She's the love of my life... and yeah, she stays pretty amused with me haha! She very stable and likes things to be routine, and me being a typical Aquarian, I'm liable to do just about anything at any moment. I started talking about the rainbow gatherings and she said... "Well at least let me know where you're going and that you're OK". 
I'm really lucky to have her, not many people could deal with my craziness
Yeah... at my scalp, it's pretty much just matted. You can't really see scalp anymore unless you really pull them apart or look from underneath. I "think" that's how it's supposed to be. She only separates for me after I wash it so about 2 sometimes 3 times a week is all I can't turn on the lights in here right now, but I'll add a pic tomorrow, let me know if they are looking like they should be Thanks Baba!
Oh except for my part... you can see scalp there...
So, my GF is separating my locs for me. They are pretty well sectioned at this point (7.5 months) She just helps me with the few hairs that get crossed up between dreads when I wash. She gets to my most mature, fattest, favorite, loc, and says, "What are you gonna do about this one?" I said "What do you mean?" and she says, "It's all tangled up, and it's shorter than the rest?" HAHA!
I thought it was kinda cute. She's very supportive, but doesn't know much about 'em, it's just not her thing. She would have beautiful locs if she did it though. She has past her waist length, beautiful, dark red, hair. It's not her tho and I respect that as well. I just thought y'all might think it was kind of a cute story
Laterz....
I'll try to add a pic of the dread in question tomorrow when I'm able to have more light
That is sad.... Hope he finds someone to fix them for him!
That's so sad... My first instinct is to ask how they became unattached from his head... but that's reallyirrelevant. The thing is, I don't know about your friend, but if mine were to come unattached from my head for whatever reason, (except maybe something like chemo or something of that nature), then crocheting them back on just wouldn't be there same. Once cut andseparated, I'd feel they were lost...
Now on the plus side, your friend has 3 or 4 inches of hair, I think I read somewhere on here that you could start a fresh set with 3 inches (I might be wrong, but if so, if not by much). He could look at this as a shedding of any oldnegativity, trauma, drama, etc... and now has a chance to start brand new with something as amazing as dreadlocks to mark theoccasion. If you think about it, that's really pretty awesome! I think if I were him (and I'm not so I can't speak for what happened or how he is feeling), I'd make changes that I knew I needed to make (we all have some of those), and go for it.
He should start a timeline NOW, so he can look at his progress of both his hair and is well-being.
I know it's not much, but I hope it brings him some peace...
Take care!
Carol
OMG! They look awesome! You gotta do what you gotta do, but since you're asking.. Don't you dare cut 'em out
Meh... *shrug* I really don't care at all. If this story makes you feel bad about yourself, then you need to work on that. I love my hair and don't care one bit if other people don't like it. Of course I have other issues with myself, but I wish I felt the same about them too. Don't care, don't care at all
Not saying that I don't care about this post... just don't care that that "letter" is out there
Greetings! I hate you're having to deal with this problem. I'm female, but I was on some medication for an under active thyroid that made me have many bald patches. I did not know that this was the cause of my bald spots at the time. I started to use theminoxidil and my hair fell out worse than ever. Then I did a bit of research and found out thatminoxidil WILL help you to grow back some hair IF it's caused by genetics, for example, male pattern baldness. Now here is the bad part.... When you first start usingminoxidil it will actually CAUSE significant hair loss in the beginning!!! Eventually you will shed that old hair and the medication will start to help you re-grow hair, but that can take a couple of months. Also, do some research,minoxidil has some pretty bad chemicals in it. It can actually cause other health problems. I remember one being fast orirregularheart-beat.
I'm not advising you on using it or not, only suggesting that you might want to look it up, how it works, and the side effects.
In my case, the hair loss stopped when I switched to a different medication for my thyroid problem. Like Barrell Lady suggested, I started taking Biotin, it takes a few weeks to start to notice, but my hair is very healthy now. It's worked great for me! Just don't expect a change overnight from it. If you try the Biotin, you'll probably notice changes in about 2 months. I wish you luck, and I know how frustrating it can be. Take care my friend!
Very well said!
soaring eagle said:
well i am so glad u feel confortable enough here to share such a story
and
i got to warn you...your being healed
cutting is a way to hack out emotions u shoved deep down rather thenm let out
what did you do when you looked in that mirror?
you cried
the 1 thing that could have kept u from chopping at your limbs...
a tear
a simple lil painless (well mostly painless) tear
u let those emotions out ..let yourself cry..be mad or sad ..just whatever u feel let it out but not in an overwhelming way let it be a pressure release not explosion
alotta parents will punish you for crying the more u want to cry the more they want to punish u for crying wich makes u feel sadder and sadder
but eventualy u dont want to be puicshed u dont want to feel and sadder so u stop crying ..but
then the sadness stays in you u try to be "perfect" so u wont be yelled at and made to feel sadder but theres already so much in you a single wordsall it takes to make that pressure build up so much theres only 1 release..blood soince a single tear would make it worse (or so you were tought throug punishment for tears)
its time to start accepting yourself
to stop caring what others think or say
and to let out a tear now and then and let things be..not perfect..but at least ok
Good question. The perfect shape would be 1 X 1 square... (although SE says the natural shape is more of a teardrop), but I've wondered this also. Some of mine are like narrower than 1 inch but longer than 1 inch. I'm looking forward to an answer on this also
