back to the polish plait and fairy locks obviously Shakespeare was European and well polish plait originated in Poland (where a queen worse 1)
these were not cultural but more superstition .. 1 the result of illness and was thought to be death if you cut it the other was thought to happen magically in your sleep and again was doom to untangle it
these people would never cut their hair under any circumstances, even if it caused agonizing pain
the people who have cultural dreads would never ever do the things to them that the people who scream appropriation do regularly...
well what is the culture of dreadlocks (originally) shamans, babas, gurus, "heyokas' sadhus pharoes you name it
most had come from a spiritual background, not a racial one.
when other cultures came to the land mass known as turtle island they found this:
native ameerican tribes with dreadlocks, who were never previously exposed to white nor black "culture"
but lets look at why "culture" in this case is in quotes, they are talking not about culture but racial identity. culture would be stuff like African dance (which they freely teach to anyone of any race) the wonderful djembe beats and the language of the drum, which they share freely and welcome others to celebrate. these are cultural things.
peoples have met throughout history and shared culture, styles of pottery or basket weaving right down to fishing techniques and ship building (or dugout canoes) cultures learned from each other and then grew from the experiences, became stronger. lets take this to an absurd level a moment. in Africa many villages to this day have to walk miles for muddy polluted water.. not that that's "culture" just a tragic fact of life.. is digging wells or filtering water cultural appropriation?
so, what is cultural appropriation then? imitating a culture in a way that's a mockery of that culture or otherwise defames its origin
now these people who said this to you... all had saloon dreads? never once had a rastaman say that only locticians and those who frequent them.
don't these same people look at natural dreads (cultural dreads) and say ewww and its only when you say theres nothing eww about them that they bring up cultural appropriation?
is it not cultural appropriation to buy a style that culturally often came from long years of meditation or devotion?
now does this look like culture to you?
or does this
how about this
you see how easy it is to spot someone who is honoring a culture (no matter the culture or race) and who is imitating and 'appropriating" it
lets also look at the fact that cultures and races are not the same thing at all! cultures exist within a race, inner city hip hop culture vastly differs from the omo people of Ethiopia (one of the most beautiful cultures)
you see just cause they share a race does not mean they share a culture
so, lets say for an instant that dreadlocks are strictly cultural and have no other meaning (you'd have to ignore the polish plait and the "fairy locks" from Shakespeare plays) then you can't ignore the fact that norse to celt to irish and Scottish etc etc all worse dreads throughout history..
but even though many dread for beautiful spiritual or religious reasons ...hair tangles..its what it does
is it appropriation everytime a breeze blows and puts a knot in your hair?
i met someone once who was the lone survivor of a small plane crash, at 13 and survived on her own in the mountains 3 years before being found.. was her dreads cultural appropriation (she was white) when they were the result of simple survival?
my own dreads were the result of weeks of silent meditation.. never once had race crossed my mind .. what did however was my culture of choice the rainbow nation
since this is getting long.. did you intentionally mimic another culture in a way that mocks it?
did you "buy into" a cultural expression that in any way cheapens it or makes it less meaningful?
were you trying to harm anyone in your own personal choices to dread?
if no don't worry about a thing they are just racists finding another reason for hating a race.
every last 1 who ever brought up cultural appropriation soon after used racist terms against white men and used the 'white devil' thing
are you a white devil? a cracker a honkey or are you simply a human being with dreads
i like them they aren't thin at the roots they are thick at the tips
you said you used lock peppa/ why and for how long
its basicly dirt (study the ingredients and you gotta laugh sand rosin (tree sap that would count as 'organic material" and even a herbicide in case some seeds take root) it only creates grittiness not knottiness
its kinda possible you still have a bunch in that area if that's about when you stopped
expose him for the asshole he is then... how could you fuck it up, when you already had 1 happen without you doing a thing/ dreading happens while your playing working driving sleeping making love to your new lover .. it happens while your living your life.. it already had.. did you fuck up that 1st 1/ no it just appeared
you can be clumsy, mentally challenges, in a coma, with all 4 limbs missing (and deaf mute and blind) and still not fuck it up
the less work you do on them, to start, and to maintain.. the better they turn out
(separating's the only maintenance recommended anyway)
i'm sure she appreciated the gesture ..you meant well.. you did it for her
but it would have meant more to you both if you both simply let it happen as a celebration of your union
they look very stiff and tight huh (seen worse however) i'd let them hang loose as well instead of tied back.. i would request a refund as well
i forget where you said your from but was it marley studios it looks like their work ..
yea let them be free and try to soften and loosen them up.. crazy part is your hair would dread so easily naturally, its really negligent for them to not even mention that fact to you
i mean you already had a dread that probably formed in just a few days...
the original natural dread...is it still natural or was that crocheted as well?
the original options are still what id recommend except possibly picking at it instead of combing or brushing.. 1 of those afro picks and just pick at the very last lil bit that's knotted and work up...if you choose to start over that is
just loosening them is enough to save them
but still not the best start except that 1 special 1
as soon as you mentioned "professional" my reaction was 'oh no' as you are aware crochets horrible!
now was that 1st natural dread also crocheted? (i mean after it already formed and the 'pro' got his hands on your head)
you already knew dreads can form on their own, ..even without your knowledge of it happening... and that's a special thing that has great meaning (and seems to have lead you to your soulmate) hopefully that 1 special dread was left alone completely and respected for what it was
your dreads are not destroyed only harmed, theres no reason to shave..ever even crocheted dreads can be combed out if you decide you want them all to form naturally
theres no need for that unless you feel the need, true, crochet will drasticly delay dreading and take a long time to recover (if tight..post pics if you can)
but they take a whole lot of crocheting to be totally destroyed.. so JUST NEVER CROCHET OR TRUST A PROFESSIONAL AGAIN
1 if they are very tight a light conditioning can help loosen them and soften them so they recover faster
2 if not too tight just let them be and continue on
3 if you feel strongly enough that it was a huge mistake comb out all but the special natural one ..very gently and carefully with lots of conditioners ..i mean saturate them in olive oil or cheap conditioner and slowly brush or comb them out from the tip up..it will take a long time and because crochet was used you will have handfuls of broken hairs after
additionally i would recommend you talk to that 'pro' and suggest he learn a bit more about dreads before taking peoples money.. especially about how harmful crochet is
i don't think theres a need for concern but can't be certain
i had 1 dread that was 1 mm x 2 mm and that was 3 even tinier dreads combined yet was still 4 feet long before it either disappeared or got sucked into a dread (or maybe its still there and just haven't found it)