knew me (hardly unique, I imagine almost everyone has had to deal with this level of bulling). After I had grown it over the holidays and returned to school, suddenly I was getting it in the neck from people I didn't even know, kids I had never even seen before or were at least four years older then me would call me names, punch me in the arm or simply laugh.

You will stand out. Standing out brings attention to you. You have to decide how you feel about standing out from everyone else. If you decide you do want to stick out like a sore thumb now you have to figure out how you are going to deal with the definite bad attention you will get.

Again, I can only offer you advice from my own personal experience and what worked for me might not work for you.

I toughened up. I ignored giggles and jeers, I stood up to any one who tried to push me around and if anyone tried to hurt me I would hurt them back twice as hard.

This changed who I was in a big way, but thankfully I was happy with who I had become. I was more comfortable and sure of myself.
But this did change my relationship with my parents.
My mother who had raised me to be a pacifist was very upset that I was now very aggressive and adversarial, to paraphrase her I had gone from a smiley quiet and good boy to a frowning, angry boy whose first response to something upsetting him was to use violence.
My father on the other hand was overjoyed to see me becoming a man.

So as you can see, different people will react differently to the changes that may happen to you.

In less then a year I had no more problems with people. No one made any comment of my hair even though it was longer then ever. I don't think this is because they knew me by reputation, but because I now held myself differently.
I would now stand tall, not slouch like I used to. I would speak clearly and deliberately. I stood my ground and refused to bend to others whims.

It's been eight years since I left high school, and since then I think that twice I've had a comment about my appearance in a nasty way (not sure if my hair played a part in it) and each time I told them to fuck off, which they promptly did.

I'm very happy with who my hair made me, which is why I love it so much. But you have to decide if you will love who you will become from dealing with the negative views of others.

You don't have to deal with things like I have. It may be enough for you to just ignore others.

However you decide to deal with things, it will change you in one way or another.

Niesje Sigrid
@Niesje Sigrid
05/14/13 03:31:35PM
56 posts

Curious Questions about how you face things with dreads


Life Issues Facing Dreads

I'm with Baba. I just don't pay attention to it. A girl at work said " Wow you've really let your hair get crazy." Me "Yeah, I love it!" Although people don't seem to have a problem with generally. My teacher commented on it, but only the color. It kinda took me by surprise. Teacher:"Did you do that with your hair on purpose?" Me:"....." Teacher:"It's kinda pink. Did you dye it that color?" Me:" Uh, no. It was red, but I guess it faded lol." I try to just be nonchalant about my hair. If you respond with negativity, all you'll get is negativity.

Niesje Sigrid
@Niesje Sigrid
05/10/13 07:15:08PM
56 posts

I think my body is getting pissed at me.


Dreads and Diets

You should see the deer in the headlights look I get when I tell people I eat paleo. It only intensifies when I tell them what that means. I get so sick of hearing "If you don't eat grains, how do you get fiber??? Don't you know that the government recommends Xservings a day of whole grain products???" Like I'll never shit again cuz I don't eat bread. I've also heard "If you wanna eat weird, why can't you just be a vegetarian?" That made no sense to me at all. Like I'm just paleo cuz I wanna be weird. Nevermind trying to be healthy :/

Niesje Sigrid
@Niesje Sigrid
05/10/13 06:50:55PM
56 posts

All my dreads are being crazy!


Dread Maintenance

It started as one dread and then the ends split.


updated by @Niesje Sigrid: 02/05/15 10:12:49AM
Niesje Sigrid
@Niesje Sigrid
05/10/13 06:48:49PM
56 posts

All my dreads are being crazy!


Dread Maintenance

They are completely free form, I didn't do anything to force them. All I've done is wash and separate. Let me see if I can get a decent pic.

Niesje Sigrid
@Niesje Sigrid
05/10/13 05:47:57PM
56 posts

All my dreads are being crazy!


Dread Maintenance

All my dreads are either folding in half or flat or splitting in half part way down the dread. Will it hurt for them to for this way? Or should I intervene?


updated by @Niesje Sigrid: 01/13/15 09:52:09PM
Niesje Sigrid
@Niesje Sigrid
05/02/13 02:34:37PM
56 posts

Hello! I'm Seneca


Introduce Yourself

Nah it's not bad for your hair. Its the safest starter method and tnr dreads are still considered natural, just not free form.

Niesje Sigrid
@Niesje Sigrid
05/02/13 03:03:50AM
56 posts

Hello! I'm Seneca


Introduce Yourself

If you want a starter method, we can get together and I'll twist and rip it for you.
Niesje Sigrid
@Niesje Sigrid
05/01/13 05:47:44PM
56 posts

I'm starting to struggle with my journey :(


Dreadlocks Journey Emotional Support

*CORRECTION* I have another friend in favor of my dreads and has decided now to dread herself :) That along with your support here is very encouraging!

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