Unfortunately this will probably be the last pic of me with my dreads and beard. As I've said before my wife absolutely hates my dreads and beard. Me on the other hand...fuckin love it!!! I told her if she buzzed her head that I would get rid of everything thinking she would never do it....she did but not really. the back is buzzed and the tops alittle longer. I said she didn't stick to the deal and now shes all pissed at me sayin fine then don't do it. makin me feel like the asshole. so fuck it! I don't want to get rid of it and it saddens me. kinda embarrassed to admit but I was actually in tears thinking about it earlier.....Well good thing it's hair and it grows back .peace and love my fellow dreadies! I hope to return someday.....tear
I actually have asked her that before, she says well you wouldn't be able to help that. Your beard and hair you have the power to trim and maintain. That's why I think she cant get over, cause it actually could be how she wanted if I wanted it that way.
ask her if shed stay with you if you burned your face severely or lost an aerm or leg and if she couldf get over disfiguyerement why cant she get over a beard
Tell her since she only met you half way you'll do the same; keep the dreads and shave the beard or shave the dreads and keep the beard. Eh?
Your story makes me sad! Your look is so awesome. My husband actually had me buzz his hair a couple weeks ago and I nearly cried lol. Its a shame she is unhappy with the style, but I understand sometimes we sacrifice for our loved ones, even if it's total bull crap. Maybe since she only met you halfway with the deal you can meet her halfway and just shave the beard? ;_; I dunno. I hope everything works out for you and I wish you the best of luck!
I think the situation is she basically hates my hair and I on the other hand love it.See I'm 30 yrs old, we met when we were in high school at 15 yrs old. She is the only women I have ever known or been with or Loved, shes my everything.So you can imagine when we met I looked drastically different. Since I was young I've always wanted facial hair and have been curious of dreadlocks to. When we met I couldn't even grow hair on my face and knew nothing about dreadlocks. Well now 15 yrs later turns out im a man and can grow facial hair and I found dreadlockssite to teach me all about dreads, which if it wernt for this site no way I would have dreads now. This is where the conflict lies, she wants me groomed up sorta like the way I was for roughly half our relationship, when I couldn't reallygrow a beard and didn't have dreads. she says the beard and dreads get in the way and she cant be close cause theyre itchy and scratch waa waa waa. and that's all I hear is complaining day in and day out.she says she actually don't mind longer hair if it's not dreaded and my beard if it's kept short. but I love the way I look, I think its Epic! And I wish she would just love me and except the way I am now. I mean how many people do you see that look like me? and that's what I love about it, I don't look like every other clone you see walkin around clean shaved and short hair. im unique, but she doesn't feel that way. I truly want to make her happy and she thinks I do it just cause she don't like it and that's not the case at all. I do it cause I love the way I look, simple as that. The reason I told her if you buzz yours ill buzz mine was because I wanted her to do something she didn't want to do if she want's me to do something I don't want to do. But I feel as if she really didn't live up to that deal cause it's not fully buzzed. I think I might get rid of it soon, but as I type this im still a dreaded man! Im so back and forth with myself. At first I said fuck it im gonna do it, then I said wait this is bullshit you didn't live up to the deal. So this is where im at now, not sure what ill do. It's taken me so long to get to this point. I started growin my hair in 2006 trimmed it afew times then started dreading in 2011 when it was allittle past my shoulders. So you figure nearly 8 years to get where im at now. It's not a easy thing to just start cutting this shit off. I started getting emotional when I was seriously about to do it. So not sure whats gonna happen, time will tell then ill tell you guys. Peace and Love
I don't know your or your situation with your wife, but just the example you gave about her only meeting you partway on your "deal" (you'll get rid of your hair if she does the same) makes it seem to me that she wants you to make a sacrifice for her while she is not willing to do the same for you. I don't know what you or she wants from each other, but that sends up a red flag to me.
Anyway, like you say, hair grows back. Relationships with people and marriage are different than hair. Blessings
Hair or wife....much to ponder... have a good journey, wherever it takes you