Thanks SE! I appreciate the help, and you giving it when you are so tired!! So you think I just need to separate less often and more carefully? And that the nest should slowly go away and won't be a problem?Usually to separate I hold one section starting at the tips then pull it apart from the others as needed, I use my finger to gentle break any sections from each other and gently work my way up. When I reach as close to the scalp as I can I also pull it in different directions to separate it on all sides, while trying to kinda hold other hairs out of the way. I've been doing it myself, because the only person i could enlist is my husband, and he's afraid to try. I've told him he is going to have to start helping, and he's willing to try if it will help the nest go away.And to answer one question, it isn't the whole mass of hair into one lump, it is almost like large sections of hair of separating, and those are separating into other smaller sections about 2-4 inches from the scalp. That 2-4 inches is either untangled, or a nest, depending on the exact section. Some are untangled for and inch, then a nest for 2-3 inches. Some are a nest from the scalp to about and inch or two from the scalp. Those large sections still break apart, and the small sections that make up the large section separate well. I'd say maybe 5-6 large sections over my whole head, which separate into, gosh I'd be afraid to count them, it's alot, of nice small sections the rest of the way down to the tips.I don't want to risk those large sections congoing into just 5-6 dreads on my whole head. I know some people like mega dreads, but I'm not into it.