Parents cutting my hair?!
Help! Save My Dreads
I am a mom of 5, ranging from 2 to 21. I TOTALLY agree with all of this. I am heavily tattoed and have dreads. My husband is also heavily tattooed with a pretty ridiculous beard. Other parents are always pretty shocked to hear that we have rules and limits, too! (GASP!) I
have been down this road before! Starting very young my older kids were allowed to use their hair, basically the most disposable aspect of your appearance, (shave it off & it grows back!) to express themselves. My daughters had crazy colors and mohawks & blah blah blah... WE just want them to be happy. We drew the line with the holes in the face. We didn't want a 16 year old pin cushion. She did it anyway and they were gross and infected, but she was happy. Ew. Our 9 year old has been dreading for 4 months now and we are keeping that same thing in mind - he can cut them off and his hair will grow back.
If you can have a non-heated conversation, I back up Baba. Explain to them that they make you happy and it's a way to express yourself. also, the thing I'm stressing - IT GROWS BACK AS IF BY MAGIC!!!!! Don't be disrespectful. Take what you can from these conversations.
And, just so you know, my mother hates my dreads and my son's budding, baby dreads.
Baba Fats said:
Parents always want you to be happy. Unfortunately, sometimes they think they know what will make you happy. You have to find that out for yourself.
Let them know how happy your locks make you. Show them pictures of people with neat clean locks from here. Locks don't always look crazy and messy. They tame themselves and mature to look just fine. By law, you can't be not hired nor fired for your locks.
My parents still hate mine, but they know that I like them, and they make me me. So my mom stopped hassling me about them. Granted it took 6+ years. She still doesn't like them, but she finally stopped telling me about it.
There is a great powerpoint slide someone posted a while ago for showing parents how beautiful and clean locks are.
What exactly do they think is unnatural about Baking soda? There are other natural soaps you can use. But I'd like to know what they think about this. It's not unhealthy. It's natural. And it cleans extremely well