By SimpleSpiveys, 2014-02-05
Up until 6 months deep, anyone that saw my hair in person didn't know what was going on with it. I got a lot of "did you just wake up?", "Nice Bedhead, it looks good on you", and the awesome "Been getting busy I see". No. I just don't brush...So I was in a thrift store, and a man passed me from behind mumbling " I like your dreads". The music was loud so It took me a few seconds to compute. I just smiled at him and then I realized I got a positive response from a guy with a low cut and I wanted to say thank you but he was working in the back room by that time.Then, it happened again a week later, this time from a cashier with super long twist method dreads. I made sure to tell him I appreciate the compliment. It is nice to get compliments and not harsh words from people of different backgrounds and professions. I never want to offend anyone with my hair and unfortunately in our 2nd month (I had no dreads yet)but somehow managed to. Someone hiding behind the internet said " gtfo with your sh*tty white dreads" on our blog. My response was simply "no" because they wouldn't have been worth dreaducating.I'm believe hatred only breeds more hatred, and I try to stay away from it but sometimes it cannot be helped.So If your dreads are looking too funky for your liking, dont give up cause one day when you least expect it, they will grow on you (literally) and look awesome. Remember, it's all about the journey, not the destination.
By SimpleSpiveys, 2014-01-12
This is referring to anywhere outside of this community. I appreciate all the love you give us here.
When we were "straight haired" strangers(usually women) would be in awe of the Mr's hair. Touching it, wishing they had it, braiding it even. He grew his hair for 3 years or more and it had a slight ombre and wasn't damaged, it was sooo long. I thought I got used to him getting compliments all the time. I didn't.
In the first month, Mr. Spivey got his first compliment from a motorcycle rider while we were on the scooter(before we got helmets). It was "I like your hair, man" and I'm sitting there like 'mine just looks like a barely knotted mess, it's cool... it doesn't look like I've got anything going on yet, i forgive you '
It has happened like 5 times now, and today my extended family just noticed I have some dreads in the back and inquired so I dreaducated em. Nobody ever thinks you can wash dreads for some reason.
a few days ago, we were on omegle and a guy pops up from the UK. Says "I like your hair, It looks cool" I said thanks and then he clarified that the compliment was not for me I skipped him for that.
Maybe one day I'll be the one getting compliments, but until then, he's getting enough for both of us. It's pretty funny when your husband has better looking hair, straight and dreaded. :P
By SimpleSpiveys, 2013-12-29
Today we've been married six months. We started our dread journey a week after our wedding since both of us were sick of our long hair knotting, go figure. The past six months have been pure wedded bliss with lots of interesting lessons thrown in. We're on the journey of life and dreadlocks together, which is pretty interesting in itself. Having "started" to grow dreadlocks has really been an eye opener. The journey can make things fall into place believe it or not. It shows the true colors of others when they are judging you, no doubt. The modernization of people and constantly striving for perfection is so overrated, but many people we see and know fall for it and continue to live a facade, rejecting their human traits.
By this point in time, my hair has done some strange things. Things I never thought it would do. It's climbed up on it self at least double so I've got blunted ends with strands sticking out like tails which gives the impression that it's longer than it is, or that I've not actually got dreads at first glance. The top half of my hair is taking a while to catch up since my nape was always knotty, even when my hair was brushed daily. Since I used to be one of those change-my-hair-color-with-the-seasons and blow-dry-flat-iron-every-day type of gals, it's a bit frustrating to have to look the same all the time. I'd be lying if I said I was patient. I am so, so, so glad that I wont be doing that anymore but the transition has got me a bit bored. I do miss pretty "straight hairstyles" but since it will be quite a while before I can do anything but TRY and put my hair up, I'm going to have to learn patience. One of the many things that the journey teaches: to be patient.
There are so many great things about having neglect dreads in the beginning. The pros always outweigh the cons. The volume is one of them. That stage where the hair is puffy looks really cool. Not having to wash everyday is a given "pro". The get up and go is pretty awesome( though I'd like for my short locks to grow so I can actually put all my dreads up if needed). Getting strange looks is kindof entertaining, people thinking you just rolled out of bed is funny. If you're also feeling a bit discouraged, don't give up. If you do, you might miss an important life lesson.
Peace, Peace, hair grease.
By SimpleSpiveys, 2013-09-11
This post is meant to inform and ask a few questions as well. If you want to skip through my blabber, read the last sentence. Before our dread journey started two months ago, we were already making eco friendly decisions. Not consuming as much as the average person, taking into account much of our impact on the earth and other people, running a blog based around it, etc. since the journey has begun evolving though, we have realized that there are many things that plague our daily lives still because of the influence of this modernized society. I feel as if people forget that they are humans sometimes. Slathering on Chemicals, spraying them everywhere too, just to cover up what comes naturally. Fake and synthetic everywhere you turn. Not to say nature doesn't create some harmful stuff, but it has its own balance and purpose.Anyone in my life besides Mr. Spivey wouldn't understand how hard it can be to make human/earth friendly decisions when it comes to just about everything. That's because we don't know anyone who trys to live a synthetic chemical free life (ive been influencing my mothers decisions a bit but she still thinks im nuts). i know it is inevitable that we will perish but id like to leave as little carbon behind as possible, actually leave a place for future generations to live, and not get cancer before 65. Unfortunately we don't live in the wilderness in a leed certified adobe hut yet, so it's hard to change it all but we do what we can.We have been strict about what we will allow in home. Specifically our cabinets for a good year now: Medicinal, for cleaning purposes, food, bodycare, and cookware. It takes a decent amount of effort researching parent companies, searching for something biodegradable, making sure the product in question works, and finding things that don't use a ton of resources to make. The funny thing is, we have not yet found a solution to stinky pits. When we're home, we don't really care. I've gotten used to his scent and I barely notice it anymore. Mine actually might be worse, and as much as I want to say "I don't care what people think", if someone smells me as I walk by, their perception might be "you dirty hippie" though I showered 20 minutes prior. I don't want to influence a bad perception of dread heads like I have seen in all the young dreaddies behaviour I've witnessed in the past. You have to be the change you want to see in the world, right? I wouldn't want someone's second hand in my face so I want to try not to offend noses when we have to go in public.Right now we are using NOW brand Long-Lasting Deodorant Cream, heres the description: is custom formulated with 20% zinc oxide, antioxidant vitamins, plus grapefruit extract to protect against body odors. One application can eliminate odor for days at a time.(yeah right! One hour is more like it, and reapplying doesn't work well)Ingredients: Talc, Safflower Oil, Zinc Oxide, Beeswax, Lanolin, Rice Starch, Grapefruit Seed Extract, Natural Fragrance, Vitamin E (d-alpha tocopherol), Ascorbyl Palmitate, Calendula Extract, Arnica Extract and Citric Acid. I'm sure there are tons of them online, but I would have to try so many to find one that works and get stuck with ones that don't.If anyone can lend some insight on options for strong but natural deodorant for us, we would really appreciate it - or if you think embracing your stench is the way to go...