of course! I think we'd all love to hear your story so much. and hope all is well, wish you love and happiness
soaring eagle said:
this could take a while haha
can i come back to this dealing with a lil tradegy
I keep watching videos and reading posts about the spiritual journey behind growing natural dreads. (I wouldnt know yet, Im only a few days in). but Im really interested to see because I keep considering not doing it so Im thinking this might convince me to let them be
So I thought itd be fun to do a little storytelling on here: what does having dreads mean to you? tell me your spiritual journey throughout the dreading process!
I wish you all love and happiness
thanks star! Im kind of nervous but I guess Ill just go with the flow and see what happens!
Star Gryphon said:
I already congratulated you in the chat that your mom is accepting your decision to grow dreads, but I wanted to do so again! It really is a hair style that has a lot of stereo types associated with it that aren't necessarily positive ones. High school is definitely one of the hardest times of your life. Especially the cliches that are essentially clones of each other and make themselves feel better by ridiculing everyone else who is not exactly like them.
I'll be honest, when you grow dreads the natural way...your hair won't look good till about 2 years in! There will be times when you absolutely HATE your hair...you'll be frustrated that it doesn't seem to be progressing fast enough! But...often that dislike is not actually coming from you...but what society tries to tell you that your dreads should look like! They have this belief that dreads should be "maintained" and "manicured." But...just remember to keep rocking the crazy tangly mess....cause eventually you'll be rewarded with beautiful HEALTHY dreads that aren't a carbon copy of each other or every other salon dready.
GOOD LUCK!
thank you so much 
Izzy said:
Hello hannah
Peace and love.
oh gosh thank u so much! I just told her and she was completely calm about it (well, cause she thinks its just a phase). but then i showed her the slideshow just to convince her more, with some edits from me, and she was totally ok with it! thank you, I guess i sometimes should have more faith
Baba Fats said:
Don't wait.
I was arebelliousteen. So this might seem a little extreme to you, but I'd advise you to just do it. Are you waiting to tell your parents out of a desire to get their approval? If so, then you probably wont. And then it will be a constant fight when you grow them anyway. So since the fight will happen, you may want to avoid adding to the fire how you are disrespecting them.
http://www.dreadlockssite.com/forum/topics/trying-to-convince-your-...
The first words on this post are the link to the powerpoint slide. It seemed to have helped a few members "break the news" to their parents about their decision. It lays out how locks can be beautiful if they are well taken care of. And I believe that it even goes into the spirituality aspect as well.
thank you so much SE!! ur the best
soaring eagle said:
Thank u so much, & im gonna end up doing that with my friends too!
Rose said:
They may never understand, but this is good for you to do it. I would wait until they notice, that's what I'm doing with my friends. It's weird, my parents understand me, but my friends don't :/ only friend person knows I'm dreading. I just don't ever plan to say anything until they ask.
When your parents do ask what's up with your hair stand your ground but don't argue. Just tell them you're dreading your hair, explain what that means if they don't understand what you're doing, and let them know there is nothing they can do that will make you brush your hair. But don't get defensive and argue with them, it will only make you upset and them as well.
I stopped brushing on 10/11/12 (cool, huh?), so Im only a few days in. oh, and Im a freshman in high school!
My family is not very easy to relate to given my artistic, spiritual personality. they are more go-with-society people and are very concious about what others think of them/us. my mom doesn't care about me being popular but alwaystells me when she thinks I look "weird" or that other people will think Im a "freak". the thing is, I dont care about that stuff, or at least try to teach myself not to. they are great people but just dont really understand me a lot of the time.
How do I go about telling my parents I am starting to grow dreads? my mom would probably look at me and say "No." with a disgusted look on her face, and then give me a lecture about looking like a freak or whatever. She would never understand the spiritual things that come with growing dreads, which is one of the main reasons Im doing this, as a sort of therapy. I know if I say dreads, she will think of the sterotypical thought where you dont wash your hair at all and smoke pot and whatever.Im considering waiting until she says something about my hair, and then just say Im letting it be natural and let it do what it wants.
what should I say?
I just started the natural method a few days ago.
Of course dreads aren't just about a hairstyle, they are about a lifestyle. But I have some problems:
1. I am only a freshman in high school! Everyone is really judgemental, even my friends. (oh, and my parents dont know Im doing this yet! eek!) I try not to care but it can be hard. How did you stop thinking about this?
2. I really want to become enlightened throughout this entire experience. I just started meditating and I am absolutely already starting to feel different; better, more connected to myself and the world. however, I also want to connect to nature. the problem is, I cant figure out a way to do this. I of course cant drive anywhere and there is no place (except one beautiful creek) where I can feel connected. no mountains, no nothing. How do you reccommend I connect more to nature?
thank you for your time, I wish you love and happiness
I started the natural/neglect method a few days ago.
How often should I wash my hair, and how? And any other random information would be much appreciated. (:
